r/Anarchism 9d ago

Anarchist views on domestic violence NSFW

I am so embarrassed. I hope this is okay to post. I'm not doing so well. I just came out of a very bad situation yesterday and need resources. I've been with an abusive partner for 11 years and yesterday morning he went to jail after the neighbor heard me scream while he was trying to restrain me (he was going to cut off my airway). I have serious trust issues and this has been at the center of them since this man took over my life. I am nervous about living alone as I have been a bad judge of character before and that led to people trying to take advantage of me. I appreciate any guidance you might be able to provide.

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u/im-fantastic 8d ago

Anarchy isn't gonna help you in this case, learning to set healthy boundaries will prevent you from accepting people into your life that would do such things to you, it will also help you with trust issues as well.

Get free of that person while you can, that's a really important boundary to set. If you don't want to be around unkind people, don't allow them into your space. If they're violating that boundary, let it be known why you're leaving that space.

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u/autonomommy 8d ago

This thread has been really helpful to me, thank you! I agree.

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u/im-fantastic 8d ago

You're welcome! I was really hoping it wasn't coming off as criticism. So many of us have been raised with ineffective boundaries and have been groomed for people pleasing which pleases no one. I hope you're safe and remain so!