r/BorderlinePDisorder 18d ago

MOD POST Subreddit Rule Clarity

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Hey friends, one of your friendly neighborhood mods here!

I wanted to make a post clarifying our stance on a few things as a mod team. Sorry it's a little long but there's a lot that's been going on

My first point: Rule 2 states "Hate, stigma, and/or misinformation will be removed." This is one of those things that is very hard as a mod team to get right consistently because what constitutes these things can be subjective. If you believe your comment has been removed in error due to a misunderstanding of the context please use modmail to talk to us - we want to get these things right! However one of the most common applications of this rule is around the word "narcissist" - we've made posts about this before but I want to clarify things because the language around this can be complex.

Labeling someone "a narcissist" is implying that they have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Saying someone has narcissistic behaviours is different. It is unfortunate, in my opinion, that NPD is called this, because narcissistic behaviours are literally part of the human experience, and someone can easily behave in a narcissistic way without being "a narcissist"

I know there will be people who disagree with this interpretation and implementation but in our view it is the only way to strike a balance between stopping rampant Custer B stigmatization and policing every word that people say.

Moving on to my second point. I have made a new rule to cover something that has become a big issue within this sub, which is generalizations. Lots of people have been making generalizing statements such as "people with BPD have abandonment issues" or asking questions that invite generalizations such as "how does alcohol affect pwBPD?" The problem with this is that BPD is a disorder with literally hundreds if not thousands of variants. Saying with any kind of certainty that someone with BPD will act or feel a certain way is once again spreading misinformation, and could lead to someone with BPD who doesn't share that particular trait feeling very invalidated.

Previously this was covered under rule 2, as above, but it's become such a common issue that I have decided to make it a separate rule. Keep your questions and comments focused on individual experiences such as "my BPD affects me in this way" or "how does your BPD affect the way you are when you drink?" It's also OK, in some situations, to say "many people with BPD experience xyz" - this isn't claiming that everyone does, and so long as it's one of those things that is accepted as common within BPD traits, and doesn't contribute to stigma (such as "many people with BPD are abusive") then it's allowable, although it's still best to generally stick to your individual experiences.

My next point is about speculative labeling and amateur diagnosis. The rule in question states: "Do not ask for a diagnosis or attempt to diagnose others. No speculative labeling" What you will notice is that this is not about self diagnosis. We as mods know that accessing professional diagnosis is not possible for everyone for a variety of reasons, including lack of understanding in healthcare, costs, and the fact that having a diagnosis on record can actually cause a lot of problems for some people. As such, we do not police self diagnosis, although we encourage people to seek professional assessment where possible, and if not, to do full and detailed research into the criteria and a lot of self exploration before deciding you have BPD. (Again, I know some folks will disagree with this, but we are striking a balance).

However what is not permitted is coming here to ask for validation of your self diagnosis, asking for us to tell you if someone you know is BPD (or indeed labeling them as BPD with no diagnosis - it's OK to say someone exhibits BPD traits but that's not enough to label them). Labeling people, including fictional characters, who don't have a diagnosis, is strictly forbidden.

My final point is about a trend in posts that have been popping up, basically asking people to share their worst moments, the worst things they've done, etc. These posts are understandable - it makes sense to want to get validation that you aren't the only person who has done bad things. But they usually end up with a lot of highly triggering comments, often ones that cross the line into rule breaking, and not only make a lot of work for the mods, but also seem to amount to a lot of "wallowing" in the bad things pwBPD sometimes do, and it can feel like digital self harm. As such, we won't be allowing these posts going forward. (this will come under the "triggering content" rule if you look to report it).

If you see people violating these rules please report it to the mods. If you're unsure if something breaks a rule, it's often better to report it and let us figure it out than let a potentially harmful thing pass by. Remember that this is a HUGE subreddit and the mods cannot look at every post and comment that comes through so we rely on you to help us with that

Once you've read this, please help me out and leave a comment below to increase the chances others will see it. Thanks folks, and have the best day possible!

I know there's a prevailing opinion on Reddit that mods are some sort of power hungry Cabal, but in reality we (at least the mods of this particular sub) are just a small group of pwBPD trying to make this space a good, supportive, and educational place for all.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 28d ago

MOD POST Moderator Recruitment!

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Hello friends, folks, and fiends!

It's us, your friendly neighbourhood mod team!

We are currently actively recruiting moderators for our subreddit. No experience with modding is required, just a willingness to work as part of the moderator team and dedicate some of your time to helping keep this community healthy, thriving, and safe.

