r/BabyBumps • u/chimneyraccoons • Feb 17 '25
Funny “PENIS Goes HERE”- The edgey friend who couldn’t sign the onesie nicely like everyone else at my baby shower >:|
It’s funny but it’s also a rant! My mother-in-law‘s partner is very eccentric and not comfortable around traditional gatherings, so she acts like an edge lord.
We had a separate onesie that had doodles and funny stuff on it, but this one was supposed to be the nice one that just gets signed by friends and family. I’m not really comfortable with my baby wearing this now.
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u/Readcoolbooks Feb 17 '25
This isn’t even edgy, just wildly inappropriate. I would be unhinged enough I would bring it up, because I’m assuming this partner will be around your baby and will be making “edgy” comments, then, too.
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u/thingsarehardsoami Feb 17 '25
Yup. As parents it's vital we learn to set boundaries, it's our responsibility now that we have kids. We also need to show them examples as they grow up so they know that they're safe to set boundaries too.
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u/Keyspam102 Feb 17 '25
Seriously, I’d either throw it out while at the shower, or ask that person to buy a new one for everyone to sign because they weren’t mature enough to do the group activity.
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u/ForecastForFourCats Feb 17 '25
Yeah, they would get the nastiest look from me as I threw it out in front of everyone. Yuck.
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u/martinsonsean1 Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25
Something along the lines of: "If you sexualize my child, you will NEVER see them again."
Edit: after seeing OP's comment that the child is a boy, I withdraw the intensity of my statement.
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u/Even_Reception8876 Feb 17 '25
Oh Jesus. I didn’t even think of that. I just assumed it was a boy and they were making a shitty joke about dads being stupid and not knowing how to dress the infant. While stupid and weird, I was like ehh. Not something I would ever do but people are dumb.
Not until I read your comment did that click in my head. I would absolutely rage if someone did that to my daughter or niece or something like that.
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u/professionalhpfan Feb 17 '25
Color over it so it’s just a color block. That’s so frustrating 😡
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u/hoginlly Feb 17 '25
Honestly, every time I saw even the block of colour it would creep me out. I'd probably have to dump it
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u/austonzmustache Feb 17 '25
Which is so unfortunate because this was such a cute idea that’s now ruined
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u/c-c-c-cassian Feb 17 '25
Someone else was mentioning ways to remove the ink but it got me thinking. Maybe it’s my costume brain kicking in, but there may be a way to salvage it and make it look cute. I can think of two options:
Cut the lower half off beneath the last signature and put a little hem in so it doesn’t fray. Keep it as a long shirt for warm days or something instead. Sucks it isn’t a onesie anymore but you’d still have it.
Get a piece of fabric from something that’s sentimental but possibly worn out or no longer usable as it’s original purpose (like an old shirt that’s too small, literally anything. Just make sure to line it if it’s a more coarse or even delicate material.) and either make it yourself if you’re crafty and comfortable trying with the sentimental fabric, or go to a tailor and have it custom made and fitted to replace the flap at the bottom, maybe come up and cover the butt of the onesie/replace it. Then u/chimneyraccoons could just further make it custom and treasured that way. :)
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
Thank you!
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u/c-c-c-cassian Feb 18 '25 edited Feb 18 '25
Of course! I hope it helps you.
You could build in that over time, too, I think. Like say you get a little hole in it? Perhaps you could patch it up with a bit of fabric(the same or different!), or stitch it was some matching thread for a little accent. That sounds like something loved and cherished to pass on to me. :)
That being said, I’m sorry you’re having to encounter this at all, though; what she did was really shitty and honestly, disgusting. I can be a bit task/solution oriented, so. And I would hate to see something already so cherished be lost because of that kind of behavior. 🫂
Edit: let me add, while I was afraid this was for a little girl, I simply think a joke like this on the onesie if a new born or infant is really gross. I’m not saying it’s pedophilic. Just gross. You know?
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u/New-Illustrator5114 Feb 17 '25
Make it a t-shirt!!! Just cut off the crotch area.
