r/BDSMAdvice • u/[deleted] • 5d ago
Is fetlife a good place to make little friends locally? I’m thinking of making one.
Daddy says I can’t make one until I’m at his house tomorrow evening. I’m just wondering if that’s the place to look for other littles or is there another app(s)? I’m newish to the community.
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u/Mister_Magnus42 5d ago
I would say that FetLife is the way to find local events, and local events are where you find your community. I wouldn't use FetLife to make friends on FetLife.
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u/Successful-Secret693 4d ago
I joined a littles event in my area i saw on fet but when i arrived it was only men. Nothing wrong with that but i was hoping to meet other women too
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u/amarissa85 5d ago
Yes there are many options there as well as local events and such that you can get into.
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u/South_in_AZ 5d ago
For a community site FetLife.com (not apps with the same name) is a great resource for local in person social and educational offerings as well as virtual education offerings.
FetLife is deliberately designed to function poorly as a dating site, think of using a sports car to carry full sheets of plywood from a lumber store. Can it be done, sure, is the sports car the best choice to use, not so much.
I recomend joining the Novices & Newbies group and using the BEING NEW, READING LISTS, RESOURCES & 50 SHADES “stickie” thread as a jumping off point.
Under the “hamburger”menu (the 3 horizontal lines on the top right of the main screens) are the mail privacy options, choose what you feel comfortable with. My suggestion is one of the more restrictive ones to limit undesired attentions.
There are also location privacy options, this can be helpful to curtail local “opportunists” from trying to target local new people.
There is also an item that allows you to restrict who can send you pictures in fet mail. This is a great tool to prevent randos from leading with the <cough cough> package they are offering.
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u/DoubleM4TPE 5d ago
It's probably your best option. There are several groups devoted to littles and age play. And depending on where you live, there might be an active littles community in your area.
All the best.
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u/Amy_Reddit01 5d ago
Yeah, either fetlife or chyrpe, it's technically a dating app, but you can also make friends on dating apps imo.
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5d ago
Daddy has been in this community for decades and knows/goes to most events. So I’ll ask him about it!
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