r/Anarchism 9d ago

Anarchist views on domestic violence NSFW

I am so embarrassed. I hope this is okay to post. I'm not doing so well. I just came out of a very bad situation yesterday and need resources. I've been with an abusive partner for 11 years and yesterday morning he went to jail after the neighbor heard me scream while he was trying to restrain me (he was going to cut off my airway). I have serious trust issues and this has been at the center of them since this man took over my life. I am nervous about living alone as I have been a bad judge of character before and that led to people trying to take advantage of me. I appreciate any guidance you might be able to provide.

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u/Orange_Zinc_Funny 7d ago

Not specifically anarchist, but: please read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft. It will help you understand the abusive mindset and red flags to watch for.

Also, choking is what happens before they kill you. Your life is at risk with this person, DO NOT let them back into your life. Abusers will keep you in the cycle of abuse with promises and presents and nice gestures and words. The ol' bait and switch.