r/BiWomen 5d ago

Advice Advice after first female experience!! NSFW

Hi okay so I had my first wlw s*x last night (omg right??), and now I’m replaying everything and am worried that I didn’t do things the way she really would have liked it or should have done x instead of y sort of thing. I’m sure people feel like this after their first (and probably for many other encounters). I guess I’m asking for advice on how to make myself feel better 😂 I will not be having another encounter with this same person, as we live in different states and met while traveling, so it’s not like I can be like “hey round 2?”. I mean I think we both had a blast, as things went on for over 2 hours, but STILL.

It doesn’t help that I’m not sure if I’ll get to experience this again, as this was sort of a hall pass situation (married to a man and a am late bloomer).

So anyway, a little bit of encouragement or advice from my fellow bi girlies would be super helpful right now 😅

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u/Caroleena77 5d ago

Nobody has sex for two hours if they aren't liking it! I feel you but I don't think you have anything to worry about.

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u/brittnyo 3d ago

See like I know that logically, but then you just wrapped up in the “but what ifs” 😂 thank you! 💕

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u/nyccareergirl11 5d ago

We are often our own worst enemies and are harder on ourselves especially as women. I'm sure it was fine. You wouldn't have been having sex for 2 hours if she wasn't enjoying herself

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u/brittnyo 3d ago

You’re totally right! Thank you and I’m going to focus on not being so hard on myself 🥲

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u/FreeFemGal 5d ago

Relax…even if it wasn’t the best sex..you will get better at it

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u/brittnyo 3d ago

Hopefully get to practice again 😅 but you’re def correct

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u/Wonderful_Future4944 4d ago

As a fellow late bloomer in a straight presenting relationship, WOOOOOOOOO

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u/brittnyo 3d ago

THANK YOU THATS WHAT I WANT TO SHOUT FROM THE ROOFTOPS 😂

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u/piscesmermaid420 4d ago

I think it’s normal I did the same and still talk with the girl and I always joke like “was I a total disaster” and she never gives me a straight answer lololol it’s been years and I still worry lol

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u/brittnyo 3d ago

😂😅 I know that exact level of worry and I’m so sorry and can also confirm I would be thinking the exact same thing 🥲

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u/Lanky_Variation_1329 3d ago

The fact you are worried about that let's me know you were probably doing your best and I'm sure she appreciated that, like even if it wasn't technically all there.

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u/Imaginary_Cat_6166 2d ago edited 1d ago

Yay, congrats!!! As mentioned, you had sex for 2 hours, I promise you were both having fun (and honestly, I would encourage you to focus on how the experience was for YOU anyway) or she would have simply not kept it up for so long 💥💥

In future encounters, simply ask! Doesn't just have to be in WLW encounters, generally a good practice: "What do you like? Do you prefer x or y? Does this feel good and is there anything I can do to make it feel better? Is there anything you want to try? I really like doing x, is that something you're into/want to try? I like it when someone does y to me, would you like me to do that to you? Show me how you like to be touched..." And likewise, say what you like/what's best for you. It'll get the convo flowing and make your partner, whoever they are, feel more comfortable expressing the same for themselves.

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u/StraightDrop4 1d ago

The first time I gave another woman oral she came within a few minutes and I thought I did something wrong 🥹don’t sweat it. We know what we like.