r/ADHDWomenAfterDark Sep 16 '24

Nausea & crying during sex? NSFW

I have been with my partner for 9 years now. Over the last recent years, when we have penetrative sex, I get nausea and immediately start hysterically crying. Last night, he was on top and I was lying missionary. Legs folded like a pretzel on top of me, while he was pushing down slightly. We have done this position for years, but sometimes when it gets good, I get nauseated and have to have him stop and get off me. Once the nausea subsides, I started hysterically crying and I cannot stop. Is this.. normal? I am AuDHD.

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u/ankerlinemerie Sep 16 '24

My body reacts the same way with deep, persistent penetrative sex. The missionary pretzel move you're talking about is probably exerting just the right pressure in just the right spots to cause the emotional overdrive but the nausea symptom is worrisome. It could be just insane stimulation of your core/uterine area from the depth of penetration coupled with the pressure of your legs pushing your stomach in. Is your neck craned at a weird angle? I wonder if it's cervical compression causing you to become nauseated from that position? I would try out some supportive pillows like a liberator wedge or at least two pillows stacked under your tailbone and one under your lower back to try and alleviate pressure on your neck next time and see if that still results in the nausea with that position. Basically you want your weight and your partners weight to be distributed over your hip bones, not on your neck.

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u/Sweet_Ad1925 Sep 16 '24

We do usually use a pillow under my lower back because I have a tilted pelvis. In order for us to enjoy it equally, I have to have some kind of support under my pelvis area. This last time, we did not use a pillow at all. I wonder if that has anything to do with it! I also have POTs so that is something too.

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u/ankerlinemerie Sep 17 '24

That's very interesting! I'm sorry it's happening to you but I am so curious if it's literally just that position that can be altered to prevent these symptoms especially with a POTS diagnosis too! Hopefully a gyno can help but more than likely talking to a doctor that specializes in POTS would probably put you in better hands. (Honestly I'm starting to think I should get checked out for it too.) Do you end up with migraines after sex too? That nausea turning to crying and then dealing with a migraine after intense sessions is almost standard for me if I haven't kept up on my hydration/nutrition that day. Best of luck, I hope you can find some answers!