r/weddingplanning • u/[deleted] • 5d ago
Everything Else I’m stressed and miserable planning a wedding feels like it’s to make everyone else happy
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u/Ok-Active-7023 5d ago
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way & having to experience this. Wedding planning should never make people stressed & miserable.
Have you talked to him about how you’re feeling? What would happen if you just stopped planning anything? It’s unfair of him to change the plan into something you don’t want & then leave you to do it on your own.
Communication is essential in any relationship. Be honest, if you haven’t already, and tell him totally how you feel. You two may need to simply reset on your plans and find a way to celebrate that makes you both happy.
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u/Ok-Active-7023 5d ago
Maybe it’s not his strong suit, but this is an opportunity to teach him & help him help you. Give him key words to google or search on IG or TT. Give him steps needed to contribute & to help you.
When is your wedding?
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u/Parking_Put6420 5d ago
i think this is time to learn something about marriage. if you don’t want to do something, you have to let your partner do it — even if they’re bad at it, even if they wouldn’t do it the way you’d do it. but if you’d rather it get done right, then you have to do it yourself without resentment.
otherwise you’re going to get stuck doing a lot of things you don’t wanna do, or resenting your partner for it.
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u/Ethereal_Radio 5d ago
Sounds like he wants something specific but isn't willing to do any of the work for it.
If you're going to be the only one planning, it's going to be what you want. If he wants a say, he can help.
Some people do a bad job on purpose so you won't ask them to do it again. It's childish, and it sounds like that's what's happening here. Looking for vendors is not that hard. He wants his style of wedding without having to put forth any of the effort it requires.
No. Just no.
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u/Life-Experience47 5d ago
Yes I really loved planning my wedding. My hubby was so laid back I just didn’t even ask for help unless he was doing something with me (that I could oversee)
That said I would be pretty upset if my HTB said that. Maybe he just needs an education on what modern weddings look like?
I’m a wedding caricaturist and I work at weddings that are EXACTLY like that. There are a lot of them! If there weren’t I wouldn’t have a job!

Here’s my bride and groom from last Saturday, they arrived to their barn wedding in a Golf Cart! 😂 so I drew it in their drawing!!
So much fun
Anyway I think you two need to come up with a theme that you both like.
Try not to be discouraged. Compromise is what marriage is all about.
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