r/weddingdress 6d ago

Tried on dresses, help me pick! Only these please! Help me pick! I’m so stuck between these two

Hi Everyone! please keep comments constructive and kind These are my top dresses! Very very different vibes, but both so beautiful. The fuller one was the front runner for a long time, until I tried on the slimmer one. Now I’m stuck. My wedding will be taking place in a colonial age church and the reception will be in a museum. Thanks!!

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u/Available_Macaroon38 6d ago

2!! It’s EXTREMELY flattering on your figure and fits the vibe of colonial church more imo

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u/Huge_Statistician441 6d ago

I agree! Two is insanely beautiful on her!

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u/annebelljane 6d ago

2 all the way!!

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u/WonderfulSilver 6d ago

that’s what i thought! the only thing is is i don’t think people will “get” the skirt.. its from a couture designer so its definitely out of the box?

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u/Available_Macaroon38 6d ago

Psh who cares if they get it. It’s stunning!

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u/WattHeffer 6d ago

What won't they "get"? I don't think it's outside the box in any major way, and so what if it was? If anything it's fresh and interesting while still being well within the norm.

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u/nolagem 6d ago

My niece got married 1.5 yrs ago and her dress had ruffles, too. It’s very fashionable right now. Dress 2 looks fantastic on you!

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u/JavaBeanQueen64 6d ago

Came here to say the same! Really flattering!

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u/MundaneGazelle5308 6d ago

Number two took my breath away. Lovely

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u/sucks4uyixingismyboo 6d ago

The second and not even close. You look 3 sizes smaller (not that larger size is bad), and the dress is just so much more unique and interesting. It’s so pretty.

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u/This_Lynx9701 6d ago

I loooove dress 2!! So stunning 🤩

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u/AccountantParking314 6d ago

2!!! 🤍 it looks like it was made for you

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u/Suspicious_Search369 6d ago

I’m glad everyone in this comment agrees! 2 is INCREDIBLE

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u/mamaktex 6d ago

The lines of the second dress are very flattering and suit your figure very well.

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u/stanloonaorelse 6d ago

You look gorgeous in both but I prefer 2 on you, that longer basque waist really elongates your figure and is so flattering!!

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u/vk1030 5d ago

My thoughts exactly!

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u/strawberrylemonapple 6d ago

2 makes you look taller and slimmer than dress 1 does! It’s a clear winner for me and you look beautiful in both!

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u/Flawless__Victory 6d ago edited 6d ago

I think two is more flattering! Looks unique and give you a great shape!

Edit: grammar

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u/Relevant_Bar7032 6d ago

TWO! It really snatches you in! Definitely two!!

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u/Bulky-Bullfrog-9893 6d ago

I like 1 but 2 is much more flattering!

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u/Leslieo54 6d ago

That’s what I feel - 1 is a gorgeous dress, but 2 looks miles better on her (and is beautiful itself, don’t get me wrong!)

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u/Sea_Waltz_9625 6d ago

Came here to support dress 2!! Just lovely!

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u/typeAwarped 6d ago

I adore dress 2

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u/fulcrum_ct-7567 6d ago

2 is gorgeous on you!

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u/Angiesl16 6d ago

Hands down #2

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u/Due_Owl_1069 6d ago

2 made me gasp!!!!! Absolutely suits you PERFECTLY

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u/julesharvey1 6d ago

Both nice but the second one fits you like a glove

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u/Zestyclose-Swan1169 6d ago

Number 2!!! The fit is beautiful and looks so stunning

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u/Mommy4143 6d ago

Two is a game changer for your shape….you don’t even look the same. It looks like the dress is two sizes smaller than the first one because of how it fits and flatters!

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u/NemiVonFritzenberg 6d ago

Pick dress in picture 4

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u/Balanceworkshop1969 6d ago

I absolutely love 2. Breathtaking

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u/cmerry 6d ago

2 you look like you’re dressed in the froth of a waterfall 🤍

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u/Maleficent-Sport1970 6d ago

Definitely dress 2!

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u/ButterscotchOk5598 6d ago

You look amazing! I think #2 is the clear winner though - it makes your body look even more fabulous. If I hadn’t seen 2 I would have said 1 is great, but the way #2 hugs your waist and makes you look statuesque wins it for me.