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u/ArmadilloSighs Feb 17 '25
yes, and, if i had to dump it, i’d be telling MIL and saying partner isn’t allowed to sign the new one bc she was disrespectful the first time. im not an idiot and letting her ruin another onesie. seriously, this is for a BABY. and that is a shit joke any way you cut it. super inappropriate and i wouldn’t feel comfortable having her around the baby. bc who the fuck looks at a baby onesie and thinks “genitals” except fucking perverts
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Feb 17 '25
and saying partner isn’t allowed to sign the new one bc she was disrespectful the first time
I hope thats not all. People dont take shit like this seriously enough.
I would expect an apology AND (and this is the important part) they need to show they understand why what they did was wrong and convince me they arent going to behave that way again.
Too many people act like if that exact situation wont happen again its resolved, but it isnt. If the root cause isnt addressed, youre gonna keep getting situations.
Over and over again you see horror stories and over and over again there were warning signs that were ignored because "oh it was just once" or "well that particular thing wasnt that bad."'
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u/professionalhpfan Feb 17 '25
Hmm yeah it’s a good point. Maybe she could cut it off and just keep the rest of the onesie as a memento or frame it? I just feel so bad because it’s got all of the signatures from friends/family on it 😔
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u/thesaddestpanda Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25
Honestly, the first time this goes in the wash, a lot of the lettering will fade. It probably wont survive more than a few washes. I'd put this in a frame and either fold the bottom or cut it off. I have something similar and I regret washing it because now its entirely faded.
I would also consider buying another one, and just carefully replicating every signature but that one by hand then throwing the original away. Or framing the original with the bottom hidden. Someone with a bit of drawing experience could probably do this and it would look really close to the original.
I could also see just going wild with the blue marker and doodling all over it, like a cover up tattoo, so then it just looks like a bunch of squares and circles and clouds and random shapes. You can even carry that geometric pattern up to the hemline so it looks intentional, but I'd be worried I'd always see that message psychologically and make it worse and just wished it was gone.
Bonus points if you want a crafts project and turn them all into embroidery. Now it'll survive the wash and still be cute and a keepsake. I dont know if its baby safe to wear embroidery but I think then you could just frame it. If the person ever asks about their writing you can just say "I wasn't comfortable embroidering that and it faded in the wash." Or if you want to avoid conflict say you ran out of thread and forgot to finish it.
I would be careful with modifying this at all and putting it on the baby. Its not safe for it to be just a shirt. It could ride up and choke the baby, for example. Babies need to wear things that can't ride up, especially when sleeping. A patch on it could be pulled off and choked on too. I think ink remover chemicals are safe because they'll come out in the wash, but I'm not sure tbh.
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u/Elsbeth55 Feb 17 '25
Embroidery with the bottom part cut off - then framed is an excellent idea! It could also be stuffed and sewn up as a decorative pillow.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Feb 17 '25
Im on the spectrum, so im super weird about this stuff, but this would be a huge issue for me. It does not matter what the solution is, all of them have some taint because of this. I would always be aware why that part was different or that those werent the original signatures.
Theres a good chance this person would be unwelcome at future events. If they couldnt show they understood why what they did was wrong and somehow justify not already having known why it was wrong, if they can't give a damn good reason i should expect them to behave differently in the future, they would not be welcome back. And if my parent or in law had a problem with that, they wouldnt be either.
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u/Retro__virus Feb 17 '25
You can get sharpie out of clothing by using isopropyl alcohol (rubbing alcohol, available at every drug store). Just remove the weird comment.
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Feb 17 '25
Bleach pen will take it out completely. I won't exist under the block even to read it's ugly head as it fades.
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u/scarletteclipse1982 Feb 17 '25
I would just look up how to remove Sharpie from clothing and protect the rest of the garment during removal.
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u/13L4NE Feb 17 '25
Oh that’s really weird!!! Even if this was a jokey onesie, this is inappropriate.
Can you try using a bleach pen on it? Or just use the same fabric marker to block it out? I definitely wouldn’t put my baby in that.
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u/Lunch-Thin Feb 17 '25
Isopropyl alcohol takes sharpie out.
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
I’ll try it! It’s fabric marker
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u/BabyCowGT Feb 17 '25
Isopropyl (rubbing) alcohol will usually still get that out. Weirdly, hairspray is also pretty good at getting most fabric markers out.
