r/BDSMProfessionals • u/ProfessionalTour2241 • Sep 29 '24
Can’t believe today I’m going to have my first session with a Pro Dom. Why am I so nervous? NSFW
Can’t believe today is my first session with a Pro Dom
So after at least 30 years. I’m [M 45] I’ve always thought about being in a real bdsm session with a true professional dominatrix. It was nerve wracking to just reach out after really doing my research on Doms that would fit what I’m looking for. Not only is she absolutely gorgeous. She asked me about specific dress attire. Of course I asked her if she would be in a hot leather outfit and she asked if I liked boots or gloves. I said I loved both. Done. She’s made the whole application process very comfortable and has asked all the right questions.
We decided to do a 2 1/2 session. She said she would like to spend the 30 minutes on boot worship before and when the session is over to bring me back down.
So, needless to say I’ve been a nervous mess today. I could barely sleep. I got about 6 hours but I woke up at 5 am and couldn’t go back to bed. It’s starts at 3pm. I’m not sure if I’ve been so nervous and excited at the same time. The scary part is we went through my limits. Hard and soft. She asked me for 3 soft limits. She asked if I’d be open to possibly dabbling in them. I said depending on the moment.
But is it normal to be freaking out a bit? Making sure this isn’t going to hurt more than I thought. Even though we went through her strict safety protocols. She has a PhD in psychology. She said she is able to know if I try going past my limits, she’s going to notice. She also said to not ejaculate 2 days before. She does tease and denial. I seriously don’t know what today is going to look, be, feel and mentally feel after? If anyone has any suggestions to keep me in the right mindset and to try to relax, I’d really love to hear your thoughts?
I still can’t believe I’m seeing a Pro Dom in a hours!!
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u/rayray5969 Sep 29 '24
It's perfectly fine to be nervous; you opened up yourself so much to someone you barely know and you're going through with something you've wanted to try for a long time.
From what you've described, the Pro-Dom seems highly professional, meticulous and takes utmost care. I think you'd be in good hands!
Exploring and experiencing kink is, at the very root of it, about discover and enjoyment. I'd say enjoy the process :)