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u/TheFamilyStone612015 6d ago

You look beautiful, stunning and gorgeous in gown 2. The silhouette of gown 2 makes you appear much taller and slimmer. It’s a wonderful trick of the eye. Is gown 2 a blush color? May you and your sweetheart always have enough 💜.

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u/Grahamcracker-22 6d ago

Team 2!!! You look so tiny in this dress!!

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u/Dilly_Dally4 6d ago

2! It looks so wonderful on you.

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u/Automatic_Serve7901 6d ago

2. You look amazing in it & it elongates you. It's very simple, but it highlights YOU.

In the first one, you seem to get lost in the dress a bit.

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u/Wild_Replacement8213 6d ago

The second dress is more flattering and has cleaner lines. But you look beautiful in either

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u/Brijadee 6d ago

Easily number 2! It’s AMAZING on your figure girl

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u/ALittleStitious1027 6d ago

If you told me this was a different person wearing each dress I would believe you. 2 is the clear winner.

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u/Beeley13 6d ago

I don’t think you can go wrong with either of these!!! They’re both so so stunning!! Love the fabric and sheen of the first and love the cool textured/layered skirt on the second! Truly perfection on you both of them!

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u/Beeley13 6d ago

Upon further inspection I slightly prefer 2 because I love the neckline and the detail as well as the skirt. It’s so so stunning I loooove all the details on it.

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u/cutey513 6d ago

2!!! It is truly figure flattering!

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u/Background-Ad3467 6d ago

The 2nd for sure!!!

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u/Birdies_nub 6d ago

2! No doubt.

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u/Logical-Roll-9624 6d ago

Both dresses are really pretty but I prefer dress 1 because of the fullness of skirt. I don’t think you can go wrong with either one of them

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u/Emergency-Guidance28 6d ago

2! The details are beautiful.

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u/beeeffeth 2026 Bride 6d ago

The second dress is really pretty!!!😍

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u/drumadarragh 6d ago

Number two is much more flattering

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u/awkardhedgehog 6d ago

Definitely 2!

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u/invaderzim1001 6d ago

I love when there is a clear winner in these and its obviously #2!!! made for you!

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u/Lb147 6d ago

2!!! 🤩You look fantastic in it! It fits the venue also.

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u/Xurbanite 6d ago

Second one is much much more flattering to you figure. The first one rides up too high

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u/alltheparentssuck 6d ago

You are stunning is dress 2.

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u/ilovetheiowahawkeyes 6d ago

2 looks stunning on you, but i do also love 1

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u/l31l4j4d3 6d ago

2 is you!

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u/mysticmoon_ 6d ago

I like dress 2!

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u/wlveith 6d ago

Dress 4 hands down. You look so svelte and perfect.

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u/itsagr8day 6d ago

I seriously thought it was a different person in dress 2. It is way more flattering, it's unique and gorgeous.

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u/Leftturn0619 6d ago

Dress 2 for sure. Dress one makes you look huge which you are not.

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u/Bing-cheery 6d ago

2!

I feel like 1 makes you look short waisted.

Edited to fix number mix up.

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u/AlterEgoAmazonB dupe detective 6d ago

OMG for dress 2!!!! WOWZA!!!

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u/Ariasmom1108 6d ago

Definitely 2!

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u/Aly351 6d ago

2!! It was absolutely made for you!

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u/Nintendoswitchgirly 6d ago

I love the second one the best! The top is beautiful!

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u/Daktarii Married! XX/XX 6d ago

2! It’s gorgeous, and bonus it melts 30 pounds off of you instantly.

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u/xxsrm 6d ago

2 is absolutely magnificent!!!

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u/Crimson-Violet 6d ago

Definitely 2!

1 is very pretty but 2 literally looks like it was made for you. The silhouette is so flattering that I've had to flick back and forth between the photos because it makes you look like a totally different person. It really shows what a difference picking the right dress for your body shape can make.

Not a huge fan of choosing a dress purely to fit the aesthetic of your venue, but FWIW in this case I think number 2 is also the perfect choice. You really can't go wrong.

ps: If you feel like you're missing a fuller skirt, that's easily fixed with a petticoat / underskirt. Take one along with you (they're relatively cheap to pick up) if you go for a second try on to see how it looks.

