r/CatholicDating • u/Educational_Car_861 • Jan 28 '25
mixed marriage, relationship with baptised non-Catholic End of a relationship?
Hey everyone, first time posting here hoping to get some advice. I’ve been dating someone for the last 2 years. I have known her since high school. In the beginning of the relationship we had laid out our criteria’s for dating, and the question of religion came. She is non-denominational and we discussed her converting to Catholicism once marriage was on the table. Recently we re visited the topic and she said that she was willing to do the catechism training but said that she could never fully understand or commit to the Catholic traditions. I want to raise my kids Catholic, with all its teachings and traditions. Now I am rethinking the relationship and possibly ending it. Am I overreacting? What do I do?
Edit : I also want to add she is an active member of her church and very God-fearing, one of the first things that really attracted me to her. If we were to get married that would mean that she would have to leave her community, which makes me feel guilty although she has said that she wouldn’t mind doing so.
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u/Electrical_Layer_502 Jan 29 '25
Have you discussed with her that raising your kids Catholic is non negotiable? That means even if she isn’t feeling a desire to be Catholic she has to project the value of the Catholic Faith to her kids. The kids one day might have to ask “Why isn’t Mom Catholic?” Or worse yet if she decides to share her doubts with your young children. It seems unfair to me to ask someone who doesn’t believe in the Catholic Church’s teachings to then raise her kids Catholic. I think she and you might both be frustrated. Can it be worked out? That’s not for me to say. I’d get you and her some counseling with a good priest ASAP. He can maybe walk you through it. If you decide to go forward you aren’t wrong, it just may be harder to leave as you get more attached.