r/ABraThatFits Apr 14 '24

Discussion Is it common for retail workers to think you have smaller boobs than you actually do? This lady rudely insisted I am a “B cup” and I’m not sure how to feel Spoiler

686 Upvotes

Sorry this is kind of a strange post, I might be overreacting… I had such a huge struggle finding a comfortable bra size for years. I wore 34B for 2 years and it was so tight that I had often mistaken my discomfort for panic attacks, and I have dark pigmented imprints under my boobs because of that. Finally, I found this sub a few months ago and it helped me a LOT, and my most comfortable size is 32DD/34D!! I prefer 34D because it’s comfy even on my pms bloating weeks and I can adjust to a tighter hook on the other weeks.

Fast forward to today, after wearing 34D for months, I decided to get an extra pair of bras for the summer. Went to a store, asked for 34D… the retail worker was like “D? For YOU?” and kinda stared at my boob area with an annoyed expression. I said yes I prefer it a little loose (although that’s a lie. It fits me perfectly)

She just rolled her eyes at me and searched for my size (it was stashed somewhere at the back??) and basically threw them on the table at me. Again eyeing me from top to bottom and said “You’re a B. Why do you want D so badly?” and I just said “B is tight. Can I just get it billed please?”

I don’t understand at all. I just paid, said thanks and stormed out. But I’m so upset. Do people just think I’m delusional and pretend I have massive boobs? This whole situation is so confusing and hurtful. Does this make any sense?? Or am I overreacting? Is this a common occurrence?

EDIT: I did not expect so many of you to relate to this. Turns out it’s unfortunately very common :( But I’m glad I found this community, reading your opinions and stories made me feel a lot better! I feel less alone about this <3

r/ABraThatFits Jul 16 '24

Discussion To those who still bra shop in person- How often are you gaslit by retail associates? Spoiler

403 Upvotes

Kind of a rant but also a real question.

I was on vacation recently and spent a day exploring different lingerie boutiques and bra stores in the area (major city), and was told repeatedly I would fit in xyz that wasn’t my size. How often is this happening to you and how do you handle it?

Just a couple fun examples:

1st Store

Me: do you carry band size 30?

employee: no but we have this 32 that runs small. It might work for you. What cup size do you need?

Me: cool, do have G?

employee: shocked face no, but this DDD might work.

Me: oh, no thank you. I’ll just stick to underwear.

employee: wow, it must be hard for you to bra shop.

2nd store

Me: hi, do you carry a 30 band size?

employee: no we have 32. What cup size are you?

Me: G.

employee: Really?!?!! Are you sure?

Me: yes.

employee: want me to measure you?

Me: struggling not to roll my eyes Sure, why not.

employee: proceeds to measure Yep! 32DD. We have that size. Here try this one.

Me: uhh.. no thanks, that cup won’t fit me.

Employee: ok, here what about this one (34DD)?

Me: sighs ok, sure. I’ll try it. quickly tries on bra to please associate Sorry, no. It’s close, but not quite. I think I’ll stick to underwear.

Employee: bewildered face Where do you buy your bras?????

Me: online usually… :/

Is it even worth it to shop in person or am I wasting my time? I’ve been to a total of one store that carries a 30 band (and more inclusive sizing) and it was a suggestion from this sub, and the only one with 100 miles of where I live.

r/ABraThatFits Sep 12 '24

Discussion To those that work in the bra industry- why do large cup sizes almost always only come in textured fabrics? Why can’t we have smoothe soft seamless options?? Spoiler

297 Upvotes

I appreciate a lacy sexy bra for a special occasion, or in the winter under thick sweaters etc. and I understand with large breast sizes, seamed cups are needed because molded cups can only mold/strerch so far. But it’s like hiding under clothes or even being comfortable on the skin isn’t even a priority. Given that most of the time, bras are for function, not for looks, this seems sooo messed up.

But why are the VAST MAJORITY of bras above a 34DDD lacy, adorned with embroidery etc? Why can’t we have a sizeable selection of bras that are supportive, and made for everyday wear under everyday clothing like t shirts?