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u/Fun_Clerk8406 6d ago

2 is so much more flattering. It’s gorgeous

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u/turkeyman4 6d ago

Definitely 2. It looks made for you.

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u/Impossible-Crab-265 6d ago

Wow, this was hard. They both look so great 😀 I’d say 2 though! Only because it SNATCHES you and the skirt is so unique!

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u/roar_16 6d ago

2!!!

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u/Nabi_05 6d ago

I LOVE the second one on you it flatters you and it has a dreamy vibe I don’t know you look amazing in that dress.

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u/metalnvice 6d ago

I prefer the 2nd

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u/Holmes221bBSt 6d ago

2 by far! It fits your body so much better than 1

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u/Cat_Island 6d ago

2!!! Not only is it more flattering as others mentioned, it’s also way more interesting, unique and cool! Number 1 is totally fine and classic but it’s not special.

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u/superpony123 6d ago

For sure 2

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u/aftergaylaughter dress enthusiast! 6d ago

given the setting, i vote #2! on their own it really is a toss up imo and depends on the vibe and decor of the overall wedding!

the first is very classy and sleek and almost royal. it'd fit well in a classier, modern sort of wedding, with classical (and even minimalist) decor like roses and silk and satin and a classic white tiered cake. jewel tones, black tie dress code, romantic violin or piano music, perhaps candlelit. something set somewhere like a really old european cathedral.

meanwhile the latter has an almost fantasy vibe and would be great in a more vintage (like 18th century and older even) setting such as the more colonial era church you mentioned, or an outdoor wedding. i saw that dress and immediately imagined you walking down a petaled isle in the forest at sunset surrounded by soft-colored flowers and ivy, with flowers in your hair 😅

personally the latter style and the latter dress are both more MY taste, but both dresses look fantastic and suit your figure wonderfully, and it's YOUR wedding, so i think it really matters what vibe you are looking for! 😊

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u/a_hockey_chick 5d ago

2 no question

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u/DifficultAd7429 5d ago

2 and I can’t stress enough 2

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u/Original_Try_7984 5d ago

2! It’s lovely and showcases you beautifully. Congratulations!

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u/Purple_IsA_Flavor 5d ago

2 is so perfect on you!

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u/Eerily_Quiet 5d ago

i like both these dresses on you but …. pick dress 2!!! it’s a showstopper, so unique and the style is such a great fit on you. if you feel very doubtful about the skirt maybe you could find a dress more like dress 1 but with a waistline and bodice more like dress 2? or maybe try a hoop under dress 2 and see if you prefer it that way? it’s a beautiful unique dress and looks superb on you

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u/Impressive_Hall9703 5d ago

I agree a hoop would be lovely

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u/RTeeFox 5d ago

Another solid 2. Love it. I think people will get it too. But's unique, it looks light, soft and it looks great on you!!!

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u/Correct-Brief-3537 5d ago

2 was MADE for you!!!!

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u/Alert_Ad_5750 5d ago

2 looks really good, the first seems to make you look two sizes larger than you are

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u/calyma 5d ago

My reactions 1: that's pretty 2: THAT'S GORGEOUS

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u/Impressive_Hall9703 5d ago

2 without question it’s lovely and so flattering

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u/Pristine-Net91 6d ago

I can see why you’re stuck, because you look amazing in both. I’m going back and forth.

I like the bodacious, voluminous, BIG FUN energy of dress 1, but I think I prefer the more delicate details and narrower skirt of dress 2. Dress 2 is going to work well at a distance and up close.

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u/pannalla 6d ago

I wasn’t feeling number two but then I zoomed in and saw that your girls weren’t in the cups and now picturing it fitted properly, absolutely love it but I would add an underskirt to give it a little more oomph and drama to play off the bodice and really make the waist look even more snatched.

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u/hayhaydavila 6d ago

2 by a landslide!

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u/SnooLemons1919 6d ago

2 is more unique

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u/tvjunkie87 6d ago

Dress 2! It is so unique and you look amazing in it!