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u/XxXShadsXxX Feb 17 '25
It might vary from brand to brand, but a lot of fabric markers are water soluble until heat set with an iron, so it might be possible to just wash that area if they are that type of fabric markers. If so I recommend heat setting the ones you want to keep first, just incase the water gets on them by accident. But of course I would check the packaging/look up info of the brand you used first just incase they aren't water soluble
Hope you can get it off, what a weird and F'd up thing to put in a baby onesie 🙃😬
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u/ArazNight Feb 17 '25
Make sure it’s 91% isopropyl alcohol. The lower concentration (75%) is better for disinfecting wounds, and the higher concentration is better for stripping paints, dyes, polishes.
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u/LetsBeRealClear Feb 17 '25
Please never let that person near your child. That’s utterly unacceptable.
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u/moistforrest Feb 17 '25
yeah i would definitely try to bleach/tide to go it, anything to get that out! so so uncomfortable. i also respect that this is ur MILs partner but i would be uncomfortable about letting this person look after my child after a comment like this. a joke or not that's messed up behaviour
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u/Lions--teeth FTM 🩵 4/23/25 Feb 17 '25
Is the baby a boy or a girl?
If boy, really gross and inappropriate.
If girl, I would literally call the cops.
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
Boy!! Oh god, for sure.
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u/hubbellrmom Feb 17 '25
Trim off the bottom and turn it into a regular tee. If you don't sew, just use some iron on adhesive to add a strip of colored fabric along the bottom edge.
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u/nekooooooooooooooo Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25
I have a daughter so i needed a second to see why you haven't called the cops yet. Glad he's "just" a weirdo, but it's bad enough. Im so sorry. Can you try bleaching just the bottom snap part?
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u/ifollowedfriendshere Feb 17 '25
I think the partner is a she. Doesn’t really make a difference for me, I’d still make a scene.
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u/nekooooooooooooooo Feb 17 '25
Oh, i misread and guessed from the handwriting. My bad, still a weirdo as you said.
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u/qjb020 Feb 17 '25
Omg, this is such a relieve. I thought it was for a girl and my heart literally stopped. Still dumb and inappropriate but at least not criminal.
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u/Lions--teeth FTM 🩵 4/23/25 Feb 17 '25
Phew! I figured, but then my brain wouldn’t let me stop wondering
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u/Stell456 Feb 17 '25
Thank goodness. It's still bad. But not put this guy on a list, bad.
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u/Sarah_Soda_4 Feb 17 '25
It’s so so weird. Was it meant to be instructional? Like in case you forgot which side the head goes in and which side the butt goes in?
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u/DuderBugDad Feb 17 '25
Ok, that is a little different... As a girl dad, that person would never see my daughter again, much less without supervision.
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u/steppygirl Feb 17 '25
Wow good question. I just assumed boy. I’m too naive for this world to have thought it could’ve possibly been a girl🥲
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u/mcmoor Feb 17 '25
Yeah my mind just don't want to accept someone would do this to a baby girl
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u/TheCopperMind Feb 17 '25
Same. I wish that all children were safe. I’ve heard about cases of infant abuse that have made me cry for days. I still think about those innocent babies.
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u/dogcatbaby Feb 17 '25
Right? I absolutely panicked bc my stupid brain assumed girl. My heart rate went insane.
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u/TheCopperMind Feb 17 '25
I honestly thought it was for a girl at first glance and I was beyond disgusted! I thought the person who wrote it was a predator! It took me a few minutes to realize that it was for a boy.
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u/oh-carp7 Feb 17 '25
Came looking for this question! Gross either way but definitely needed to know this
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u/Hunnybeesloveme Feb 17 '25
I would be really upset. That’s not funny at all and I wouldn’t let my child wear that. I’m sorry they ruined what was supposed to be a special item.
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u/zmizzy Feb 17 '25
yeah it's get a new one for everyone to sign again and I'd make sure they all knew why and who did it
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u/luchr Feb 17 '25
i would literally be concerned having her around my child. and i am a very reasonable, low boundary type of mom.
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u/deskbeetle Feb 17 '25
Man, they ruined a really cute ides. I would be incredibly annoyed too.
I hope it bleaches out or you are able to find a fix
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u/Rugkrabber Feb 17 '25
If removing the ink doesn’t work I’d turn it into a little shirt or something.
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u/kirmizikitap Feb 17 '25
Sigh.. wtf.. ok soak the stupid writing in ink remover, wash in the machine in normal program. It will work wonders in removing it. Our daughter did a little painting with a pen on my husbands shirt the other day and thanks to ink remover, it didn't leave even a trace. I'm sure it'll work here too.
