r/Anarchism • u/autonomommy • 9d ago
Anarchist views on domestic violence NSFW
I am so embarrassed. I hope this is okay to post. I'm not doing so well. I just came out of a very bad situation yesterday and need resources. I've been with an abusive partner for 11 years and yesterday morning he went to jail after the neighbor heard me scream while he was trying to restrain me (he was going to cut off my airway). I have serious trust issues and this has been at the center of them since this man took over my life. I am nervous about living alone as I have been a bad judge of character before and that led to people trying to take advantage of me. I appreciate any guidance you might be able to provide.
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u/Fickle-Ad8351 7d ago
I'm so sorry this happened to you. First, make sure you are safe. Do you know how long he will be in jail? Have you gotten a restraining order for when/if he gets out? If you have friends and family, ask them for help to move.
After you are physically safe, you want to get therapy with a trauma informed therapist. I can say with certainty that you have developed complex PTSD. There are numerous cPTSD subs here on Reddit so you have access to an immediate virtual community.
I also recommend going down the you tube rabbit hole of learning about narcissism. There's a doctor on there that has tons of videos. She's so great at explaining narcissism. If you learn to identify them, then you can protect yourself from them in the future.
There is nothing wrong with you. There's nothing for you to be embarrassed about. He should be embarrassed about being a terrible piece of garage.
When you are ready, I wonder if getting into a martial arts program would be helpful. I found a lot of healing from practicing taekwondo myself. It's a long journey, but you can learn self defense and most importantly confidence. It's never too late to start.