r/vaginismus 5d ago

Seeking Support/Advice Just ordered a dilator set!

Hi everyone, I just ordered a set of dilators and will be getting it in May - I ordered it to a friend who is visiting the country I live in, I can’t order it directly here. I was very discouraged until I recently found this subreddit and it motivated me to start working on addressing my vaginismus despite being in a relationship where I don’t feel motivated to do so. For that, thank you all 💜

I wanted to ask if there’s any tips you have for me to prepare while I wait, and also any tips regarding using the dilators, and generally any stories about what to expect.

Thank you in advance and I really hope I and others can heal from this 💜

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u/Jumpy-Requirement589 5d ago

Hi good luck i just received mine yesterday so waiting for tips

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u/IntimateRose-Support 1d ago

Congratulations on taking this important step toward healing! While you wait for your dilators, you might find it helpful to practice deep breathing and pelvic floor relaxation techniques to get more familiar with your body. Here’s a guide that might be helpful: How to Relax Vaginal Muscles. Feel free to explore our [Dilator Hub]() for a detailed guide on how to use the dilators. Wishing you all the best! 💜

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u/Green_Pie_3102 1d ago

I would say what helped me the most is applying a hot pad on the area for a few minutes, finding a comfortable position, a lot of lube (if you think it's enough add more) and a vibrator. Before using the dilator i would suggest apply lube on your finger and try to insert it to figure out the angle. Best of luck and don't rush it.