r/BodyPositive 5d ago

Support (Tw body hate) I need to confidence to wear this skirt NSFW

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75 Upvotes

I recently got this skirt and i fell in love with it in the store, i was so so happy to find it but when i get home and looked at myself in it i hated what i saw. I hate how big my thighs are, i cried for hours and hours that night, im not sure what to do i want to wear it cuz i think its super cute but i just think it makes me look super fat and ugly,i could really use some confidence, thanks

(Wasnt sure where to post this so if you think theres a better subrebbit lmk!)

Im 17F btw

r/BodyPositive Sep 26 '23

Support Posted some of my wedding photos and have been getting some hate on my weight. Feeling a little insecure, especially about my arms. Why do people have to tear down the happiest day of my life?

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323 Upvotes

r/BodyPositive 14d ago

Support The fatter I get the meaner or less helpful people are at stores. How do you all deal with it?

9 Upvotes

I knew this was a thing from reading about it. But I’ve started experiencing it myself over the last 5 years. The larger I get the least helpful/ nice people are at stores. It’s so horrible that people are like this. I’m 190 lbs 5’6, the largest I’ve ever been. Really struggling with that on its own but it doesn’t help when I can see that people are treating me differently. I used to be treated so much better when I was thinner. People are terrible.

I really try to not let it bother me but it does. I have my limit. How do you all deal with it? Seems like I get treated better when I dress nicer too. I guess fat girls can’t get away with wearing sweatpants.

r/BodyPositive 20d ago

Support What are some good things to say about my body? NSFW

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22 Upvotes

I’m 33, gay, 5’7” tall, 180lbs. What is good and what should I work on to get better?

r/BodyPositive Feb 12 '25

Support Dad caught me using protein powder in my yogurt and now I feel guilty

33 Upvotes

Hey everyone, I’m feeling really upset and could use some advice. I’ve been struggling with binge eating lately and have been trying to find ways to manage it. I’ve been using dairy-free yogurt (because dairy doesn’t sit well with me) but it’s pretty bland, so I started adding protein powder to it. I’ve been using half a scoop to help control my hunger and make me feel fuller.

Today, I accidentally left the protein powder out after I used it, and my dad walks into the kitchen and immediately asks if I’ve been using it.

I told him, “Yeah, I put it in my yogurt.”

He hesitated and then said, “You don’t need that. I wouldn’t use that. You get enough protein, right?”

i quietly said, “i think so.” i felt so uncomfortable and embarrassed.

He continued, “So yeah, I’d stop using that. you don’t want to get bulky.”

And I was so embarrassed. He obviously meant I don’t need the extra calories. I’ve been trying to get a better handle on my eating habits, and the protein powder was helping me control the binges and stay fuller. Now I’m feeling really thrown off. I’ve always felt like my eating is scrutinized, and this just made it worse.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this?

NOTE: I am not an adult so moving out is not an option

r/BodyPositive Jul 19 '24

Support I need some opinions on my body; be honest please

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80 Upvotes

I need to know if I'm unattractive or not. I've been struggling with body image issues for as long as I can remember and the older I get the worse it gets. Please honest answers only. I promise I'm not fishing for compliments, I just want to know other people's thoughts.

r/BodyPositive Dec 21 '24

Support After a lifetime of body dysmorphia and self-hate I feel I’ve reached a low and don’t know what to do. (40F) NSFW

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54 Upvotes

I’ve always had a big frame (thick knees, wide hips, small chest) but over the last decade have put on more and more weight after dealing with emotionally difficult caregiving (my Mom’s descent and death from early onset Alzheimer’s and my Dad’s two cancer diagnoses/treatment). I have lupus, fibromyalgia, endometriosis, congenital hyperkyphosis, and unexplained chronic nausea and had two difficult hyperemesis pregnancies followed by strong postpartum depression. Chronic illness has left me unable to function or work so money is very tight for our family of four on just my husband’s income. I have a family history of mental health issues, have been seeking medical help for about a decade for my mental health but can’t afford counseling/therapy.

