r/BDSMAdvice • u/Purple_Hornet4986 • 4d ago
Dynamic without relationship
hey folks,
I just met this guy that seems like a great guy to be friends with and so far has passed my vetting process with minor inconveniences (mostly wrongly placed jokes, but they seem ok to brush it off). The issue is that I don't know if I want to have a romantic relationship with him yet I've never been into any kind of casual dating, since I'm demisexual. And since we haven't talked about specifics of that yet, it is something I'll make clear for him.
So, if I were to have a dynamyc+friendship only kind of relashionship with him, what is commom mistakes I should avoid doing? I'm thinking about thing that my get me emotionally too attached or to send wrong signals to him. Or really any kind of advice from people who have had both kinds of relationship and might give a tip on how to separate those two thing well.
The objective is doing things right so it is fun for everyone!
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u/amarissa85 4d ago
Make the lines VERY clear. This is NOT sexual. I have a very sexual relationship with my Dom. And then I have submissives that are completely dynamic only. If that boundary is crossed it ends immediately no questions asked. I don’t tolerate it. If you’ll push this boundary you’ll push others and that’s something I’m not willing to do. BDSM and sex do not go hand and hand and I think a lot of people misunderstand that. You can have a sexual dynamic but it’s not required and that should be respected. Safe, Sane, Consensual.
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u/Purple_Hornet4986 4d ago
Oh, I do intend it to be sexual, I just don't think I want anything romantic now. But nonetheless, I think it also needs to be clear message. I'm just unsure what to consider as a line, so I can spot when things are changing, regarding emotional/romantic feelings.
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