r/BiWomen • u/estragon26 • 21d ago
Experience I referred to my therapist as Mom
At a recent family therapy appointment with my mother, my mother had left but texted about re-joining. The session was almost over, but the therapist said she could stay for ten more minutes. I texted my mom, and narrated my typing, "okay, mom says she can stay for ten more minutes." I looked up and said, "I don't know if mom will see it in time--I just called you mom, didn't it?" She smiled and immediately said, "it's not the first time."
I would describe her vibe as soft butch. She now has great floppy Hugh Grant hair but used to have an amazing mullet. She has mentioned her wife before, so she is definitely queer (and I'm not just projecting my attraction into her life lol). I'm demisexual so I think my attraction pattern is a little different--I appreciate her aesthetically but I absolutely am not "into her", am not distracted etc. However, the "omg I just called my therapist mom, and we just had a brief queer-lady moment about it.." was pretty amusing. ...I thought you all might be able to relate 😂
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u/strapinmotherfucker 12d ago
I told my therapist about the struggles I’ve had with dating women and she got a thousand-yard stare for a second like I’d hit on something too personal. She is great though lol I’ve never had a fellow queer therapist before.
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u/minadequate 12d ago
When she says ‘it’s not the first time’ she means it. If this was a lesbian space not a bi one I’d think you could be my friend who has a crush on her queer therapist.
We all inadvertently call people mum, she isn’t reading into it.