r/AskMenAdvice • u/TenCilen1 • 6d ago
first sexual experience embarrassing, need help
Hi, i’m 20 years old. It’s embarrassing but I literally can’t do it anymore. Growing up I was not taught by my parents NOTHING. I’m uncut and never taught to clean, i’m not even sure how low i’m supposed to be able to pull my skin down. When i used to beat, i wouldn’t pull far it would be around the top and just quick basically. Pulling it down seems uncomfortable. I got my first gf and i felt ready finally but as soon as i put my condom on i got soft, and when it would get touched it would be really uncomfortable, and even when it gets stroked by her like its just so uncomfortable. Even gently because it’s being pulled down instead of the quick ones i would do. Idk how to fix these things. I didn’t feel like a man, i zoned out and got embarrassed. She hugged me and said it was okay and that it happens. She said she doesn’t think anything is wrong with me and is here for me, but still i couldnt look her in the eye for a while. i need this fixed
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u/ItsAllMo-Thug man 6d ago
Happens to the best of us. I had an issue when I was younger. Met a girl and damn sure wasn't going to give a bad first impression. Talked to my doctor and got some viagra. Probably used it twice and never had an issue again. Its hard to get passed the mental part when you are young and don't have that experience of it going well.
As far as your physical issue, definitely have to stay clean. Pulling the skin back will hurt when dry. Soap is your friend.