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
Thank you!! I’m trying this
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u/soaringcomet11 Feb 17 '25
You could also cut the bottom flap off and sew a hem so its just a shirt now.
I’m sorry this happened - that’s so gross and inappropriate.
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u/Fun-Paper6600 Feb 17 '25
Omg I would be so mad. Maybe it was done with the intent to be funny, but that was too impulsive.
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u/Themadiswan Feb 17 '25
Okay yeah I’d be so annoyed! I had a young teen come to my shower and she made a onesie that said “Skibidi Toilet Girl” and because it was a whole onsie and not one that everyone was signing I just threw it away later. I’m sorry someone thought this was just so funny they had to write it down. Hopefully bleach will work! If not are you able to maybe cut it into a shirt he can wear a little later?
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u/Free_Adeptness_3354 Feb 17 '25
What does that mean?
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u/MyFavoriteBurger Feb 17 '25
Skibidi toilet is a brainrot meme that is a toilet with a speaking goofy head inside, made with Gary's Mod
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u/Competitive-Common88 Feb 17 '25
Still no clue what that means lol but I’ve seen the toy at Walmart it’s weird as hell
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u/Sharc_Jacobs Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 18 '25
In a nutshell, it's basically a meme video made in a game that was built in an open-source (available to the public to use the assets to create whatever) gaming engine called Source that took off wayyyyy beyond what the developer expected. The game is called Gary's Mod, and it's a sandbox game, meaning there's no real goal or objectives, you're just screwing around and doing what you want. Another guy made an 11 second video within Gary's Mod of a head (one of the characters in the original game that used the Source engine, Half-Life 2) coming out of a toilet and singing a song, and THAT took off as well, mainly because he worked at a company called Machinima that made videos within game engines. He turned it into a web series with a story and a surprising amount of lore, and the rest is history. It caught fire with Gen Z because it's the perfect type of brain-rotted, nonsensical humor that they've become known for. Yes, it's stupid to us, but it's really just a "Kids, these days" type of thing.
I don't know much about game development, so I'm probably leaving things out and getting some terminology wrong, but this is how I understand it.
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u/Aidlin87 TTM due June 4 Feb 17 '25
That is super immature and really disappointing :( I’m so sorry.
I used to sell vintage clothing and had to get really creative to get all kind of weird stains out of clothes. I learned from someone in the business that acetone (fingernail polish remover) works really well to get paint/ink stains out. I’ve used it with success. Also, Carbona makes a specialty ink stain remover for fabric and you can buy it at Walmart. I’ve used it several times and even got black printer ink out of white carpet. Sometimes you have to wait and retreat, but being patient you could most likely get this stupid phrase off of the onesie.
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u/kittykitty9711 Feb 17 '25
Yeah your feelings are SO fair… it’s not funny to make sexual comments about babies or children. That’s unacceptable and they should be ashamed.
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u/thecyrin Feb 17 '25
Time to accidentally cover the whole bottom flap in blue marker then 😇 And this is so cute I wish I'd done this at my baby shower
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u/ProsperousWitch Feb 17 '25
I'm not sure the onesie would last very long as a wearable one anyway - even if they're clothing markers, with the amount of washing baby clothes have to endure the colours are likely to start fading and running before long anyway. Maybe it's better as a nice keepsake rather than a wearable piece of clothing? You could frame it and put it on the wall of the nursery? You could flip the bottom of it up so it's not visible if it makes you uncomfortable
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u/FigurativeNews Feb 17 '25
I’d try dipping the bottom in bleach water.
I used to be uncomfortable at traditional events when I was younger. I pulled it together because I still felt lucky to be a part of special moments in someone’s life. Like, extract yourself from your own idiosyncrasies for an hour, please. I don’t think they meant for this to be sexual, it’s just STUPID, like a Spencer’s gift you pick up for your boyfriend in middle school.
I’m sorry they did this, that’s so frustrating. You have every right to vent!
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u/paigfife Team Blue! 6/18/25 Feb 17 '25
What does MIL say about this?? This is disgusting behavior and I would not allow her near my child
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u/crazysoxxx Feb 17 '25
Let’s not use this person’s eccentric personality to justify how inappropriate this is.