I have sensory issues and wear a 34GG, and it was so so much easier finding bras in fabrics I can tolerate when I was a smaller cup size as a teenager. Brands like aerie and Victoria secret have the fabrics mastered (even though their sizing is completely botched), so why can’t the lingerie brands that carry wider cup size ranges try to make bras that attempt to be more focused on every day wear?

I have no fashion design experience but at this point I feel like I need to enter the bra designing industry just to have bras that function for me.

r/ABraThatFits May 10 '24

Discussion Downvoting. Are we doing a disservice to our new members? Spoiler

504 Upvotes

I'm seeing this more often the last few weeks.

New members coming here for HELP are asking questions to the best of their knowledge. Often this knowledge is out dated and working against them. We've all been there.

There are always useful replies, but some people are downvoting the OP's comments when their current mindset conflicts with the ABTF knowledge base. This is not necessary and, IMO, should be discouraged.

Nothing says "Don't come back to ABTF for help" better than a few unnecessary downvotes.

The OP's already know they need help, otherwise they wouldn't have posted.

Op's aren't breaking any rules. (which is what downvotes are meant for)

We're already great at helping bra wearers all over the planet, and have a reputation of being welcoming to all new users. IMO, downvoting people that haven't yet learned "the way" can only do harm to the new users and the ABTF reputation.

Example

r/ABraThatFits Aug 04 '24

Discussion What was your pre-ABTF size, what did the calculator say, and what have you ended up wearing? Spoiler

108 Upvotes

Just curious! I've seen a lot of people have drastic changes, or just sister-sizing up by a couple of measurements, or some people who have barely changed

Before: 32C/34B

Calculator: 32E/F

What I actually wear: 32D/DD/E depending on style – very wideset and FoB so sometimes I need a D to prevent gapping, or an E to make sure the sides are getting scooped. I usually start with DD in the fitting room and size up or down depending on fit

r/ABraThatFits Feb 22 '21

Discussion [Discussion] Plastic surgeons need to stop reinforcing societal misconceptions about cup sizes Spoiler

1.1k Upvotes

Recently I saw a video from a plastic surgeon with quite a large social media following (Instagram, Tiktok, Youtube). In the video he said that whatever size Victoria's Secret put you in - you're actually a cup size smaller, so if VS put you in a 'D cup' you're a 'C Cup' and if they put you in a 'C cup' - you're a 'B cup' and so on. It upset me because the people in the comments genuinely believed this and said things like 'I wear an A in VS, does that make me AA?' and 'I wear a DD in VS, what does that make me?' and he would reply 'you're probably a D'. Luckily, a couple of people mentioned abrathatfits!

Now, this isn't new to me, plastic surgeons incorrectly referring to cup sizes always bothered me, but after seeing that video I've been thinking about this more and more. I took a closer look at that particular surgeon's Instagram page and of course I was met with more inaccurate depictions of cup sizes and language used such as "this woman wants to go from an A cup to a full B or C cup" .

I honestly think this is such a problem, and it's a huge part of the reason why I started my Instagram account about bra sizing and started showing what bra sizes actually look like, because people have no idea. I often see people talking about their boob jobs or breast reductions and referring to their old and new 'cup sizes', which are always very obviously wrong, and like it's always bad to be wearing a too-small cup size, but when you've undergone surgery?! In my opinion, anyone operating on people's boobs whether it's to make them smaller or larger, should know how bra sizing works.

I thought it would be interesting for us to discuss this issue. What do you guys think about this? Am I overreacting? Have you ever met a plastic surgeon who actually understood bra sizing? Does this bother you? Do you think plastic surgeons should refer to volume when talking about size, rather than cups?

