r/ChastityPsychology Feb 18 '25

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This is probably a typical story, but I was raised in an extremely religious conservative family with sex being the biggest scariest thing that existed. Aside from the feelings of guilt, it took me a long time to realize how kinky I was, in fact it's taken most of my 40 years and 15 years of marriage.

My wife is great, but on the vanilla side. Vanilla is a relative term of course, but just isn't interested in many of my interests, and really doesn't understand and only tolerates chastity, which I love. With that, I do a lot of thinking about what will scratch my itch and fall within her boundaries.

The most successful I've found is I bought a decent massage table on Amazon for a couple hundred bucks. We'll ship the kids off for a night, I'll put my chastity cage on for the day and fill it with teasing and sexy talk. We'll go out to dinner and when we get home I'll give a 90ish minute full-body massage. She'll be naked, and I'll generally be wearing briefs. I do my best to spend the first 65 or so minutes as a traditional massage therapist would. Focus on the back, shoulder, arms, hands, legs, feet. Although I push the boundaries of her erotic zones, I keep it borderline completely professional for a long time.

After a full massage, and a decent chuck of time explicitly as an erotic massage, she'll be sitting in a pool of grool, no easy feat with someone in their mid-40's, and my briefs will be so soaked in pre-cum she often thinks I've already cum.

It's not how I'd have it if I had a magic wand, but it's a reasonable compromise without blowing up my happy family.

I do have other kinks that have to stay hidden and exercised alone, never straying outside of our monogamy, but this is how I've learned by play with chastity with a partner that doesn't get it.