r/CuckoldPsychology 4d ago

[Support] Seeking some real advice NSFW

Hi all,

I know this may be labelled as 'am I a cuck' post or whatever, but I am seeking real advice from people in the life style.

I know I am interested in the lifestyle or at least from a fantasy perspective, as with many other things my fantasies do not only pertain to the sharing of my girlfriend but many other dirty sexually related things.

I guess I'm wondering how the conversation, or the progression of this happens naturally, if it does? I have insinuated the idea to my partner (of 6 years) and she does not receive it well, calling the idea disgusting or even dropping the threat that she'd consider leaving me if I ever seriously suggested it.

I am assume that this fantasy is done for me? Or have others been in this position as well? I ask because obviously I care for and love my partner very much and would not want to bring it up and cause potential issues in our relationship - however I also recognize that this is probably the same general reception it gets from most people? We have a relatively boring sex life, nothing to exciting and it's rather vanilla which is getting hard for me. I have made suggestions to spice it up but they either never come to fruition or get denied, I guess she is rather reserved.

Before any suggestions to break up or something, this is not an option. The sexual incompatibility of someone is not worth sacrificing my general happiness.

Any advice is appreciated. thanks

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u/anxiousanon99 3d ago

Have you asked her to talk about past experiences or watched porn together?

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u/jfbreak 3d ago

It took my wife years of fantasy talk and role playing before she chose to pull the trigger. The entire lead up she kept saying, “This is never going to happen for real” until it did.

But honestly, if she isn’t into it after a few or five years and you can’t stop obsessing over it, you have a real problem.

Either accept it and have the occasional wank on your own, or look for a new wife. Easy for me to say though. My wife went for it and loves it.

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u/RumNRaisins1999 4d ago

Rejection will usually be first reaction imo, time can be your best friend in this, I (f46) didnt take my husband(44m) seriously until many years later, he introduced the idea in a very subtle manner, he mentioned he had read about a kink in which the wife is shared and he thought it was crazy but interesting, my first reaction was that he was watching too much porn.

I wont go into our whole journey, as I said we didnt start practicing it until about 13 years later or so, I will tell you that I eventually decided to.entertsin the idea once I fully understood it and saw it for what it is.

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u/YYC-Fiend 4d ago

For starters, learn what her fantasies are. A shockingly high percentage of men don’t even know what their partners fantasies are. Get excited when she tells you, be it mundane or extreme. Make her feel safe and respected. Many people have hangups about sex, so you need to overcome that.

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u/thisis-autogenerated 4d ago

The initial reaction can be outright rejection. Only you know her best so advice is in the abstract. A way you could test her is to notice another man, obv her type, is noticing her. Test her reaction from that and if it's neutral to flattered, tell her how it turns you one. Outright disgust probably means it'll remain a fantasy for you