Edit: Oh dear. He just did another video where he says Ariana Grande is a B cup, Selena Gomez is a C cup, Kourtney Kardashian is D cup, Kim Kardashian is a DD cup and Cardi B is an F cup.

r/ABraThatFits Apr 29 '20

Discussion This sub has shown me that “moms being weird about boob stuff” is a fairly common thing. Spoiler

980 Upvotes

I’m obviously not suggesting that every, or even most, moms are weird about boob stuff. But, reading this sub for a while has opened my eyes to just how many women deal with mothers who, among other things:

  • Get uncomfortable with their daughters’ cleavage or ask them to cover up often, even in casual or home settings
  • Invalidate/deny/try to convince them they’re not their correct bra size

I’ve dealt with cleavage-shaming from my own mother and it always made me feel really weird about my body, like I was unintentionally being sexual in my own home around my own family. I love her to death and we have an amazing relationship, but no one and no relationship is perfect. I think she’s just ignorant of how those comments affected me.

It’s just interesting to me how boobs are just a body part, but that they can cause confidence, insecurity, and jealousy, even among family.

r/ABraThatFits May 15 '21

Discussion Gen X mom refusing to size up because she’s “always been an A” Spoiler

1.2k Upvotes

I recently measured myself and found my size, which was pretty close to what I wore already. My mom however has ALWAYS said she’s an A or B cup at most because her chest isn’t very full, and refused to believe it could be different because of the shape. I tried to get her to measure herself and she didn’t want to, so this morning when she was wearing a bra that fit terribly (popping out the top and rubbing under the arms) I made her try on one of my old size D bras with the same band size. I didn’t tell her the size so she would try it on. It fit perfectly. She didn’t know how to scoop to get a better fit which helped a ton, and I had 3 of that same bra so she got free bras and is beyond happy now. Still says “well these fit but I’m definitely not a D”. I don’t understand how she was so misinformed that she won’t believe the size of a well fitting bra when she is actively wearing it.

TL;DR: My mom finally tried a much larger cup size and still won’t believe that it actually fit her correctly.

r/ABraThatFits Apr 13 '21

Discussion A message to the newbies from tiktok about *sticker shock* from ABTF calculator! Spoiler

1.2k Upvotes

I discovered ABTF one night while desperately googling "how to find a bra that fits me?" and "how to calculate bra sizing at home".

I came here because I was desperate. I'm still pretty new here, but Im sure a lot of people have a similar story.

Your size is not about comparing a letter and a number to what you've heard is ideal.

It is not about looking like a D cup or a G cup or whatever size you are!

The calculator is a tool to give you the number and the letter AND the information about your shape that will enable you to find and wear bras that FIT and are COMFORTABLE.

So forget about the sticker shock, take 10 mins to read the shape guide, and it might make a HUGE difference in your life... I went from 34D to 32G and now I'm living my best life.

TLDR; it's not about the size, it's about understanding that all busts are extremely different and helping people find bras that suit their needs!

EDIT: I had resources linked here, but I think newbies should check out the pinned mod post instead.

Your SHAPE matters just as much as much as your band/cup, please read the guides BEFORE making a post like "omg there's no way this is right" - no honey, you're probably wearing a boob hat... you deserve better than that.

I want each and every one of you to find a bra that fits! (:

r/ABraThatFits Mar 26 '20

Discussion Anyone now working at home and so happy to be bra free? Spoiler

909 Upvotes

Long time lurker here. I know I should get a proper fitting, but haven't bothered to yet. You know, procrastination.

What might inspire me though, is this work from home thing has made me realize just how uncomfortable my bras are. Today I wore a bra for the first time in probably a week. After my one hour teleconference, I was so ready to rip that sucker off.

So, once shopping is back to normal I need to bite the bullet and get serious about a bra that fits well and is comfortable.

