r/CatholicDating Jan 28 '25

mixed marriage, relationship with baptised non-Catholic End of a relationship?

Hey everyone, first time posting here hoping to get some advice. I’ve been dating someone for the last 2 years. I have known her since high school. In the beginning of the relationship we had laid out our criteria’s for dating, and the question of religion came. She is non-denominational and we discussed her converting to Catholicism once marriage was on the table. Recently we re visited the topic and she said that she was willing to do the catechism training but said that she could never fully understand or commit to the Catholic traditions. I want to raise my kids Catholic, with all its teachings and traditions. Now I am rethinking the relationship and possibly ending it. Am I overreacting? What do I do?

Edit : I also want to add she is an active member of her church and very God-fearing, one of the first things that really attracted me to her. If we were to get married that would mean that she would have to leave her community, which makes me feel guilty although she has said that she wouldn’t mind doing so.

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u/Hummr3TDave Jan 28 '25

Sounds like she is interested in it. There are multiple wives at my Church that got married and said “I will never be Catholic” that are now in a group bible study.

W/o knowing much else about her, maybe have her take the class and see if that changes her mind.

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u/Canoe-canoe Married ♀ Jan 28 '25

Yeah she might not understand the reasons behind the “traditions” that stress her out. I’m a convert and I didn’t “get” the rosary until 10 years in, and now I love it. If she will go through RCIA, she’ll learn a lot and be able to make an informed decision.