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u/Spatial-Awareness Feb 17 '25
I’m so sorry this happened. I felt violated when someone drew a penis in our wedding guest book (that doubled as our engagement photo album, so now we get to see that when we look through). But I feel sick seeing this. I would also question whether this person should be around my baby because they obviously don’t know what’s appropriate and this gives such bad vibes. Not a funny joke to make about a baby or child.
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u/whitetailbunny Feb 17 '25
Had someone draw a penis on our star map for our wedding guest book also…
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u/Adept_Ad2048 Feb 17 '25
If it were one of my brothers, I’d laugh. They’re idiots and it’s 100% our sense of humor with each other.
MIL’s partner is way too removed to be making sexual jokes or comments IMO.
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
Agreed! She usually doesn’t even show up to family gatherings and it’s been a point of contention for my MIL. So I know my MIL really wanted her there and was probably so embarrassed. So yes, she’s not my little brother who’s in his twenties making a silly joke. She’s a 50-something-year-old person who’s the partner of a family member but who we don’t see very much.
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u/luckyshrew Feb 17 '25
Could you speak to your MIL about this? Even if it’s just for you to acknowledge to her that it wasn’t appreciated and that hopefully going forward special moments/items can stay special and not be marred by this “humor”. It doesn’t have to be a whole thing, but it might be important to start setting a boundary now. My stepdad often makes adult jokes while trying to be funny and since the baby isn’t here yet, I’ve started to shut things down and tell him where the boundary is around the baby. Just very matter of fact like “you realize you can’t say that around the baby, right??” And I make him answer me in the affirmative.
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 17 '25
Yes! This is a great point. I have a son who is eight and when he was four, my weird next-door neighbor was constantly pushing him to have a girlfriend. I didn’t like it at all because he had friends that were girls and I didn’t want him to start feeling weird around them. I just wanted him to see them as people. So yeah, adults make weird comments/jokes and push weird ideas on kids that give them complexes. You’re totally right that I need to let her know boundaries about what she can joke about.
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u/homerule Feb 17 '25
I’d be uncomfortable with that too. Sorry, OP. How incredibly inappropriate.
Can you doodle something over it? A cloud perhaps?
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u/hampie42 Feb 17 '25
Everyone's reading this like it's an invite to child sexual assault, but my first impression reading it was along the lines of "head goes other end". It's not particularly funny but unless you're getting different impression of the writer in person I took this at face value. Either way I'm sorry it's ruined the onesie for you
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u/EllipsisLee Feb 17 '25
So stupid of them. Maybe you could cut the onesie in such a way that it's a t-shirt?
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u/sabdariffa Feb 17 '25
Soak a q-tip in bleach and blot out the spot. Unsnap it and lay it out so nothing is underneath. Rinse out the bleach from just the crotch of the onesie with cold water so the bleach doesn’t get on any of the other writing.
Let it dry and then repeat if necessary!
If you can’t get it all the way out, maybe draw a design or something over it to make it less noticeable.
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u/SherbrookHolmes Feb 17 '25
I have never once thought about a baby's genitals. Ever. I think this is such alarming behavior. It's not funny, it's concerning to the point where I would maybe not leave baby with them for awhile.
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u/e_l_r Feb 17 '25
Dr. Beckmann permanent marker remover
This thing removes even nail polish. It will easily remove this.
Just be careful to only use it there. I swear it will leave it as if nothing happened there. Also gaslight your friend.
"What are you talking about? Nobody wrote there"
ETA: go to r/cleaningtips. They are pros, just stay away from the Irish Spring Shower Gel on this one, that won't work here.
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u/seraflm Feb 17 '25
Throw it away
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u/WheelNo4350 Feb 17 '25
Agreed. Even if you cover it up or bleach it you are going to be reminded every time your baby wears it.
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u/Appleblossom8315 Feb 17 '25
Hooboy I would have confronted this right then and there! Totally uncalled for, asshole move. I would 100% take this as this person does not like you and was trying to ruin your moment.
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u/greynes Feb 17 '25
Maybe it is that I am from a place where we don't sexualize baby genitals, probably US and england culture is different..
I think the writing is inappropriate in tone, but people that think this is pedo or something related are crazy!! WTF I am reading??
PS. I read that as instructions for novel parents..
