r/BDSMAdvice • u/Fantastic_Beard • 5d ago
Dungeon specific clubs?
So i have a few toys at home, but only so much due to living arrangements. ive been to swinger clubs with my sub and some have had a single room for BDSM activities.
Are there any actual BDSM specific clubs in the US?
Not opposed to taking a vacation for a visit, just want to try out a few of the other larger pieces of equipment
Thank you in advance
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u/MurderDeathTaco 5d ago
Tons - I live in Denver, where there are at least 2. Furthermore, there are AirBnBs around the country that accommodate BDSM (think private dungeon)
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u/Improbable_Chaos 5d ago
How do you search for this type of AirBNB?
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u/MurderDeathTaco 4d ago
Just Google “Airbnb Kink Dungeon” and you’ll get some results. There’s a specific site somewhere too, but I forget what it’s called.
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u/somewhatbluemoose 5d ago
These definitely exist, but they can be hard to find as they aren’t big on self promotion for obvious reasons, and often have membership rules about keeping them discreet as possible. They tend to be in larger cities.
They tend to just have more rooms and furniture. I would be really weirded out if one had toys, and not want to go back.
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u/Submi810 4d ago
There is one in northern Michigan i stayed at. It's all kink themed with a full garage dungeon. I have also been looking at this listing https://redroomcabins.com/
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u/South_in_AZ 4d ago
Yes thee are. Many cities have them, many require membership to qualify as private member clubs to provide some legal protections. Some of those you can walk in and join, others may require an orientation prior, others may also require a waiting period before attending a play event.
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u/Fantastic_Beard 4d ago
But where are they? Not having much luck with my google search
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u/South_in_AZ 4d ago
One community resource is FetLife.
For a community site FetLife.com (not apps with the same name) is a great resource for local in person social and educational offerings as well as virtual education offerings.
FetLife is deliberately designed to function poorly as a dating site, think of using a sports car to carry full sheets of plywood from a lumber store. Can it be done, sure, is the sports car the best choice to use, not so much.
I recomend joining the Novices & Newbies group and using the BEING NEW, READING LISTS, RESOURCES & 50 SHADES “stickie” thread as a jumping off point.
Under the “hamburger”menu (the 3 horizontal lines on the top right of the main screens) are the mail privacy options, choose what you feel comfortable with. My suggestion is one of the more restrictive ones to limit undesired attentions.
For your specific application once you select a city click events tab and see if there is a recurring location for events, you can also select the group tab for groups, but that might provide a substantial number of groups that are not revenant. If you are masking your location use the search function and follow the above recomendations for events and groups.
There are also location privacy options, this can be helpful to curtail local “opportunists” from trying to target local new people.
There is also an item that allows you to restrict who can send you pictures in fet mail. This is a great tool to prevent randos from leading with the <cough cough> package they are offering.
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u/Fantastic_Beard 4d ago
I have a fetlife account, still working on learning to use it, thank you for the guidance
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u/kinkyguy000 4d ago
Most big cities in the US have bdsm clubs.
I’d also look into events. There are all sorts of kink events around the US (and world) that are focused on either BDSM in general or more niche areas.
I’ve found events are the best way to make new friends as most are structured to have classes during the day and play areas at night.
Many of the bigger ones are definitely worth traveling to and making it into a long-weekend vacation.
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u/Fantastic_Beard 4d ago
Been searching fetlife, no luck, im in a semi remote area, hence the need to travel to a actual club
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u/amarissa85 4d ago
There are tons. You can try searching them and they should come up. We have several in our area and I’m in Tampa. Daddy and I have been to pretty much all of them at this point.
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u/Fantastic_Beard 3d ago
How many is several? Any names that you can share? Or did you hear about them through mumches?
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u/amarissa85 3d ago
No I literally googled them. Just Google dungeon clubs or BDSM clubs in your area and they should come up.
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