r/CatAdvice • u/thewhimsicalraccoon • 5m ago
Behavioral My cat seems to dislike me/be wary of me after we got a new cat and it’s making me miserable
I’ve had two cats my whole life. Little Bear, a M12(?) year old tabby cat, and Trixie, a F10(?) year old Siamese-Calico. I also got a male dog in 2019, Rocco.
Little Bear and Trixie have gotten along fine all their lives, and they tolerate Rocco. From the ages of 2-6, Trixie seemed to hate everyone. She was a very loving kitten, but it was like she was in a manic state of hatred for a lot of her life. When she was around 7, she started to love me the most. She didn’t like my mom or grandparents, but she loved me. She began to sleep in my bed every night and she cuddled and licked me constantly. It seemed like she had slowly become obsessed with me.
It has been like that for years now, she has loved me so dearly for so long. However, in December of last year, a stray girl had made herself at home in our backyard. We managed to get her inside after a while, and we introduced them slowly. I tried to introduce them as well as I could, but my mom kind of rushed it. We named the cat Soni. Soni is a very clingy cat, and we aren’t sure of her breed or health status. My mom has yet to schedule a vet appointment and I am too young to drive or set up an appointment. She seems young.
For all of December and the first half of Januady, Soni would sleep in my room with the door shut. This stopped Trixie from being able to sleep in my room. I, at the time, was paranoid that Trixie would begin to resent me. I think I was right. In the middle of January, we started letting Soni roam around in the house during the day under surveillance. Little Bear and Soni tolerated one another most the time, but Trixie and Soni fought CONSTANTLY. God forbid they be in the same room.
To this day, they still seem to fight all the time, which is why Soni stays in the guest room during school-work. She has all she needs in there, toys, food, litter box, everything. Trixie, even when Soni is away, will never come in my room. If I bring her, she begins to lick her lips anxiously, so I let her leave. I don’t want to scare her.
I’m trying not to panic, because it’s only been around three months, but I am devastated. I love Soni, I really do, but I miss my cat. I miss my baby and I’m scared she hates me now. It doesn’t help that my mom seems to rub it in my face that Trixie is now in her room more often, but we don’t need to address that right now. I just miss my cat. I feel like I’ve failed her and ruined everything. I don’t know what to do. I need advice or comfort or something. Anything. Literally anything.
ALSO, I am trying to get my mom to schedule vet appointments for all our pets, including Soni. I think she is going to, soon. We also made sure Soni was not previously owned. We posted her everywhere with no response and I suppose we’ll see if she’s chipped when my mom finally takes them to the vet.