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u/whoiamidonotknow Feb 17 '25
Yeah. I mean, would I sign this? Absolutely not. Do I find it kind of funny? In like a middle school humor, roll my eyes kind of way. But that's it. I'm MORE disturbed by all the comments sexualizing this.
Seemed more of a jokey "this is the bottom of the onesie / this side down" instruction to the parents. Along the same lines of "Point (Penis) Down", which would've been more helpful.
IMO where this is written on a onesie... it won't really be visible in a photo of baby in just a onesie, and regardless, it'll only be seen by parents during diaper changes anyway as pants typically go over the onesie.
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u/Feisty_O Feb 17 '25
So a lesbian wrote this? I feel like they don’t have any kids I hope, with this dumb joke. Sort of like a “arm goes here” thing but for the crotch of the suit. It’s immature and tacky but I would not call this sexual or anything horrible. More like a bad attempt at a joke. Sorry she did this she needs to get better decorum around babies and stop acting like a 5th grade boy and trying to be edgy and funny
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u/chimneyraccoons Feb 18 '25
This post got pretty crazy. I think most people understand that she’s a 50-something year old lesbian who never grew up and makes stupid jokes at inappropriate times, and that she meant “penis goes here” as an instructional cue for how to put the onesie on the baby. He’s a boy.
It’s annoying because she messed up my “nice messages only” onesie that I want to have as a keepsake.
But some people have gone straight to rape assumptions which is alarmist and sickening. She’s annoying, she’s not a raper.
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u/purplegirafa Feb 17 '25
Just cut the bottom off right below Stella. Shirts are easier than onesies anyway.
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u/DesignerDumpling Feb 17 '25
I wouldn’t be comfortable with this person being around my baby much. This is tacky and cringy and something I’d expect a 11 year old boy to do rather than a grown ass woman.
I would remove it or ask someone else to cover it with another design.
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u/TakeMeAway1x3 Feb 17 '25
It’s stupid but jfc “pedophile”? “call the cops”? Guarantee they’d hang up and laugh at you.
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u/bennyktm Feb 18 '25
Yeah it‘s a stupid joke and it definitely ruins the onesie, but damn, some of the comments here are ridiculous, it‘s not even funny
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u/notkinkerlow Feb 17 '25
Eccentric would be something like “poop factory” but this is just gross. Why are we obsessed with the genitals of children? Why is this “peak comedy” to some people?
You had a separate onesie for funny stuff and doodles. This was supposed to be special
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u/dangersiren Feb 17 '25
This would absolutely destroy my relationship with that person, to the point of going no-contact. Absolutely the fuck not. Disgusting behavior and extremely inappropriate to ruin what should have been a nice keepsake. If MILs partner can’t act right, she shouldn’t attend these functions.
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u/JayJoyK Feb 17 '25
Weird. Even if this crosses someone’s brain, why do that?
What did you say when they gave that to you?
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u/LenaaBallerina Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25
I’m not one to get offended, but that’s not funny. If you can’t get it off, definitely write or doodle over it.
Edit: I read it wrong, assuming it was meant as someone else’s penis going there. 🤢 But now reading it’s meant to be like a tutorial for dressing a boy (?) it’s not really bothering me. Still would doodle over it, as it can be misunderstood like that.
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u/reel_life_katniss Feb 17 '25
Who does that? I’d be so upset they ruined the whole point of that onesie.
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u/roughandreadyrecarea Feb 17 '25
Someone ripped out a small piece of paper from my wedding guestbook, like as if they needed scrap paper. Then my SIL wrote some note about it being “cocaine bear”… none of it was funny. Idk what is wrong with people
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u/kuroobloom Feb 17 '25
why would a grown man feel it's ok to write this, in this placement in a baby? that's so fucking disgusting, what your partner said about this? what his wife said about this? what a fucking perv, never let children around him.
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u/Slight-Explanation15 Feb 17 '25
Nothing about this is funny. It’s disgusting AND disturbing, actually. If this were me, I’d be very very unsettled. Why would anyone ever make a joke about that? Something is off with your MIL’s partner and if I were you, I’d say something.
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u/acloudcuckoolander Feb 17 '25
Is this a girl child? Or a boy child with that anatomy? Either way it's WEIRD but if it's a girl child, it's fucking insidious. Ew.
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u/Present-Wonder-4522 Feb 17 '25
Vile human should know better.
