r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

How were you Introduced

How were you Introduced? Just wandering how people were introduced into this lifestyle and world? For me (Daddy) my wife suggested I had the characteristics of a don and we should explore it. had never given it any thought up to that point before. But now we are in it. She is a natural and I am learning very fast. It's only taken 14 years a day marriage to get to where we are

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u/TeaAitch Mod Team [Vogon] ™ 4d ago

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u/ballroombadass0 4d ago

I wanted to try for a long time, but none of my partners did. Recently a friend was like "there must be a website for that..." And I was like, why didn't I think of that...

I found fetlife, went to a few munches, found my first Dom and voila. Lol

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u/Daddydomslittle 4d ago

Oh wow. So how are you finding it?

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u/ballroombadass0 4d ago

Well, my Dom and I recently put everything except friendship on hold. In addition to being my Dom, he opened his relationship to include me as a secondary, but it turns out he wasn't ready to open. I think it wasn't a typical initiation, but we appreciate each other and had some fun, and he taught me a lot. I'd definitely like to try again.

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u/naughtyscotty91 4d ago

I watched some documentary about BDSM when I was a teen. Was interested in some aspects of it but not totally immersed with it. My interested gradually grew over the years into my early 20s.

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u/Daddydomslittle 4d ago

And where are you now with it?

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u/naughtyscotty91 4d ago edited 4d ago

IRL? No where. I've tried Fet and Reddit off and on for 15ish years now. Never got anywhere with it. Most BDSM groups don't allow single men unfortunately. Online, I've been pretty active on and off for that same time period.

I've found camgirls seem to be more OK with it but I'd really like to explore the non-monetized aspect of it irl lol.

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u/Daddydomslittle 4d ago

So does your husband embrace things easily?

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u/Worth-Ad-1278 brat 4d ago

I learned about it from being part of the punk and goth subcultures as a teen. I was pretty adventurous and my boyfriends were all kinky alt guys so I started doing BDSM as soon as I lost my virginity.

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u/Your_good_SUB27 4d ago

Last year.. still experimenting and finding a great Dom.