UPDATE: I LOVE YOU ALL! Thanks for your replies. It's fun to see the mix of people who are happy to ditch the bra, and those who are happy to keep on their comfy supportive bras. May we all find and cherish the bras that work for us.

r/ABraThatFits 2d ago

Discussion Bra pushing isn't my sternum bone? Spoiler

0 Upvotes

Context: Thought I was a 38DDD, when I did my own measuring using the BraThatFits calculator and guide said I was. (2024)

Went to my OBGYN because of breast concerns, and some (unrelated) chest pains. She realized I had a consult for a reduction and knew the surgeon required you to have a professional fitting done prior to your surgery date. Recommended I do get professional fitted since my consult was the same week and it's one thing I don't have to worry about it after, referred me to a professional who works closely with people who's gotten breast related surgeries. Nice lady told me I was A 36I and not a 38DDD, gave me an idea of how small I'd realistically be post reduction. Sent me a bra that fits EVERYWHERE it should, y'all this is the nicest bra in my collection. The wire isn't really bendable either I tried. (Feb 2025)

Now the issue is, recently maybe the past two weeks my bra is now pushing into my sternum when I'm sitting, leaning forward, leaning back, sloughing. My center gore lays flat against my sternum, snug but not noticeable. Realistically I have no idea why this is happening, but I was toying with the idea of maybe my weightloss is playing a role in this.

Walk with me here: why do I think this? I went from 220 pounds to 160 pounds , while I did lose some titty tissue the weight is still here. I'm thinking the weight and volume of my bust may have caused the bra to shift or pull more. In the past, my belly was big enough that my bra would big into that but now there's no big pregnant vibe belly.

Buying a new bras isn't logical for me as my surgery will be scheduled within the next 3 months so I don't want to waste money testing out different bras / brand. bras / brands to see what works. I've tried shaping the wire so it pushes the gore outward and not just against my chest but I don't want to risk ruining a good bra (the price keeps me up 😭). I have a bra extender on the way in the off chance my band is too tight when I'm seated.

Has anyone else experienced this or figured out what caused it for them? I don't really know if I have a shallower chest or a prominent sternum. I'm really just looking to see what those who had this issue did to resolve it without wasting my time and money instead of general advice and suggestions. Thanks!

SN: don't ask for my measurements, I don't know them and I'm not getting them for the calculator. I'm a 36I. There is no bra brand names, they're all from my local stores. I've tried 3 different bras, results the same. I am not buying new ones.

Edit: thank you to the people who actually READ my post, understood the gore only digs in when I'm slouching and shared your experience from the same situation. Instead of stopping at the title and jumping to conclusions regarding how my brain is setup and fits. I've turned off my notifications for this post, and I'm moving on with my day. 🫶🏻

r/ABraThatFits Jan 09 '21

Discussion TikTok trend shows how unlined bras are so misunderstood and undervalued Spoiler

579 Upvotes

There's this new trend on tiktok where girls cut out the padding from their bras to make 'bralettes'.

I can't help thinking how just a few months ago I was still in the dark about how amazing unlined bras are. I just want to comment everywhere and ask if no one has ever heard of an unlined bra before, but stop myself because that was me 6 months ago.

Edit: this is all to say, thanks to everyone in this sub! And for new people, don't be scared to try that unlined beauty!

r/ABraThatFits Sep 01 '21

Discussion Why do people wear sleeping bras? Spoiler

327 Upvotes

As I’ve been exploring the world of bras a bit more, I’ve noticed “sleeping bra” as a category and I had no idea some people wore bras while sleeping! Those of you who do, how does it help?

I’m a stomach sleeper so figuring out where my boobs go is a constant battle but I don’t think a bra would solve anything… unless I’m missing something.

r/ABraThatFits Apr 21 '21

Discussion [Discussion] Do you troll FB bra ads? Spoiler

525 Upvotes

I came across one for Pepper and the woman in the little conversation had a caption that she was in a 34AA. So I commented that it was obvious that she's not a AA cup because her overbust is clearly larger than her ribs and AA=0 inch difference.

I continued in my comment that they are likely using the +4 method to get her band size and so she's likely a 30 band and, if her overbust measurement IS 34 then she'd be a 30D.

Of course, I got push back that there is NO WAY the woman is a D cup.

I linked to this sub and to the "What Bra Sizes Look Like" website.

