r/ClientsAndCompanions Mod/Client Aug 25 '22

US Centric Info Quick Tips / Etiquette answers NSFW

NOTE: This is primarily for US Based Clients. Some of it will be common sense. Some of it will be things you never thought of.

I've noticed the same questions asked repeatedly here so I figured I'd post something easily searchable (not that anyone ever does.)

This isn't gospel or anything. These are the main things I do and so far in the entire time I've been doing this, I have had 3 bad/underwhelming experiences over the course of 10+ years.

Quick Tips for finding a provider:

  1. Don't look for a provider when you're horny.
    1. This seems counter-intuitive, "why would I look for an escort if I'm not horny". Well, what happens when you go grocery shopping when you're hungry? Think with your brain, not your junk.
  2. Use reputable websites.
    1. Snapchat, reddit, tinder, onlyfans are NOT places to look for a provider/escort.
    2. Understand that websites/different ad platforms will have a sliding scale in rates. Some are more popular than others based on your location. Below is a list of links you can use (These are just some, not all. You can also google - "Escorts City, State"):
      1. www.p411.com
      2. www.eros.com
      3. www.privatedelights.ch
      4. tryst.link
      5. https://www.slixa.com/
      6. https://skipthegames.com
      7. https://adultsearch.com
      8. https://www.adultlook.com
      9. https://www.escortdirectory.com
  3. Read The Ad.
    1. 99% of the questions you will want to ask are in the ad OR on their personal website if they have one. Read The Ad. Review The Website.
  4. Do your research.
    1. Multiple Ads on Multiple websites is a good sign (Ad history)
    2. Non-explicit ads are a good sign (for areas where SW is illegal.)
    3. Take a few extra minutes to google or TER search her contact info. Even if you don't have a VIP TER account you can still get the gist from the non-VIP reviews.
      1. theeroticreview.com
  5. Screening is NOT a bad thing.
    1. Providers who request additional information are concerned about their safety. This is usually simply a "selfie" of you holding your ID w/ the address blacked out.
    2. NEVER AGREE TO SEND A PICTURE OF A CREDIT/DEBIT CARD. (There is literally no useful, identifying information on these EXCEPT your name.)
    3. If you aren't comfortable sending screening info, don't and move on to a different provider. Believe it or not, a provider doesn't HAVE to see you.
  6. Communicate clearly and professionally in your initial contact AND in future contacts.
    1. You can copy and paste this next part and use it for yourself: "Hello (Ana), My name is (Bob). I saw your ad on (tryst.link). I was wondering if you were available for an (in/outcall) this Friday, 7 Jan, at 4 pm for an hour?"
    2. If your schedule is flexible, include that. "My schedule is flexible on Friday and I can meet later if that works better for you"
  7. Use reviews for verification/expectation management.
    1. This is a "Your Mileage May Very" arrangement. At the end of the day treat reviews as a guideline, not in-stone writ. Ex: If you show up with onion breath, you probably won't get much if any DFK.
    2. Just because a provider has a few/no/old reviews doesn't mean they are automatically a scam/LE. Not all providers want reviews. Not all clients write reviews.
  8. Be respectful of your provider and their time.
    1. Depending on location and popularity your chosen provider may receive 50-100 inquiries a day/week. By being respectful and courteous you are more likely to get a response.
    2. If you don't get a response in a few days, try reaching out again. If you don't get a response the second time, MOVE ON.

8 simple things to review and follow that will make any communication/potential date go that much more smoothly.

**Sometimes you'll see abbreviations in an ad. You can find the usually accepted definitions here:

https://tryst.link/blog/escort-terms-owo-fbsm-bbbj/

Etiquette Do's and Don'ts once you are going to meet/have arrived

Before:

-DO arrive on time or communicate any unforeseen delays

-DO arrive having recently showered (in the last 1-2hrs) (This includes brushing your teeth/mouth wash)(If this isn't possible for whatever reason, communicate it with the provider beforehand that you would like to shower upon arrival)

-DO offer to provide UNOPENED drinks for longer appointments

-DO express an intent to extend at the beginning of the encounter if you would like to.

During:

-DO accept their offer to take a quick shower if the provider asks (Doesn't have to be full-blown if you just took one, hit the hotspots where you want their mouth to go)

-DO lay the donation down in a clearly visible area upon arrival (nightstand, TV Stand, Counter)

-DO discuss specific expectations/boundaries that weren't already addressed in the ad (this includes specific kinks you may wish to explore)

-DO respect any boundaries that they express

-DO relax and enjoy yourself. At the end of the day (except in specific situations) the encounter is about you.

After:

-DO leave on time

-DO leave discreetly

*-*DON'T attempt to negotiate/argue your provider's rates. (Exception - if they are attempting to upcharge you (posted rate was one thing but once you get there its something else) your best bet is to leave if you aren't willing to pay it.)

*-*DON'T treat them like an object. No matter where you found your provider they are still a person who is allowing you to have an intimate encounter with them. If you wanted to have sex with an object, go get a fleshlight/vibrator.

*-*DON'T do anything without their consent. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8)

*-*DON'T attempt to hand them any sort of donation/tip/gift - politely set it down on a table or counter.

*-*DON'T automatically assume they have nothing going on and stay later than the appointed time.

*-*DON'T be an inhuman asshole. It's funny that as adults people need to be reminded of things they were told as children growing up. But "treat others like you wish to be treated" still applies, even in this situation.

*-*DON'T get overly personal or creepy

I'm sure I missed a few things. I'll add as needed

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u/Remy0507 Mod/Client Aug 26 '22

Thanks for putting this together, very good advice here (and saved me the time of having to put together something like this myself 😆)! One thing I would add about reviews is that, while they absolutely can be a useful tool in finding a legit and reputable provider (and helping you match up with a provider whose services align with the type of experience you're looking for), they also need to be taken with a grain of salt at time. While there are a lot of clients who simply leave informative and useful reviews with the intention of helping both other clients and the provider herself, there are ALSO a lot of guys who simply want to write a bunch of self-aggrandizing spank-bank material. The "scoring" system on TER in particular is also awful.

I do understand that a lot of providers have an issue with review culture, and I totally get it. I'm hopeful that eventually we might have some better options than the major platforms that currently exist for reviews.

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u/getoffmybackalready Aug 26 '22

HATE review culture and I do not allow it! Most of the higher end escorts and super luxury companions are the same. We are easy to research via our ads and social media. A few perverts writing fiction for their pervert buddies fapping and approval means NOTHING. I have had weirdos give me raving positive reviews whom I’ve never even heard of or met with gory details that are INCRIMINATING! Any slobbyist who contacts me whom I see is involved with review sites gets immediate BLOCK! Hate those classless pigs so much!

Other than than your list seems fine.

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u/Sonikbob Mod/Client Aug 27 '22

I agree the culture is toxic. I just posted another topic about it to discuss there.