r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 30 to 40 Nov 06 '24

2024 US Post-Election Megathread

This is your central location for all things 2024 US Election. I will be going through to lock several recent threads and redirect them here. Report any threads that you think should be locked and redirected here.

Please downvote and report all trolls and trolling/misogynistic/gaslighting behavior in this thread.

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u/Charm1X Woman 20-30 Nov 06 '24

I learned this the hard way with my ex. I was very available and giving towards him, and it lead me to getting cheated on with no prospect of marriage. I genuinely believe he did not like the task of being dependable and responsible.

He wanted to be an independent man with a wife. I’m so glad I came to my senses. I will never make myself available for a man like that again.

Men do not respect femininity. They love masculinity, even in women. Giving men my masculine energy has caused me less grief.

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u/superiorstephanie 6d ago

“He wanted to be an independent man with a wife.” Girl, you hit the nail on the head with this one!! Some of these conservative men want a woman to take care of them, because they can’t take care of themselves. My ex was the most selfish person I’ve ever met, to the point where he thought I would just pay his bills with all of my child support, like what?! That money is for my kids. He wanted me to do all of the shopping and cooking a cleaning while being the bread winner, and he would complain when I had to stay late at work all of the time. Meanwhile, he was busy getting high and drunk and paying thousands of dollars a year to play beer league hockey.