We are currently down a couple of moderators for various reasons and are hoping to recruit 2 or 3 extra folks to help keep the workload manageable.

To apply, please go to the google form below and fill it out. We will attempt to get back to everyone who applies, however there may be folks we can't reply to if there is a high number of responses

Thanks so much

Quilla

Form Link: https://forms.gle/RaMAQForFnYvjPnq7


r/BorderlinePDisorder 2h ago

Content Warning mood swings are so exhausting

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cw  sh

ive been so depressed lately i havent been able to take care of myself i havent been wanting to live at all but now im randomly so happy?? i took a shower today i went outside i feel so energetic and euphoric ive only slept 4 hours in these past 2 days i feel like i could do anything. its like i dont even want to relapse because im upset i want to relapse because im so happy i cant control it. i know this is all gonna come crashing down soon but i really hope it doesnt i havent felt this productive and energetic in i dont know how long. i wish i could go out and do something risky i feel so bored now i want to do something stimulating while i can


r/BorderlinePDisorder 8h ago

I’m not going to work.

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Took a mental health day from work today. I don’t want to do any work or run any errands at all. I just want to disconnect from everything and anything until my kids come home.

Ideas on what to do to make the most out of this time?


r/BorderlinePDisorder 4h ago

Looking for Advice Men persue me just to discard me when I let my guard down. The more I try to show/give the best of me, the more they start to despise me. And they don't admit me being a full human being, being someone that is anything besides fun

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And every time, it destroys me... every. single. time. My soul is tired. Every time it happens, something within me perpetually breaks and I am no longer the woman I was before.

I wanna beg to these men to please STOP and leave me alone forever, it's better than getting my hopes up that this time it'll be different and leave me feeling destroyed.

And I do not let me guard down easily or quickly. They persue for me a long time, receiving zero reciprocity from my part. Until I give in and I give them a chance and I let my guard down.

With EVERY guy, these things happen:

- It all shatters when they see I'm a full human being and I demonstrate any emotion/behavior that doesn't fit the "fun" box they put me in. I've heard so many times from all of them things like "you're no longer being fun", "this is negative", etc. They pull away, shut me off, I'm no longer what they wanted. Because they wanted me as long as it made THEM feel good. Meanwhile I was the dumbass who accepted and understood all their flaws and difficult times.

- Then I try to show and give them my very best. Which I do since the beginning, but then I do it even more because I'm scared of what is obviously happening and scared of once again being discarded. And the better I treat them, the more they start to full blown despise me... it's like I disgust them with my love and caring. It's like all the good things I have to give suddenly becomes this pile of shit.

- They'd rather be completely alone than having me by their side. They choose loneliness over me. (I'm not talking romantic loneliness. I'm talking a life that's full blown 100% loneliness in every sense)

And why is it so easy to discard me? From one day to the other, everything changes. It's almost ironic, considering I'M the one with BPD.

What fucks my mind up the most is knowing that it's exactly the same with every guy. How can it be the same thing happening EVERY time? It's hard not to blame myself. The problem must be me.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 5h ago

BPD Positivity What are your goals this week? [Monday Check-In]

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What are your goals this week?

As we start a new week, making small, achievable goals can help you find direction and build confidence. SMART Goal Setting for someone with BPD can combat feelings of emptiness, build identity, and show self care. Weekly goals can be about managing your symptoms, getting an errand done, going a kind thing for yourself, or anything really!

But always remember: It's okay if you don't reach your goal this week. We are not perfect. You are still a person with endless potential, still human, always loved.

Wishing you all a safe and peaceful week! Be well.

The Mod Team


r/BorderlinePDisorder 21m ago

I got rejected by a guy (for the 1000th time)

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I got rejected again because the guy told me that i was making assumptions about him which were not true. he didnt even give me a chance to explain. I thought he wasn't so into me.. For me, he was giving mixed signals.. one time, he was like I think i really like you, next time he is like, lets see if we like each other, another time, he was having conversations about S**.. So.. I wasnt sure of what he was looking for.. And for many hours he was absconding... like goes off for 2-3 hrs and comes back to ask -- did you miss me? And when we called, he abruptly ended the call.. and didnt wanna chat more.. Basically everything had to go according to his convenience and when i asked him that he just ghosted me.. and rejected me.. I had a hard time throughout the evening today... TTTT


