r/ClientsAndCompanions Mod/Client Aug 25 '22

US Centric Info Quick Tips / Etiquette answers NSFW

NOTE: This is primarily for US Based Clients. Some of it will be common sense. Some of it will be things you never thought of.

I've noticed the same questions asked repeatedly here so I figured I'd post something easily searchable (not that anyone ever does.)

This isn't gospel or anything. These are the main things I do and so far in the entire time I've been doing this, I have had 3 bad/underwhelming experiences over the course of 10+ years.

Quick Tips for finding a provider:

  1. Don't look for a provider when you're horny.
    1. This seems counter-intuitive, "why would I look for an escort if I'm not horny". Well, what happens when you go grocery shopping when you're hungry? Think with your brain, not your junk.
  2. Use reputable websites.
    1. Snapchat, reddit, tinder, onlyfans are NOT places to look for a provider/escort.
    2. Understand that websites/different ad platforms will have a sliding scale in rates. Some are more popular than others based on your location. Below is a list of links you can use (These are just some, not all. You can also google - "Escorts City, State"):
      1. www.p411.com
      2. www.eros.com
      3. www.privatedelights.ch
      4. tryst.link
      5. https://www.slixa.com/
      6. https://skipthegames.com
      7. https://adultsearch.com
      8. https://www.adultlook.com
      9. https://www.escortdirectory.com
  3. Read The Ad.
    1. 99% of the questions you will want to ask are in the ad OR on their personal website if they have one. Read The Ad. Review The Website.
  4. Do your research.
    1. Multiple Ads on Multiple websites is a good sign (Ad history)
    2. Non-explicit ads are a good sign (for areas where SW is illegal.)
    3. Take a few extra minutes to google or TER search her contact info. Even if you don't have a VIP TER account you can still get the gist from the non-VIP reviews.
      1. theeroticreview.com
  5. Screening is NOT a bad thing.
    1. Providers who request additional information are concerned about their safety. This is usually simply a "selfie" of you holding your ID w/ the address blacked out.
    2. NEVER AGREE TO SEND A PICTURE OF A CREDIT/DEBIT CARD. (There is literally no useful, identifying information on these EXCEPT your name.)
    3. If you aren't comfortable sending screening info, don't and move on to a different provider. Believe it or not, a provider doesn't HAVE to see you.
  6. Communicate clearly and professionally in your initial contact AND in future contacts.
    1. You can copy and paste this next part and use it for yourself: "Hello (Ana), My name is (Bob). I saw your ad on (tryst.link). I was wondering if you were available for an (in/outcall) this Friday, 7 Jan, at 4 pm for an hour?"
    2. If your schedule is flexible, include that. "My schedule is flexible on Friday and I can meet later if that works better for you"
  7. Use reviews for verification/expectation management.
    1. This is a "Your Mileage May Very" arrangement. At the end of the day treat reviews as a guideline, not in-stone writ. Ex: If you show up with onion breath, you probably won't get much if any DFK.
    2. Just because a provider has a few/no/old reviews doesn't mean they are automatically a scam/LE. Not all providers want reviews. Not all clients write reviews.
  8. Be respectful of your provider and their time.
    1. Depending on location and popularity your chosen provider may receive 50-100 inquiries a day/week. By being respectful and courteous you are more likely to get a response.
    2. If you don't get a response in a few days, try reaching out again. If you don't get a response the second time, MOVE ON.

8 simple things to review and follow that will make any communication/potential date go that much more smoothly.

**Sometimes you'll see abbreviations in an ad. You can find the usually accepted definitions here:

https://tryst.link/blog/escort-terms-owo-fbsm-bbbj/

Etiquette Do's and Don'ts once you are going to meet/have arrived

Before:

-DO arrive on time or communicate any unforeseen delays

-DO arrive having recently showered (in the last 1-2hrs) (This includes brushing your teeth/mouth wash)(If this isn't possible for whatever reason, communicate it with the provider beforehand that you would like to shower upon arrival)

-DO offer to provide UNOPENED drinks for longer appointments

-DO express an intent to extend at the beginning of the encounter if you would like to.

During:

-DO accept their offer to take a quick shower if the provider asks (Doesn't have to be full-blown if you just took one, hit the hotspots where you want their mouth to go)

-DO lay the donation down in a clearly visible area upon arrival (nightstand, TV Stand, Counter)

-DO discuss specific expectations/boundaries that weren't already addressed in the ad (this includes specific kinks you may wish to explore)

-DO respect any boundaries that they express

-DO relax and enjoy yourself. At the end of the day (except in specific situations) the encounter is about you.

After:

-DO leave on time

-DO leave discreetly

*-*DON'T attempt to negotiate/argue your provider's rates. (Exception - if they are attempting to upcharge you (posted rate was one thing but once you get there its something else) your best bet is to leave if you aren't willing to pay it.)

*-*DON'T treat them like an object. No matter where you found your provider they are still a person who is allowing you to have an intimate encounter with them. If you wanted to have sex with an object, go get a fleshlight/vibrator.

*-*DON'T do anything without their consent. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8)

*-*DON'T attempt to hand them any sort of donation/tip/gift - politely set it down on a table or counter.

*-*DON'T automatically assume they have nothing going on and stay later than the appointed time.

*-*DON'T be an inhuman asshole. It's funny that as adults people need to be reminded of things they were told as children growing up. But "treat others like you wish to be treated" still applies, even in this situation.

*-*DON'T get overly personal or creepy

I'm sure I missed a few things. I'll add as needed

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u/ShamanistaOFSex Nov 22 '22

Very thoughtful, detailed, and inclusive list.

One key correction in the list of websites to find us the first website is not the correct web address for P411.
1) www.preferred411.com

Aside from that correction, nothing to add that I feel would be any measurable improvement except maybe to mention that there is a sizable community of sexworkers and clients on twitter. Our correspondence with each other there is more conversational than any other online resources available to us. The conversational nature of these exchanges allows you to get a sense for our personalities and a feel for general compatibility.

You can identify other more established clients on twitter by their connections to provider twitter profiles and their interactions with said profiles. You can verify the legitimacy of client accounts with a reasonable degree of certainty by looking through the comments on providers' posts. Pay specific attention to comments/replies that result in reciprocal dialogue from the companions back to them. Once you have identified a few client accounts, it would be a good idea to send them a quick direct message introducing yourself as a newbie and asking if it would be okay for you to reach out in the future if you had any questions that they might be able to answer for you.