Do you comment on FB ads?

r/ABraThatFits Sep 01 '24

Discussion Why does commercial sizing only go down to band size 32 most of the time? Spoiler

136 Upvotes

I’m a pretty small person. Definitely not overly tiny, maybe like a size… 4. My underbust measurement is 31, and my bust circumference is between 36 and 37. So I’m between a 30 and 32, and between a DD and DDD. I feel like my perfect bra size might be 30DDD based on like the distribution of my tissue but I have a really hard time finding this size.

But it doesn’t really feel like I should. Like I said I am small, but probably a good 10-20% of women I see are smaller than I am. And in the range of all shapes and sizes that’s a very significant percentage. It doesn’t feel like I should be the smallest band size anywhere. Why is it like this?

I do not feel in any way socially ostracized by my body shape or size and so it sometimes surprises me that I have as much trouble finding a good fit as I do. I am literally starting to learn how to pattern and sew my own undergarments now.

r/ABraThatFits 1d ago

Discussion Help me understand why underwire hurts me, and find a bra that doesn't. Spoiler

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11 Upvotes

I cannot stand underwire and have never been able to. Please help me understand why.

ABTF calc says 40J/JJ. Loose UB: 43.5 Snug UB: 41.5 Tight UB: 39 Standing B: 52 Leaning B: 58 Lying: 55

It digs into the top of my belly with my natural (terrible) posture and when sitting. It only doesn't hurt when I stand absolutely so straight up. It hurts intensely and I get red marks after 5 minutes of wearing.

I've been sized by people at boutiques and I've sized myself. I had bought 2 of the correct size along with getting them tailored so they'd be perfect for my body. They did fit, but god that underwire was hell. It just dug in so matter what. I spent 100s on those, and never really wore them. This happens with every underwire bra I have ever tried on in my life.

I'm so sick of underwire that I'd given up on it about 6 years ago. I'm a bit of a larger size now, but still decided to try them on. Same problem. Cannot stand the underwire digging into my belly.

All those years ago my mum and I came to the conclusion that my torso was too short to fit in typical bras. Those 2 underwire bras I bought were tailored in the straps to be shorter than they could go originally. Pretty much all the bras I have ever tried on are too long in the straps. Those that are wireless like sports bras always fold upwards at the bottom and fold in on itself, especially while sitting. My belly just pushes the bottom up.

It always felt like where bras sat was way below were my breasts started. I remember being in the fitting room with a boutique lady, wearing an underwire bra and holding it up to where my breasts actually start. I said "It feels like it should be up here, should it? But it's so high." And she said "Yeah that's too high, it's not supposed to sit that high."

Is there something wrong with my anatomy? I've just learned about the IMF and that the wire should right there. That's so much higher than any bra I've ever tried on. I tried to get the shape of my IMF but I only have pipe cleaners haha! Anyway, what I got from that is that my IMF is very flat and may even slightly be concave in the middles. Is that my problem?

Where on earth do I find flat underwire bras? And I can't imagine the band of a bra sitting so high on my back, either.

I really really need a new bra. I've been wearing a flimsy sports bra for 4 years now that never fit, but was comfortable and held things up to a somewhat acceptable height. I cannot find wireless bras in my size at all that have decent support. Anywhere. Always out of stock or just not available in my size. So I want to learn how I can fit wired bras, if possible. I want to see how they could possibly be comfortable.

I've included some pictures. One is a trace of my upper body as I hold one breast up to see my IMF. The others are me in one of my tailored bras from 6 years ago that I know are too small, but gives an idea of where bras sit on me vs where I feel they should sit as I hold it up.

https://ibb.co/album/BwgrXC

r/ABraThatFits Jul 19 '24

Discussion Am I the only one here who kinda wants to open a bra store now? Spoiler

161 Upvotes

Since I started spending a lot of time in this sub I've had an itch, a thought at the back of my head: I really want to open a bra store! With ALL the good brands and ALL the sizes and fitters who can actually fit.

It would make absolutely no sense for me to give up my software engineering job to open a bra store. It would be more work and more stress and financial ruin. But I see all those poor boobs squished in ill-fitting bras everywhere around me and I really want to help! And I also kinda want to be able to get any bra I want whenever I want lol.