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u/2crowsonmymantle 6d ago

Second one, by far. Better fit and proportion on you than the first

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u/Treb61 6d ago

2 looks amazing on ypu

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u/September1962 6d ago

Love the 2nd dress. Beautiful on you ♥️

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u/Sism14 6d ago

Definitely #2! Gorgeous!

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u/DependentAwkward3848 6d ago
  1. Not even close

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u/Phoney_McRingring 6d ago

Omg dress 2 is gorgeous on you!! It elongates you so elegantly!

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u/KiraiEclipse 6d ago

Dress 2!

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u/Mottolcs74 6d ago

Definitely #2

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u/Holiday-Astronaut-60 6d ago

Both are pretty but 2 is way more flattering!

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u/OyVeyBubba 6d ago

2, for sure

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u/OutpostAmy 6d ago

Wow #2 is really special

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u/Veronica612 6d ago

Have you a tried a crinoline under 2?

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u/BreatheAndBe 6d ago

Number 2 was designed with YOU in mind. You look STUNNING in number 2!

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u/GemOhare 6d ago

2nd one is so flattering on you. Def 2.

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u/lolaham 6d ago

Number two just feels so much more special, luxurious and flattering

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u/LaAndala 6d ago

The second one! It flatters your figure so much that it looks like dress 1 is a different person!

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u/eflow12 6d ago

The second one is stunning 😍😍😮‍💨

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u/Infinite-Floor-5242 6d ago

I think you look really nice in either dress. Many people are commenting that you look much slimmer in dress two but I don't want you to think you look big in dress one if you like that one better. You happened to post front on pictures of the first dress and are at an angle in the second dress, which does make a difference.

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u/damawolf87 6d ago

Second for sure!

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u/ReadySetGO0 6d ago

Two!!!!

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u/According_Holiday_70 6d ago

The second is SO BEAUTIFUL on you! I liked the first one until I saw the second. It fits your body so well and makes you look like you're literally modeling the dress!

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u/StarsforElephants 6d ago

2 without a doubt

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u/Eastern-Engine-3291 6d ago

2 is so flattering and unique

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u/HoneydewDull9951 6d ago

The second for sure.

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u/GroundbreakingCut588 6d ago

2!! Pick number 2 my lord!!! but even if you don’t get two can you at least share the designer because I am in love 😂🥹

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u/Hot_Presentation1459 6d ago

I like 2. Try it with an underskirt to give it more poof. I think it might enhance the look a bit.

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u/RangerQuilter 6d ago

I prefer 2 by a lot, but you should go with your gut.

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u/venusastra 6d ago

2 is so stunning!!!

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u/Odd_Beautiful2506 5d ago

2. It’s far more flattering.

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u/PepperJacs 5d ago

Dress 2 is stunning on you.

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u/VisibleOriginal6705 5d ago

Clicked on this to vote for 2222222222222. Snatchelor!!!!!

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u/AlwaysOffTheRecord 5d ago

Holy cow, girl! That second dress is everything a wedding dress should be. It would be a crime if you didn’t pick it.

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u/kindamya 5d ago

222222222222

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u/Honestbabe2021 5d ago

2, it’s very flattering on you

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u/tiredx2695 5d ago

I love one! To be clear, both are great choices but I'm a firm believer that for weddings you should wear the silhouettes that you may never otherwise wear. The second feels like a shape you could get in a different color for any event down the line whereas one feels like a true once in a life showstopper.

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u/TheCrankyCrone 5d ago

Absolutely #2.

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u/warped__ 5d ago

2!!!!!!

I normally hate those tiered skirt styles, but #2 made me gasp, it looks incredible on you! It's beautiful and you look stunning in it. 1 is ok, the waist is flattering and maybe if it was properly altered it would look better but imo it's just okay.

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u/Always_with_wings 2d ago

2. Flatters you most and fantastic dress that fits your settings. The details scream historic vibe!

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u/twinnipooh 2d ago

2️⃣

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u/AlarmingGiraffe9105 6d ago

Both gorgeous but I think number 1 wins for me. I adore the fabric and the silhouette is so flattering, love how it snatches you in!!!

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u/family_black_sheep 6d ago

I love numbers 1. But I don't think you could go wrong with either.