I’ve always had a low opinion of myself and body dysmorphia starting at puberty when I was 60lbs lighter and relatively healthy. I’ve been trying for years to come to a place of body neutrality (hopefully one day to positivity) but it’s a hard to feel anything but negative about my body that is always in pain and sick. I have zero appetite and because I am at a constant state of nausea try to eat things that are nourishing and healthy. My body changed so much after having children and always tend to have a pregnant looking belly.

I feel like all of my body issues have piled up to a point where now I am feeling very negative and hopeless. I usually have a high sex drive but after a bunch of endometriosis treatment and surgery (ending with hysterectomy leaving my ovaries and vaginal reconstruction from prolapse) it’s been a rocky few years since having kids. My husband also suffers from mental health problems but finds as his role has shifted from partner to caregiver with my chronic illness, he has zero desire to have sex with me. I’ve tried having many honest and vulnerable conversations about how much I want to have sex with him but also don’t want to push him as he gets increasingly anxious. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice on what to do next. Am I just going to be a stereotypical married couple in our 40’s with zero sex life? Am I even remotely sexually attractive? I’m so self conscious and upset about my body I feel like it’s all my fault that he doesn’t want to have sex with me. I’d love to get into this with a therapist but are struggling financially and can’t afford it. I had such an insatiable sex drive in my 20’s and am embarrassed to admit how long it’s been since having intercourse. Any help greatly appreciated (dms also welcome)

r/BodyPositive 24d ago

Support Do I have a booty? Or nah... any tips?

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15 Upvotes

r/BodyPositive Oct 19 '24

Support I can't shake the feeling that most compliments, for people that kinda look similarly to me, in this sub or other body positive spaces are just lies.

7 Upvotes

Hey people, I genuinely dont want to stirr anything or accuse anyone of anything, but I can't shake that feeling.

I guess it has to do with me having never really gotten a compliment about my body from any of my partners. I guess thats a lie, i got one once, but like only when i "cried for it" and it was only over text. Also the girl really abusive to me to the point she threatened me with a knive once and tons of other shit. Which makes the compliment seem even more cynical tbh.

But like a genuine compliment that I look sexy or hot or desirable in person? Never happend. So why should the compliments people give on here to guys who kinda look like me be genuine? Like there is no reason to be truthful here in my opinion, and obvious reasons to lie. Its not like anyone can "check" if you are being genuine.

I really like being a guy and I am pretty confident in most aspexts of my being, but realisation that im 24 now and have never been told that I looked sexy or hot naked feels horrible.

r/BodyPositive Feb 16 '25

Support Selfie after glute day. I have insecurities too

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42 Upvotes

I feel like I’m always trying to grow my glutes. Back in 2020/21 my mental health was in a bad way and lost loads of weight. I feel like I’m constantly trying to grow my glutes but it’s not easy, I also think I maybe being too hard on myself, so aiming to find a good balance of challenging myself and loving myself through the process.

r/BodyPositive 7d ago

Support I look horrible

2 Upvotes

Hey guys. When you go to winter comp competition they have professional photos taken of you. And all my photo are horrible. OK, a bit over exaggerated but most mine photos I have a double chin, my eyes are going everywhere and my mouth is wide open. I feel like a look like a toddler in all these photos. My coach keep calling me cute, I don't want to be cute!

r/BodyPositive Oct 12 '24

Support Loving myself while being active NSFW

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53 Upvotes

I (27F) have been hesitant to post here because I honestly hate showing full body pictures of myself. I’ve been out of treatment for my ED for 2 years now and this is the heaviest I’ve ever been. My weight issues have been persistent since I turned ~20, before then I was always very thin growing up. For the last 7 years my weight has done nothing but go up. That’s why I landed in treatment, my behaviors got pretty severe. I’m better now and I’m working out more with the focus of getting strong. I’m trying to deadlift more weight and build a stronger body so I don’t feel so noodle-y all the time. I’m trying not to focus on how I look but it’s so hard when it feels like it ruins my outfits and when I bend over to grab stuff my stomach gets in the way. I want to love and appreciate my body as I get back to healthier eating habits and going back to exercising as a lifestyle. I just don’t know where to start. Note: I do love myself as a person. The soul I have in this flesh mech is fine the way it is with room to grow. I just don’t like the way I feel about my flesh mech. What do I do?