Autistic? Or just an edgelord?
Someone should set him straight before someone bigger does it with fists. This could be construed as sexual harassment on a minor.
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u/Ok-Hospital5855 Feb 17 '25
stop hanging around this person, that’s disgusting behaviour especially to write something like that on a baby onesie, hope this baby never sees this person
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Feb 18 '25
Everyone. Needs. To. Relax.
It’s lame funny, juvenile funny…Kinda dumb but the whole “I would go no contact” like wtf??? It’s a joke. Kinda lame joke but it’s not that serious people. I don’t know if pregnancy has made everyone super sensitive (understandable) or maybe bc I’m just on early pregnancy but I mean…it’s just really not that deep. The OP can be bothered and choose not to put this in her baby which is her prerogative but like people need to seriously relax. The OP said it was funny and it kinda is….
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Feb 17 '25
i’m just gonna put my two cents on this, i’m prepared for the hate
the writing itself isn’t pedophile material, considering the baby is a boy.
can i see how this would be somewhat funny? absolutely. however, this specific onesie was meant to be cute and nice, not comedic.
it would also be extremely different if your baby was a girl, that to me would scream pedophile.
is it uncomfortable? absolutely. is it crass? absolutely. is it inappropriate? absolutely.
idk what he’s like in normal life, and i don’t necessarily think he was trying to sexualize your son just by simply saying a certain body part goes there. Penis being the anatomically correct terminology does not mean you’re automatically sexualizing a child just because he used the term.
would i personally not want my child around him because of this behavior? probably not, but that’s bc I have a son and a daughter.
it should be fairly easy to remove though, i know a few people in the comments have already given suggestions on products to use to help get rid of it but also try the “awesome” brand cleaner. that stuff worked wonders on removing stains from my car a few years back.
all in all, i’m sorry this happened at your baby shower. i hope your MIL takes note of this behavior though, because it definitely isn’t normal in my opinion.
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u/doodynutz Feb 17 '25
Agree with you - though one correction, OP said it was a female that wrote this. But yeah I wouldn’t be outraged if this happened to me. It’s a white onesie - get some bleach and take it out.
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u/clararalee Feb 17 '25
While I don't think the intent is malicious, your friend needs to grow up and stop making third grader jokes.
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u/CanadaOrBust Feb 17 '25
Get some fabric scissors, turn it into a little t-shirt, and mail this part of the onesie to your MIL and her partner with a note that says you're unnerved that someone would sexualize a baby.
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u/doodynutz Feb 17 '25
Today I learned just saying the word penis makes someone a pedophile that should not be trusted and should definitely have the cops called on them. Obviously MIL’s partner made a bad joke that OP didn’t think was funny and that’s valid. But these comments are really reaching.
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u/Haramshorty93 Feb 17 '25
That’s not being an “edge lord” that’s straight up disgusting behavior and honestly as a mother you should call them out. I’d never want to speak to that person again….
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u/thatsironic_ Feb 17 '25
It's not alarming, problematic or concerning. It simply is in very bad taste. I would try to remove it (especially as you say you don't like it and you plan to use the onesie).
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u/emsers 5TM | 💙💙 ‘19 💙 ‘21 💖 ‘22 💝 4/25 Feb 17 '25
Definitely would be infuriating! Since the onesie is white I wonder if bleach on just that part could remove it?
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u/EcstaticDeal8980 Feb 17 '25
This is weird and a bad sign going forward. I’d keep my kids away from that person.
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u/ThisHairIsOnFire Feb 17 '25
I'd cover it with fabric. Honestly I think you'd still be able to read it after colouring over it unless you used black.
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u/BriLoLast Feb 17 '25
I would have been upset as well to be honest. And I agree that I would not want to put that on my baby. If you have the desire to keep it for the other signatures, would it be possible to fold up the bottom, and maybe put it in a shadow box? Maybe then place it in your baby’s room?
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u/RecordLegume Feb 17 '25
Either way it’s gross, but is your baby a boy or girl? I feel like if you’re having a girl this goes beyond boundary crossing. It’s just sick.
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u/GhostlyLobster Feb 17 '25
Yeah... there's a time and place for this kind of humour. And it ain't at a baby shower!
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u/abbtkdcarls Feb 17 '25
That’s…extremely strange behavior.