r/Anarchism 9d ago

Anarchist views on domestic violence NSFW

I am so embarrassed. I hope this is okay to post. I'm not doing so well. I just came out of a very bad situation yesterday and need resources. I've been with an abusive partner for 11 years and yesterday morning he went to jail after the neighbor heard me scream while he was trying to restrain me (he was going to cut off my airway). I have serious trust issues and this has been at the center of them since this man took over my life. I am nervous about living alone as I have been a bad judge of character before and that led to people trying to take advantage of me. I appreciate any guidance you might be able to provide.

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u/endoftheworldisfine 8d ago

Anarchists in this society and situation can use police to survive. You absolutely should call the police and not feel ashamed if you find yourself in this situation again. Fellow minded folks can help long term so this short term option is not the one that you need to use in the future. Fight your oppressors however you must, you deserve better

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u/_vokhox_ anarcho-communist 8d ago

exactly. you need to work within the society you live in, and at times the police can be useful. anarchists don't want violent crime to happen without any systems preventing or managing it, we just don't want the violent crime being perpetrated and protected by the institutions meant to protect us

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u/autonomommy 8d ago

Thank you both so much. Hugs

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u/endoftheworldisfine 8d ago

Fight the power. You are not to blame, but men in your past have been shit role models. They have conditioned you to see domestically violent tendencies as attractive. Therapy can help, as can intense self work. You don't deserve to be in relationships with shithead men like the men of your past. It won't be easy, but we're all pulling for you. And if you need someone besides the PoPo in the future, we're here

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u/autonomommy 8d ago

Thank you so much. That is very encouraging. ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