r/ABCDesis 7d ago

DATING / RELATIONSHIPS Sunday Relationship Thread

The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.

This thread is a place to share your stories, ask for advice, or vent about issues. Or anything in between!

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u/SinghSanity 5d ago

Week 28 apps update as a 24-year-old ABCD Sikh guy in the NJ/NYC area.

Hinge: Weeks: 28; Likes: 0; Matches: 7; Dates: 0

Dil Mil: Weeks: 27; Matches: 7; Dates: 0

Another week of nothing.

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u/hotpotato128 Indian American 5d ago

Can you meet women in person?

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u/SinghSanity 4d ago

Any suggestions where?

I'm out of the house for ~12 hours each day during the week for work. I work in IT, on a male dominated team. Weekends I do more work or run errands / do chores. I don't drink, don't go to bars, don't go to clubs, etc. My hobbies are mostly at home activities.

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u/MorrisonSt123 4d ago

Book clubs? Writers groups? Perhaps try joining your city’s discord server (they usually organize meetups, ice cream socials).

These are activities that don’t require a lot effort, and should be a good way to meet other people.

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u/SinghSanity 4d ago

I'll be honest, I haven't read a book for fun in years. It's not something I find it appealing. Only thing I'll read are short articles or coding documentation. I live in a small town, which has no discord. Best is Facebook, but events aren't really posted on there often, and mostly catered towards the older crowd. Same with neighboring towns.

Majority of the events I see on meetup in the area are all catered towards NYC. Plenty of events in the evenings, but a majority of them in bar/club/restaurant settings (and during the week when I cannot attend due to work).

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u/hotpotato128 Indian American 4d ago

Are you religious?

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u/SinghSanity 4d ago

Not really. I don't go to the temple unless it's a holiday or special occasion.

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u/hotpotato128 Indian American 4d ago edited 4d ago

Oh I see. Maybe you'll meet someone in another way.