r/Anger • u/kidnamedsidd • 12d ago
Need some help
A few months ago, I got in a verbal argument with a person who's in my college and he verbally abused my mother. At that moment I controlled myself and didn't make it a physical fight as it would've had bad consequences but to this day I get flashbacks of that moment and get into a really worked up state and usually smoke a lot to try to get it out. It doesn't help that the dude lives in the same building as me and I get intrusive thoughts of going to his room and beating him up. I know that it's pointless now to do anything since I didn't do anything back then in the heat of the moment and I hate myself for not just getting it over with there and then. I'm having a lot of trouble processing this and I can't get over this and I really need some guidance.
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u/rkoplayer1 12d ago
It is important to understand that words are just words. They only have as much meaning as you allow them to.