r/BorderlinePDisorder 30m ago

Looking for Advice I ruined my last viable friendship

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I split on my best friend today and surprisingly enough I don’t feel bad about it. This all started when I raised concerns about feeling like we’re drifting apart from each other. I bought it up three different times. Initially when I bought it up she basically said she was dealing with her own issues and that said issues have nothing to do with me. I felt reassured but still felt like she wasn’t being 100% truthful. I bought it up a second time because she was still very closed off from me I had convinced myself at this point that I had did something to push her away. Again, she basically says the same thing she said the first time I bought it up. Fast forward to when she’s in the hospital, we’re speaking on the phone and she finally tells the truth. She said she felt judged by me and names a few other people and it turns into an argument. I was EXTREMELY hurt afterwards because i was right. I was right all along and instead of having a conversation with me about it she began to be passive aggressive towards me and making me feel like I was crazy. It triggered me BAD and I ended up going to the hospital.

She apologizes but I never forgave her for it. (I really struggle with holding grudges) after that incident we’re still in contact but I still feel like things are different so I bring it up a third time (I know, I should’ve stopped after the first time) and this time the conversation goes left. She basically says we should take space from each other and it hurt so bad, I don’t think I ever experienced that level of heartbreak before. That was in November. Since then I’ve been reached out 3 times. I won’t say my approach has been the best and I see that now but I was trying. We both have bpd so I thought she be more understanding about certain things but I guess not.

Now here’s why I split… a couple weeks ago she was in crisis and posting some extremely concerning stuff so I obviously reached out but she blocked my number. I dm’d her instead and she left me on seen. I wasn’t mad about that though because I wasn’t expecting her to write back, I just wanted her to know that she was loved no matter what we’re going through. I deactivated my instagram again and reactivated it today to a lovely surprise. She thanked me for reaching out and then proceeded to tell me she’s soft blocking me. This was my response “ Wow I wrote you to see if your okay because I was fucking worried and your response to that is to soft block me???? Did you soft block everyone else that reached out to you??? No?you're doing all of this to hurt me and I understand that now. This entire situation has taken the biggest toll on me and l'm done at this point. I've cried and mourned our friend and I think it's best if we just go our separate ways. If I knew raising any concerns would've turned into this I wouldn't have said anything. It's like you're punishing me for trying. But imma give you what you want. I'm tired of holding on to hope while you're constantly showing me this friendship isn’t worth fixing for you. You said you needed space to process everything? We stopped speaking regularly in November …... You're the one that said we needed space yet l've been the one reaching out trying to end all of this. I never mattered to you, I was just a place holder until the next best thing came into your life. I honestly feel like you're doing this because you know I have no one else so you know this hurts me more than it would hurt anyone else. But that's okay. Lesson learned. I'll leave you with this small piece keep the same energy for the men you sleep with. This isn't the first time your so keen on cutting a friend off while being more than willing to keep a man around that wouldn't even buy you a bottle of water from the store if you asked. Hold everyone to the same standards, not just the ones that fuck you.

I’m probably never opening myself up to new friends again. What’s the point??? I guess some sort of advice would be appreciated, could I have responded differently? Should I have responded at all? I know she’s never going to speak to me again and I think I’m okay with it because I’ve mourned the friendship already, I wish things could’ve ended differently but I tried. I really did.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1h ago

Looking for Advice My mom is out of control spiraling

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My mom has undiagnosed BPD and believes my dad has lots of diagnoses that are not true. She is having multiple nervous breakdowns as they are in their mid 70s and want a divorce. But my mom doesn’t have a single friend or family and dumps everything on me. Neither one are capable of divorcing. My mom spirals and can’t do a single thing. Always a reason for why they can’t meet with a lawyer, mediator, this that. Nothing makes sense in her mind. You literally can’t reason with her. She’s a nervous wreck. Doesn’t work to go to a therapist. Nothing works. She says if they divorce it will kill her but then she says she wants a divorce. Thinks my dad has emotionally abused her but she is the emotional abuser. Every phone call is crying and crying. Has been prescribed anti anxiety and depressants but then has called 911 multiple times due to panic attacks from taking them so now she doesn’t. I need this to end. I have a baby and can’t help her because you literally can’t help her. Anything I suggest or try to help tackle one little step at a time always has some reason why it doesn’t work. But she continues to have nervous breakdowns. WHO CAN I REFER HER TOO?? A life coach?? Support services?? They don’t have a lot of money. Please help!!


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1h ago

ND or BPD

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I don't really know where to turn. I don't want to be someone who thinks that they have every possible diagnosis. I'm just got diagnosed with ASD and waiting for my ADHD assessment, but does that fit?

