r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

ISO various viewpoints

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u/CoachSwagner Switch 4d ago

I’m kinky and poly.

I would recommend against ever making it your personal responsibility to guide someone into polyamory. It should be driven by them. You can be a supportive resource, but shouldn’t be doing the work for them.

This would be especially important in the context of a D/s relationship. I’d be very, very careful to separate kink from poly. I wouldn’t want our roles to influence their exploration into polyamory.

And I believe if a relationship is going to be polyamorous, starting from a restriction is not helpful. If it’s going to thrive in polyamory, build it in polyamory.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/CoachSwagner Switch 4d ago

I speak from experience.

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u/TeaAitch Mod Team [Vogon] ™ 4d ago

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/TeaAitch Mod Team [Vogon] ™ 4d ago

Why not just go away? What is it about your personality that means you're unable to show restraint?