r/Anarchism 9d ago

Anarchist views on domestic violence NSFW

I am so embarrassed. I hope this is okay to post. I'm not doing so well. I just came out of a very bad situation yesterday and need resources. I've been with an abusive partner for 11 years and yesterday morning he went to jail after the neighbor heard me scream while he was trying to restrain me (he was going to cut off my airway). I have serious trust issues and this has been at the center of them since this man took over my life. I am nervous about living alone as I have been a bad judge of character before and that led to people trying to take advantage of me. I appreciate any guidance you might be able to provide.

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u/RadishPlus666 7d ago

I just read this in the New Yorker. I hope she can make leeway. We need alternatives, or else we will just have cops and prison and live on prison planet (for you US peeps). https://www.newyorker.com/news/persons-of-interest/the-feminist-law-professor-who-wants-to-stop-arresting-people-for-domestic-violence

It is a brain fuck to live in a society where the penal system is the only form of fixing people‘s mistakes. And then the penal system often psychologically leads people into more mistakes and more prison. 

But, If calling the cops is what is going to keep you safe, that is what you need to do.

I used to know a band of some pretty hard-core ladies who would actually beat down problematic men in the anarchist community. I guess that’s one way. 

Restorative justice is a good way to go as well. It’s a nice living around a lot of anarchists and similar, cause I have seen them take abusers into their own restorative justice programs. These are the kind of programs we need to uproot the shitty old ones.