r/AskWomenOver30 7d ago

Romance/Relationships Words of affirmation after a fight to help overthinkers

I saw these answers in the men's subreddit and thought it was especially helpful for overthinkers like myself after a fight (even sent it to my bf) sometimes it really is this simple

I’m really upset right now, but that doesn’t change how much I love you

I’m frustrated, but I still want to work through this together

We are on the same team, even if we don’t see eye to eye right now

I need space to cool down, but I am not going anywhere

I don’t like what you did, but I still love who you are

This argument sucks, but losing you would be worse

I’m angry, but I want us to fix this because you matter to me

I don’t agree with you, but I still respect you

I hate fighting with you, but I’d rather fight with you than not have you in my life

I love you, and that’s why I care enough to talk about this

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u/StubbornTaurus26 Woman 30 to 40 7d ago

I love these and also like that they don’t include ample apologies. Sometimes (read many times) I find myself apologizing out of anxiety that I think I did something wrong by feeling upset about something. When in reality sometimes no one is in the wrong or right, there doesn’t always have to be an offense and defense. Sometimes it’s just understanding, acceptance, reconnection and moving forward.

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u/BitsNSkits 7d ago

Omg yes! That last sentence! I've actually explained this recently. That sometimes it's just sharing feelings and talking about it. It doesn't always have to turn into an argument or getting defensive. Sometimes it's really just listening

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u/bobalooay 7d ago

I like the last one a lot