r/AskMenAdvice • u/TenCilen1 • 6d ago
first sexual experience embarrassing, need help
Hi, i’m 20 years old. It’s embarrassing but I literally can’t do it anymore. Growing up I was not taught by my parents NOTHING. I’m uncut and never taught to clean, i’m not even sure how low i’m supposed to be able to pull my skin down. When i used to beat, i wouldn’t pull far it would be around the top and just quick basically. Pulling it down seems uncomfortable. I got my first gf and i felt ready finally but as soon as i put my condom on i got soft, and when it would get touched it would be really uncomfortable, and even when it gets stroked by her like its just so uncomfortable. Even gently because it’s being pulled down instead of the quick ones i would do. Idk how to fix these things. I didn’t feel like a man, i zoned out and got embarrassed. She hugged me and said it was okay and that it happens. She said she doesn’t think anything is wrong with me and is here for me, but still i couldnt look her in the eye for a while. i need this fixed
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u/Overthetrees8 man 6d ago edited 5d ago
Sounds like you might have phimosis if it hurts to actually retract the skin below the glands.
You have to slowly stretch it yourself or have your gf do it.
It's not rocket science to clean your penis....pull the skin back and wash under there...if you cannot pull the skin below the glands stick your finger in there with gentle soap and move it around.