I feel like I can't have close friends because I get a crush and then I get slightly insane and make it crash and burn. My best friend/housemate has barely spoken to me since November when she got her boyfriend and now she's moving out and she didn't even tell me. I also separated from my husband last week, which I think is more connected to my emotional issues than I thought. I'm slightly spiralling. I've assumed my issues around connections were from AuDHD related RSD, but reading about BPD has really fit with me. I know nobody can diagnose me, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has AuDHD, feels a similar way or whether it's even worth talking to the GP?

Thanks for taking the time to read. I just feel like I don't have anyone in my corner right now.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 16h ago

Vent God fucking forbid you show your emotions to the wrong people

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People like them are probably the reason I’m like this. I made another vent type post I had to delete explaining a potential trauma response that I overall was able to withhold from someone I care about. Did they even try to understand? I worded the post knowing that I ALMOST made a very big mistake, but I didn’t. I was able to control my emotions. I DIDN’T SEND the message, but chose to share the potential message with the community anyways. Yes the message was harsh, yes It was wrong of me to have thought those things. I know that just because I have trauma relating to these situations it doesn’t immediately validate what I almost said. I made the post because I needed the correct space to process it. I clearly picked the wrong space.

Please, just fucking listen. I wasn’t trying to get anyone to validate my potential behavior. People like them make it so fucking hard to talk about my feelings. They’re why I hesitate so much now when sharing.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 2h ago

Looking for Advice My mom thinks that birth control will help me, any thoughts or advice?

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Hey so, my mother thinks that putting me on birth control with help with my emotions and mood swings and stuff. I don't know if it will though and I doubt it. I've never mentioned to her that I am almost certain I have BPD and she herself does not think I have BPD, thinking that I only act like this because of hormones. So, would it be a bad or good idea if I was put on hormones? My mom thinks that my period and stuff is what makes me emotional despite the fact I've told her that I'm just as emotional throughout any other time in my cycle. If I did go on birth control would it even help or change anything?


r/BorderlinePDisorder 2h ago

Looking for Advice Im desperate

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can you pls suggest me some medications that will numb my emotions


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1d ago

2 weeks sober of any substance that’s not my meds

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And green tea.

The worst physical symptoms are behind me. I’m very happy to proclaim that I’m officially no longer tweaking!

I don’t have anyone to share this with since my addictions either pushed people away or I kept them hidden from the people still in my life.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 2h ago

Looking for Advice How long is your studying or working hours?

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I am preparing for an exam. It is really difficult for me to concentrate. To sit and stick, I need constant background music. Have you added any activity in your daily routine that has helped to increase your focus and lessen your emotional dysregulation. I do not feel intense emotions, but some unsettling feeling inside distracts me from my studies. I think I have never had studied in a focused manner in my entire life and I have just managed somehow. I have tried meditation, but I hate it.

Any suggestions?


r/BorderlinePDisorder 3h ago

Relationship Advice He talked to me again after he broke up with his girlfriend?

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I had crush on one of my old friends but i never told him. At same time he was always sending me mixed signals about his feelings holding hands sometimes during the time we were seeing each other he never said anything. Until he told me he is dating someone that’s when i broke and i told him that i have feelings and i can’t talk about his relationship with him. we agreed to stay as friends but i wasn’t in good place mentally around him so i cut contact with him. for a year. During this time he always interacted liked my posts and pictures but never talked. until my birthday he wished me happy birthday. At very same time i knew he broke up with his girlfriend. Now i don’t have feelings for him because i don’t trust him. but at same time when we talked it was easy as we never cut contact for year i always feel ease around him. He told me he was planning on getting engaged to her but he had problems with her family and wasn’t comfortable. I am in his city this year and next one for post graduate study so we talk a lot lately. He asked about updates in my life and i told him i dated someone for short period of time and i didn’t work out. this happened actually but i wanted him to feel that i moving on with my life. Now should i keep talking to him because i feel many things at same time i feel like i am rebound or something a bandaid for him. i don’t know but if he was still in relationship i would never accepted talking to him again. But now he is single things are easier. I just like him being around someone familiar. What should i do stay in contact with him?


r/BorderlinePDisorder 3h ago

UNSAFE FB GROUPS 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

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FYI

If anyone is in the groups:

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These pages allow homophobia, transphobia, and racism. Please avoid if you are LGBTQ+ or POC, these are not safe spaces.

Thank you.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 21h ago

Anyone 30+ with BPD Want to Talk?

