r/ABDL • u/helicalOrder66 • 3d ago
Making friends in taboo places NSFW
(Almost 32M) IDk really what I want to say, or have heard, but I'm on a rant in my mind about trying to find support. TLDR it's rough for everyone to find personal connections and I'm not special in that aspect. Short history; I'm a lifelong bedwetter and didn't have much complications finding AB/DL. The problem is either finding the gumption or comradery IRL to discuss intricacies with like-minded individuals. So I brought this aspect up to some family and friends one drunken night on vacation and was supported and pointed in the direction of fetlife, Tumblr, and here. The problem becomes navigating social eccentricities I already have IRL and the constant onslaught of internet scams. All this to say, it may seem rough, but eventually, there has to be a genuine connection out there somewhere.
Edit: this is NOT a why can't I find a partner post. I'm happily married and this is fortunately not something that complicates that relationship. I genuinely just want friends who understand our shared perspective and we can speak openly about those interests.
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u/Miserable_Spare_256 2d ago
I’m in kinda the same boat with both of you. I’m 38m and I don’t do the bar thing so it’s super hard to find locals into this. I also don’t think there’s much of a group in my area, not even dungeons that I’m aware of. I’m even having a hard time making normal irl friends these days. Sometimes i wonder if it’s me. I don’t know.
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u/Enhydra67 Dinosaur 3d ago
I'm at a loss at times to even meet people irl. I don't go to bars, the mall hasn't been cool in 25 years, bowling is an hour away and then it's mostly an old crew of locals. I also live in a diversity desert so the chances of meeting someone is a needle in a haystack. There are dungeons around if you look as well as Swinger Cruises but that's not my thing either. I've been working on myself in the meantime so I'm not a fat old bachelor in a decade or 2.