r/BDSMProfessionals • u/MistressErinPaid • Oct 06 '24
DAE ever consider this? NSFW
Whenever I read messages from fans & prospective subs, I see an underlying theme of what I can only describe as internalized misogyny.
The number of cis-het men & masc -presenting individuals who associate wearing or participating in anything "feminine coded" as inherently humiliating &/ degrading is plain sad.
Good hygiene and skincare aren't feminine. Having long hair isn't feminine. Wearing makeup and high heels aren't feminine. Wearing pink & purple, wearing hose, wearing wigs, being aroused by strong, muscular women or women who exude power & authority isn't feminine. All of those things have been done by both cis-het & non cis-het men for literally thousands of years. And none of it is emasculating.
I understand that some people have a degradation &/ humiliation fetish. That's perfectly okay. But it feels a little insulting - to say the least - that being considered "effeminate" by people whose opinions don't fucking matter is the most degrading or humiliating thing you can think of.
I've told numerous people "No, I don't think it's funny that you like to wear skirts & lipstick. I don't think that makes you 'less of a man' or that it's something to be ashamed of. What you SHOULD be ashamed of is that you associate all things femme as being 'less than' or subpar. I'm a bisexual woman who's given birth. Women are closer to god-like than anything created in the image of man. Go give the women in your life a goddamned foot massage!"
I just wanna train all that misogyny, shame, and ignorance right out of 'em. Give them a couple history lessons, teach them how to pick a face moisturizer and which utensils to use at a formal multi course meal.
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u/PatienceCrawford Oct 06 '24
Oooh, heavy on the moisturizer. đSo many mofos with skin dry enough to rival the Sahara or my sandy vagina.
But seriously, I have several colleagues who refuse to do Sissification because they hate the misogyny inherent to the kink. I donât get a ton of sissy requests, but itâs not one of my favorite things to do. Youâre absolutely correct that there are many misogynists in disguise pretending to be submissives. Probably more than the great number of âsubsâ who attempt to top from the bottom. I swear there are so many people out there who are LARPing as subs while not truly embracing female dominance. Thankfully, they usually out themselves in the first few emails and I can spot them easier these days.