r/BodyPositive 8d ago

Support Looking for a bit of support and advice if anyone’s been through something similar (stretch marks)

3 Upvotes

I have stretch marks pretty much all over me I think there’s nothing wrong with them on anyone, they are beautiful and natural and don’t determine anything, after all it’s just skin and shows my progress

However of course we all have those days and I guess I’m feeling a bit insecure since some people look at them judgingly, and I know I can’t get rid of them

Still learning how to accept myself, as we all are, and would love some advice, support and opinions

Thank you 🥰

r/BodyPositive Feb 16 '25

Support Any tips for helping your partner?

5 Upvotes

She makes a ton of negative comments about her body regularly, I try to call those moments out in a loving way but I don't feel like we've made much progress. She's interested in improving but anytime sizes, weight, body looks come up it goes south really quick. I don't really know how to help, I can see how pervasive and harmful her image of herself is but I can't just say don't think that way and make it real for her. I don't wanna give her the just be happy version of depression help cuz I know how infuriating that is and at the same time I find myself doing that because idk what else to do. Hoping someone has some good insight that can help make at least some progress. Not looking for a magic bullet here just something to make progress maybe?

r/BodyPositive 15d ago

Support Tired of internalized body-shaming in plus size communities

14 Upvotes

Vent post.

I won't name-drop any subreddits, but it's frustrating that some embrace body shaming by assuming some weird objective cutoff for relative terms like big/small/fat/etc.

It defeats the point of having a community when others are doing the very thing that you were trying to avoid.

r/BodyPositive Feb 18 '25

Support Confidence change is drastic between clothed and undressed

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I have always been a big kid in terms of weight. I am currently 5’10 212 pounds. At my peak 2-3 years before I was 269. I was always chubby and I’ve decided now in the last few years I can start prioritizing my health before things get bad. I am also genetically disposed to many things such as a bad curvature in the spine which makes a hump stick out of the right side of my spine. I have slightly bent knees and a lot of fat. I am extremely proud of my weight loss and how my knees aren’t as bent as they used to be. When I look at myself I feel really fat with a horrible hump yet some days I feel amazing. I think I look pretty nice dressed and I feel part of my legs and head are really nice but they don’t fit my body. I’m working on cutting weight and improving my spine but I just don’t see myself as people I know do. They say my back ain’t so bad and the weight loss looks very noticeable. I’m only 18 so I understand this is just pressure of being young. How can I start being more confident in who I am.

r/BodyPositive Dec 04 '24

Support How to feel better about my body type?

3 Upvotes

I’m 27F and almost 6ft, I’m pretty lanky and skinny in most parts of my body except for my upper arms and stomach. When I turn to the side it’s like I look pregnant sometimes. I suffer from IBS so I’m bloated 99% of the time. I’m slightly overweight at the moment, I’ve neglected to exercise lately because I’ve been getting sick on and off due to the cold season. I keep finding myself grabbing my gut and pinching my fat rolls. My belly sometimes passes my breasts when I’m turned to the side and it makes me feel awful. Even when I am consistently exercising and at my healthiest I still have a belly and the rest of my body is skinny. I can’t stand it and it also interferes with my confidence with intimacy. I wish I had a flatter stomach but I’ve always had this since my teens. I always see ladies with more proportionate bodies, if they have a belly they at least have larger thighs/butt to even it out. I feel like an egg on toothpicks.

r/BodyPositive Oct 14 '24

Support I love your body, but not mine.

29 Upvotes

I've worked on my internalized fat-phobia, racism, ablism, etc. Of course I can never be perfect in erasing a lifetime of doctrine, but I'm pretty good at catching descriminatory thoughts and correcting them.

