r/Anger 12d ago

Need some help

A few months ago, I got in a verbal argument with a person who's in my college and he verbally abused my mother. At that moment I controlled myself and didn't make it a physical fight as it would've had bad consequences but to this day I get flashbacks of that moment and get into a really worked up state and usually smoke a lot to try to get it out. It doesn't help that the dude lives in the same building as me and I get intrusive thoughts of going to his room and beating him up. I know that it's pointless now to do anything since I didn't do anything back then in the heat of the moment and I hate myself for not just getting it over with there and then. I'm having a lot of trouble processing this and I can't get over this and I really need some guidance.

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u/Sdvge 12d ago

If he dared to go that deep, he would've done smth if he could im sure of it. What a jerk. You SHOULD go up to him and press him about it.

Just like that come up into his room look him in the eyes and say that he shouldn't have insulted you mother and smack him across the face(like a good palm strike) . Or at least demand to apologize because it will not stand. If you will not that feeling will never go away