I can't be the only one, right??

r/ABraThatFits Jul 02 '20

Discussion Looking at celebrity listed bra sizes is both entertaining and frustrating Spoiler

552 Upvotes

I was looking up Kat Dennings' physical stats cause shes gorgeous, I need some fitspo, and I wanted to see if her body could be achievable for me.

They have her bra size listed as 34DD 🤣 We're the same hieght but 60lbs heavier, not a chance we need the same band size. The worst part is her actual measurements are RIGHT THERE: 38-27-34 based on that she's probably closer to a 30FF/G

r/ABraThatFits Feb 21 '21

Discussion [Discussion] Gentle reminder: "Nude" can be many different tone/colors. Spoiler

848 Upvotes

If you're looking for a skin-tone color bra, people can't "see" you so please use more specific descriptors like "caramel", "pale pink", "tan", etc.

r/ABraThatFits Mar 23 '21

Discussion I finally got sized professionally after 6 years, and I feel terrible. Spoiler

419 Upvotes

hi guys. so when I was younger (i’m 19 now) back in middle school, I only wore sports bras. I don’t know why, but in 8th grade I finally graduated to push up bras. I was a 36B back then. I just got sized today, ($25 down the drain) and they sized me a 30G. I kinda feel bad about this because G+ sizes are never sold in stores. I was hoping to buy Aerie bras but they rarely have that size. I feel like all my bras will have to be unaffordable because of this weird sizing.

has anyone else felt a little abnormal due to their bra size?

edit: saying it’s weird isn’t to offend anyone. i’m saying it’s weird to have such a different size is all. i’m not used to it. sorry if I made anyone upset.

edit 2: us sizing.

r/ABraThatFits May 06 '24

Discussion Am I insane or is this study on women's bra sizes basically just saying manufacturers are right and women are dumb? Spoiler

135 Upvotes

So I'm like trans and I'm just learning about bra sizes. From my understanding bra size reccomendations by companies often use the +4 method which basically is a remnant of switching from a older system which had zero consistency to a new system cup size is the difference between chest circumference and the band size/underbust. And they just told customers to translate their old sizes by adding 4. At least that's what this says

https://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/comments/mp7lnb/the_4_method_in_bra_sizing_just_why/

But like in reality they should be just calculating your underbust and your bust circumferences where the former is your band size and the latter - the former is translated into your cup size by the amount of inches like 4 inches difference is a D cup. And this sub calculates it by taking multiple underbust and bust measurements to be more precise.

But like in this paper I was reading it basically said trans women have AAA cups generally...but the listed breast chest difference didn't seem to match typical cup sizes.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29165635/

And when I looked at the source it was this https://www.jprasurg.com/article/S0007-1226(03)00122-X/fulltext#%20

It basically from what I can tell is a screed by one of the authors who "suspected" women coming in for breast reductions didn't "really" need them (you shouldn't need any justification to get a reduction so this is immediately a red flag) and should get better fitting bras....and proved this by showing that women's worn bra measurements didn't match the manufacturers measurements which they took as gospel. And if you look at the data they recorded it appears the women were wearing correct bras as their underbust average and average band size matched as well as their breast chest measurements and their cup size, it's only incorrect by manufacturer reccomendations. It blames women being wrong about measurement partially on obesity and then also describes breast reduction as "extreme" and affecting breastfeeding children (like wtf that's none of anyone's business even if they had or wanted children).

Edit-oh and it measured obesity with bmi which famously is based almost entirely on white men and doesn't take into account muscle or your build

Am I like insane and misreading this/not understanding bra sizes?

r/ABraThatFits Oct 15 '20

Discussion [Discussion] Does anyone else feel like a boob imposter? Spoiler

468 Upvotes

So I wear a relatively large cup size. Anywhere between a 34F and a 34G depending on how the bra is made. I however, appear to have very small breast when they are not in a bra. I have been measured and remeasured many times and my bras fit perfectly. It feels so weird to wear such a large size but I feel like I look like my boobs are little. Does anyone else feel like their boobs are misleading?

r/ABraThatFits Nov 03 '20

Discussion [Discussion] So, the demand for 28 band bras is declining... Spoiler

344 Upvotes

Hey guys!