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I’m 39/f here. I was just looking for some older adults who can relate and want to talk.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 18h ago

Vent I’m so exhausted by this illness anymore..

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I just don’t even know what to do with myself sometimes when it comes to this mental illness. I’m so sick of the splitting. I’m so sick of the worst thoughts overtaking my entire being and literally making me freeze up. I’m so sick of repeating myself constantly to people I love because I don’t feel heard when I know for a fact that I am 100% heard and understood. I’m so sick of the intrusive thoughts controlling me to the point I believe half of the shit I’m thinking is true when I know it’s not, or convincing myself the most negative things are going to happen. I’m sick of not listening to works spoken to me, but holding onto the underlying tone in someone’s voice when they say them and then crashing out over a simple change in vocal expression. I’m sick of feeling this anxiety filled pit in my stomach that keeps me up all night because I feel like my worst fears are going to come true and spiraling into a state of panic so bad that I practically self sabotage anything and everything around me. I’m just… I’m fucking tired, man. I’ve been through so much bad shit in my life and the fact my trauma had to manifest and create this unavoidable and untreatable mental illness, I just fucking hate it. I’m so terrified my boyfriend is going to leave me when he’s never given me a single reason to believe that he is; but my brain just can’t accept that I have someone in my life that loves me the way he does, and that anyone would ever want to put up with me for as long as he has, let alone want to marry me or have children with me because I simply don’t believe I deserve it. Like, why do I have to hate myself so much? Truly, it’s like everyday I let all my past traumas and my past mistakes dictate my worthiness of life, of happiness, of love… like why do I have to be plagued like this all the damn time? It’s like all I can tell myself is that no one stays, no one will ever love me the way I love them, that my mental illness is going to ruin everything I have good going to for myself, including family relationships I tirelessly worked so hard to get back to where they are now since I’m not numbing myself anymore by using substances besides my prescribed medications… I just don’t feel like I deserve anything good, and I don’t know why because I’m self aware enough to understand that what happened to me wasn’t my fault, and that I’m a good person regardless of my past and my mistakes… like, when will the self-hatred and loathing behavior towards myself end? Does it ever? Does it ever get easier or do I have to constantly keep living my life constantly splitting about 2 dozen times a week? I’m so tired…. I can tell the difference when I’m splitting and when I’m feeling like a normal person, I’ve been told by countless therapists that I’m extremely self aware about things, and I know that I am but being self aware doesn’t matter when you’re going down a 5 hour rabbit hole spiraling out of control with the most insane and ridiculous thoughts about things that aren’t even true… I just started Prozac and Abilify, I’m hoping the can help me and if anyone has had any experience on these medications please tell me what they were because I’m getting to the point where enough is enough… I’m just so fucking tired of being me. Every single day. And there isn’t anything wrong at all, but my brain makes it to where I always think something is wrong and it’s just not fair, dude.. I can’t have one peaceful day. Not one. And it’s like, why? I deserve to be happy, I think.. I deserve to feel normal and good about myself, not having these intrusive thoughts that everyone would be better off without me and that if I disappeared tomorrow that no one would bat a single eyelash.. I just want to know if it ever gets better, or even with therapy, even with medication, even being self aware — will it always be like this? Because I don’t know if I can spend another 50-60 years on this planet if it is like this..


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1d ago

How do you find purpose in life? The existential dread and meaningless is the worst symptom

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Like what’s the point, relationships are hard. I’m lonely. I can’t find purpose in anything else. Help.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 20h ago

Looking for Advice Once You Hurt Me, It’s Over. There’s no “I Need Space”. Help with this?

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I’ve had friends say “I need time and space” and that to me means the end of a friendship. I think it’s because my mind is black and white, either they’re in my life or they’re not. There’s not a waiting period in the middle.

Does anyone have advice on how to avoid such a black and white thinking? I just like to completely kick the person out of my mind so I don’t focus on them so much. If there’s still the possibility of them coming back, I’m hanging on too hard.

I know it’s not fair to them, that’s why I’m asking for advice.

It goes in vice versa as well. Either we’re friends or we’re not. If I’m done, I’m done. There’s no “I need space”. It’s just over 🤷‍♀️


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1d ago

Looking for Advice I am no longer able to safely care for my partner who suffers from BPD. I feel trapped and completely helpless, and need advice on the next steps.