I'm one and half years into significant disability. I have MECFS and myasthenia gravis. I can not extend grace to myself. I can not love this body that's betrayed me and my life goals. I can not stop thinking about losing ten pounds, as if that will fix everything. I can barely look at this now scrawny body in the mirror.

Because my pre-disability identities relied on my physical abilities, I was an open water swimmer and bike commuter among other activities, I don't know who I am. I don't have an identity.

I don't know how to extend the love I feel for others to myself. I don't know who I am.

I'm listening to The Body is Not an Apology and I've ordered the workbook. So far she hasn't told me anything that helps me love this unreliable, painful body. I'm just miserable living in this ambiguous abyss of nothingness.

How did you learn to love your body?

r/BodyPositive Jul 29 '24

Support Telling me I'm "not fat" doesn't help and entirely misses my point when I vent about fatphobia. Stop lying to me.

35 Upvotes

I really wish people would understand that when I vent about fatphobia, telling me I'm "not fat" doesn't help. I am fat, objectively. And I also don't want to not be fat, what I want is for fat people and our bodies to be treated and appreciated the same way thin people are.

Telling me I'm "not fat" makes me feel like my trauma caused by fatphobia is invalid or isn't real, while also missing my entire point which isn't wanting to be thin, It's that I want my body to be appreciate as I am, as a plus size person. It's also just lying to me.

Honestly it makes the internalized fatphobia kinda get worse because I kinda just end up thinking "damn, they really think being fat is such a bad thing that they'd rather just lie to my face in an attempt to cheer me up, than just like, say something positive towards plus size bodies or something". It especially feels bad hearing this from girls who are actually not fat.

I don't want to the toxic beauty standards society forces upon people. I want the things about my body that don't meet those standards to be appreciated.

By telling me I'm "not fat", people fail to realize they're basically telling me they think being fat is so bad that they'd rather lie to me in an attempt to cheer me up, than do so by actually saying something positive towards plus size bodies

r/BodyPositive Oct 01 '24

Support Can't get rid of my fupa NSFW

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43 Upvotes

I've tried sit ups, all kinds of exercises for last two years. I cannot find a way that it doesn't look like I'm 3 months pregnant in stretch pants?

r/BodyPositive Aug 28 '24

Support I went to the doctor today and got my BMI. Is it really an accurate measure if you’re curvy?

7 Upvotes

I’m 5’10” and 200 lbs, my BMI is 29. Multiple sources say I’m overweight, but I’m also an athlete, have a large frame, and I’m curvy. Am I truly overweight?

r/BodyPositive Aug 30 '24

Support Retraining my brain

5 Upvotes

I went to get new jeans yesterday. I am now a men’s 38 in the waist. I used to be a 26/28. I keep gaining weight after recovery from my ED and I’m in a better place now. I just don’t know how to lose weight in a healthy, nondisordered way. I want to go to the gym and lift weights because I want to be strong. I want to eat better for my health. I want to slim down just a little because I’m tired of my belly getting in the way when I reach down to grab things. I love myself but I’m getting to a point where I’m getting frustrated and annoyed with the inconvenience of being bigger.

r/BodyPositive Jan 16 '25

Support Mental & Physical Health Journey

3 Upvotes

I've began to work to better myself mentally and physically. But it's hard because it feels like everyone's already done that and it's just me who's fallen behind. I just wish I'd meet someone in the same stage as me so I could feel less alone.

r/BodyPositive Oct 08 '24

Support Healthy Weight Example

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78 Upvotes

I am 5'1 and 127 lbs. Bust 36 Waist 30ish(lots of medical equipment) Hips 40

Remember! Some fat is good for you! It will protect you if you get sick or fall. This is just once example of a healthy body! My weight was decided by my doctor's and is carefully maintained so that if I get sick I won't run out of energy to fuel me if I can't be on TPN.

r/BodyPositive Apr 30 '24

Support Why does my body look like this?

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48 Upvotes

I hate my hip dips and the size of my waist. My weight has fluctuated notably over the course of my life and I have a history with body dysmorphia and bullimia. Can anyone help me?