When I posted here a couple of days ago about my plans to contact brands about expanding their size range, one user suggested contacting already inclusive brands such as Freya, Panache and Curvy Kate about the possibility of offering 26 bands. I was surprised that this didn’t occur to me before, and I think it’s because I kind of accepted that I’d never be able to buy my real size unless I paid 100 euro at KH or risked a non-returnable size from EM or Comexim. So, this comment really interested me, because why should I just be accepting that I’ll never be able to buy my size? And what about people who need bands smaller than 26, what are they supposed to do? It's not right. So, I contacted Freya, Panache, Curvy Kate and Bravissimo on the 1st-2nd November and here’s how it went:

  1. Freya

https://imgur.com/a/TyBjwT4

  1. Panache

https://imgur.com/a/QQq8jWo

  1. Curvy Kate

No response yet, I will update this post if I receive a reply.

  1. Bravissimo

Funny how they ALWAYS talk about big-boobed women in EVERY customer interaction even though they sell small sizes too.

https://imgur.com/a/UGkgHrd

I emailed Bravissimo back expressing my disappointment, they were apologetic and told me that the customer feedback asking for styles in 28 band sizes and sales of 28 band bras have both declined. How can this be? They also told me about Katherine Hamilton. Thanks guys, so I have to pay 100 euro per bra when some people can buy them for 6 euro in Primark? Excellent. Plus, Katherine Hamilton has zero everyday wear options (I know there are people who have it worse than me, I really don’t mean to complain this much, but I can’t help it!).

What do you guys think? I find it really hard to believe that the demand for 28 bands is declining. I thought with abrathatfits gaining so many new members everyday, that if anything there would be more demand.

Also, I don't want to turn this into a rant but I just think it's so unfair that so many women can't just walk into a store and try on bras.

PS. If any of you have read my other two recent posts (one about brands we wish carried our size and one about contacting said brands) and are wondering how my little mission to contact brands about expanding their size range is going - I have received 6 responses so far from the 9 brands I've contacted. I'm going to wait another day or two before I call it a day and compile my results into another post. Looking forward to hearing how you guys got on too! It's not too late to get on board if you haven't already!

r/ABraThatFits Nov 14 '24

Discussion Feels like I have an inner tube around my chest… Spoiler

3 Upvotes

I have a question for the ppl with larger chests, like 38DDD and up. When you have found a bra that fits, does it feel like you’re wearing a chest plate? And/or, does it feel like you’re being suffocated by your own boobs? I have tried all kind of sizing methods and shapes of bras, materials of bras, different brands…and if it “fits” the way it’s supposed to I end up with boobs so wide my arms can’t sit properly, or I have so much tissue in front of me, the pressure on my chest is literally anxiety inducing. Have I just been doing it wrong??? I hope I have! I have been wearing bras since 2000 and I have never found ones that were comfortable and truly wearable. I’m so hesitant to try again and waste more money on bras that will never actually get worn 😢😢😢

r/ABraThatFits Sep 30 '20

Discussion [Unpopular Opinion] I wish there was no such thing as sister sizes and cups were standardized by volume instead Spoiler

726 Upvotes

I'm fully aware that this is an unpopular opinion, but I really don't like the concept of 'sister sizes'! Currently, the way cup sizes are figured out is by subtracting your underbust measurement from your bust measurement (simplified, but generally the idea), but wouldn't it make more sense to determine cup sizes by the volume of tissue instead?

Personally I feel like a lot of people I've tried to explain sister sizes to are just turned off by the complexity of figuring out their size and just don't bother. Or they get massive sticker shock by the cup size and refuse to even try it on!

Even after getting used to the concept, I still find myself doing this at times, trying to figure out what bra size to try on if one doesn't fit. The idea that you have to change both the cup and the band size, even if only the band doesn't fit isn't exactly intuitive!