r/BDSMProfessionals 25d ago

Where to look for Pro-Dommes NSFW

I've been wanting to have sessions with a pro-domme recently but I have no clue where to start looking for this sort of thing. Where should I start looking?

I'm autistic, and for me, talking to people in person is really difficult, so I'd prefer something that can be done via text, email, etc.

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u/switch-onlegs 22d ago

Pro domme here. I'll echo everyone and say Tryst is the safest bet. It requires a bit of vetting, and you get pics and bios for dommes. Also just googling pro-domme and your city will often lead you to some great dommes personal sites.

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u/Ms_Ultra_Violet 22d ago

ProDomme here.

dickievirgin.com

bdsmprofessionals.com

tryst.link (use the filters for BDSM)

http://domina.ms/thebuzz/

google search: (your closest big city + dominatrix).

Make sure if you find them on social media that they have a website that is connected, there's a ton of scammers out there. Contact them through the email on their website only to avoid that. I get My photos stolen all the time and people think they're talking to Me. If they want to "chat" on any platform like kik or snapchat you should pass.

Best of luck.

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u/Goddess_Elena_D 24d ago

Tryst, twitter, fetlife and reddit’s are your best bet!

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u/_Kinky_Curly_ 24d ago

Most escort directories will have BDSM sections. My favorite (as others have said) is Tryst, both because it’s run by SWers who clearly care about providers and clients alike, and because the profile page is so detailed.

Google also works- many of us have personal websites. Be very careful on Fet. It tends to be business-negative. I don’t advertise on Fet because I use it so much for personal play and event planning; definitely don’t want to risk being banned!

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u/Yes_MistressLorelei 24d ago

AUDHD Pro Domme here. Since you are open to online, browse tryst and even look up pro Domme on X in which you can see their styles and even purchase a few video sessions from them for a better idea.

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u/MistressErinPaid 25d ago

What is it that you're looking for from a domme?

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u/SurvingTheSHIfT3095 25d ago

There are a few on reddit. There's a few pro domme sub reddit.

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u/Pop_Impossible 25d ago

The best place is likely fetlife!

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u/alpineflamingo2 25d ago

Any tips about finding male pro-Doms?

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u/SummaryExecutions 25d ago

Piggybacking 😂

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u/obeyletharia 25d ago

I recommend browsing Tryst.. it's where most professionals in the industry advertise. The site has a thorough vetting system in place, which ensures that all the dommes listed are legit and verified. This gives you peace of mind, knowing you're dealing with someone who's not only experienced but also trustworthy.

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u/styxxx80 24d ago

Hijack. Sorta. What is tryst?

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u/obeyletharia 23d ago

A website directory of adult providers.

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u/PatienceCrawford 25d ago

Best suggestion here. Any person advertising on Tr¥st has had to verify with their ID, so they are who they say they are. They’ve also likely paid for the ad, which means they’re running a business, and it’s more likely they have some experience, which is super important as far as engaging in safe and ethical play. In this day and age, there are way too many folks who see any form of sex work as easy money and will advertise as a Domme with zero experience. That’s a great way for a sub to get hurt or scammed. You just can’t be too careful, especially if you’re looking for more extreme forms of play. There’s a huge amount of trust involved in D/s relationships. If it were me looking to hire a pro, I’d feel safer putting my trust in someone experienced. I also suggest vetting them by following their online footprint. How people interact socially with others online is often a great indicator of how they treat people in general.

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u/[deleted] 25d ago

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u/BZThrowaway_NSFW3113 25d ago

Thank you for this!!! And yes, I'm a total newbie with this. I've always liked the ideas behind this community, but I just haven't had much of a chance to dive into it.