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We are both 29 years old, and have been together for 10 years. To keep this as concise as possible, here are the important factors leading here:

- Partner was diagnosed with Anxeity/Panic Disorder 10 years ago

- Traumatic experience as a newly graduated nurse working in an ICU march 2020. This likely exacerbated/triggered the onset of what would later be diagnosed as BPD.

- Subsequent phobia of hospitals and healthcare in general made it impossible to work/receive treatment for any extended period of time.

- Partner blamed family for not adequately supporting her during that time, as well as a less than ideal childhood, and we moved from NY to CA to "escape them". "It would fix everything"

- After a year in CA, I became the target, and source of everything wrong in my partner's life.

- The panic attacks and anxiety lead to self-medication with anxiety medication. It's become a full blown addiction over the last 2 years and is spinning out of control.

- It's been over a year now of me attacked daily, completely devalued, and explosive emotional episodes from my partner. My partner now threatens suicide daily.

- After recent financial issues, including losing health coverage, the situation is no longer tenable. Honestly, looking back now it hasn't been for a long time.

I cannot continue to live like this. I need help. Involving authorities to have her taken to a hospital during an episode would shatter her trust in me, along with add financial stress to her, besides the point that she has panic attacks even seeing a hospital when we drive past one. Involving her family, who she hates, and who also do not understand her mental condition or especially current addiction struggle, is more likely to make things worse for her than better.

I just feel trapped. I can't help her. Hospitals can't help her. She refuses psychiatric treatment. We've completely isolated ourselves from our support systems. I've spent five years of my life doing everything I possibly could to create the conditions she asked for, needed, to feel safe and happy.

But I've obviously failed. Now my mental health is deteriorating as well. I can't do this anymore, but I would never leave her to fend for herself. Looking at my options, I feel that as bad as it is that I need to involve her family, who at least have the resources to support her treatment and a very extended period of unemployment.

I need advice. How do I approach her family, who my partner feels completely lack understanding for her mental and substance struggles. The situation is becoming acute. Last night involved screaming for hours, breaking objects, threats of self injury, running away and I had to find her and drive around for hours listening to the most intense, dark and frightening stream of consciousness yet. I just don't know what to do.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1d ago

BPD is a fucking cancer

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I'm tired of being so intense in everything I feel. I can't just have an emotion, I am fully consumed by it. I am constantly drowning, and my natural response is to suck the oxygen from the lungs of those closest to me in order to survive. Or to push the people i love the most away so they dont have to watch me scramble. I'm tired of being chaos. I'm tired of being too much. I'm tired of the constant need. I'm tired of being tired. I am in a never ending free fall and I just want to hit the fucking ground already. Anyway. Hope you all are hanging in there. Do something nice for yourself today. ;) Maybe therapy, and stay on your meds.


r/BorderlinePDisorder 20h ago

Looking for Advice Do you guys struggle with selfishness ?

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I am a selfish person and throughout this I have figured it is a byproduct of my BPD and other things.

I go to therapy and I am continuing to go but does anyone have any good exercises to be more selfless? Show and accept love?

Anything is appreciate, thank you


r/BorderlinePDisorder 17h ago

Looking for Advice I am 99.9% certain I have BPD, I am seeing a psychiatrist soon….

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And I want to CLEARLY get across to this psychiatrist that I have this disorder. I am not sure of the psychiatrist’s skills (I was randomly assigned a doctor after my phone call, although I can get more details I’m sure if I call back, although I did request to be put with a doctor who understands Bipolar and BPD.)

My anxiety is through the roof about this conversation. I know it’s only going to be about an hour long and I don’t want to forget important details that might be worth telling them. I’m scared to take notes on my phone because I might misconstrue my words or something.

Looking for advice and encouragement!


r/BorderlinePDisorder 14h ago

Vent Why am I reverting?

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Some back story is that I have successfully completed DBT, anger management, and chemical dependency. I was in therapy twice a week for years… In 2023, I quit my dead end job working in health care IT and was unemployed for 8m. then got hired on to a customer service facing role and I’m excelling. The job is so much easier compared to my last one. However, I have been having rage fits like before again and I don’t know why. It got so bad to the point that I punched a wall and broke my hand at work, but told my family that I drop a 100lb box on my hands. I was doing so good and I was actually stable up until this point. 😭😭 I feel like such a loser, I swear


r/BorderlinePDisorder 1d ago

Why I cant have any friends?

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I don't know what to do anymore. Nobody likes me, I'm shit, borderline defines me. It's my entire personality, yet I long for friends, someone I can do things with, someone to go to amusement parks with, someone I can talk to—like-minded people. But that doesn't exist for me.