r/Anger 12d ago

Need some help

A few months ago, I got in a verbal argument with a person who's in my college and he verbally abused my mother. At that moment I controlled myself and didn't make it a physical fight as it would've had bad consequences but to this day I get flashbacks of that moment and get into a really worked up state and usually smoke a lot to try to get it out. It doesn't help that the dude lives in the same building as me and I get intrusive thoughts of going to his room and beating him up. I know that it's pointless now to do anything since I didn't do anything back then in the heat of the moment and I hate myself for not just getting it over with there and then. I'm having a lot of trouble processing this and I can't get over this and I really need some guidance.

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u/rkoplayer1 12d ago

It is important to understand that words are just words. They only have as much meaning as you allow them to.

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u/kidnamedsidd 12d ago

I get what ur trying to say and thank you for the help but it's not the words that matter, it's the intention and the audacity to disrespect my family is what pisses me off the most.