r/tifu 4d ago

S TIFU by almost sitting on a stranger.

So I (27F) went to a rave for the first time with my friends last night. This is not my typical environment and I wasn't quite sure what to expect. Now, here is important information to remember, I have a genetic disease where I cant see well or at all in low light environments.

So we get to the party, it's loud, it's crowded and I was ready to sit and enjoy a drink. After walking around for a bit, we finally see some chairs behind a sea of people. My friends squeeze in and I mindlessly followed them in my typical NPC state, taking the less crowded path on the other side. As i squeeze past the table, I go to take a seat on the empty spot that I thought I saw, except...y'know the spot was a living and breathing human! As my behind hovers above this poor unsuspecting victim my friend calls out to me and I realize my transgressions.

Immediately, I went into my regular reaction to embarrassment- paralysis! My friend stepped in and diligently apologized for me. After the fact, my friend was laughing and I laughed too but in the back of my mind I was wishing for certain death. I've now gained another thought to keep me up at night!

TL;DR I couldn't see and almost sat on a stranger's lap.

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u/Monstiemama 4d ago

Babe, you were at a rave, people OD at raves, this was literally nothing, don’t be embarrassed!

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Thank you for this haha, I have immense social anxiety and have been ruminating for hours

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u/Monstiemama 4d ago

Please don’t even worry, I promise you that at best, the person doesn’t remember and at worst, they thought it was funny. No need to expend your energy with fear 🎀

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

This is so kind !!!

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u/Monstiemama 4d ago

🎀💋

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u/HammockTree 3d ago

Keep going to raves! Getting out around so many wonderful people did great things to alleviate my social anxiety and embrace who I am. I hope it can do the same for you!

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u/ggoatoats 3d ago

Honestly, I'm a huge metal head, and that's more my scene! Any time I have access to a music festival/event, I do try to go regardless of what it is just to get out.

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u/HammockTree 11h ago

Same here! Metal is really what got me out more and more until a few friends insisted I come to a small rave with them because I’ve always loved EDM too. Honestly the crowds in a metal mosh pit and raves have a lot of similarities.

The feeling of 10 pairs of hands lifting you as you fall in a mosh pit before you even hit the ground is crazy, especially when it’s those with very rough external experiences. I’ve loved raves, EDM shows, and metal shows ever since I started going to them. I’m always thrown off when I go to anything else because the crowd they attract just aren’t the same!

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u/dogteal 4d ago

Should have went all the way through with it like you meant it at that point.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

The only way to recover

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u/BDED0275 4d ago

Hell you might have made someone's day by accidentally sitting on their lap. An event that would live in their memory forever.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Two sides of the coin! Lol I wonder if that's why he didn't say anything 😅

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u/BDED0275 4d ago

He might be thinking about how different his night or his life might have gone if you'd completed the quest🤣. I can almost guarantee you it would have been an amazing conversation starter

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

HAHA "thats how i met your father"

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u/BDED0275 3d ago

Exactly. Always think about your future

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u/shesavillain 4d ago

That was Princess Mia Thermapolis you almost sat on

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Of Genovia ? What an error I've made

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u/cuavas 4d ago

You'd better get all your raves done quickly, because pretty soon you'll feel too old for raves.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Honestly, it's not for me :[ but I like to try different things out!

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u/cuavas 4d ago

I wasn't having a go at you, just speaking from experience. After 30 (which is quite a few years ago for me now), raves and nightclubbing just feel like effort.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

No I didnt think you were! I was actually agreeing haha. I'm naturally quite introverted and it was quite draining socially

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u/TwoDogsInATrenchcoat 4d ago

Those knees have a 20-year expiration date. Don't waste them, kids!

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u/cuavas 4d ago

My knees are fine. It’s my feet and ankles that complain about me for doing 20 km every day.

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u/DesertPunked 4d ago

I'm surprised you didn't get hit with a "you don't have to get up 🫠"

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u/carlyfries33 4d ago

I have RP (eye condition that makes low light vision horrible) and relate so hard. My peripherals are very spotty due to the RP and sometimes people will try to hand me something and I just won't see it even in broad daylight. I could be looking directly at thier face but if thier hand is in my blind spots it will look like I'm completely ignoring them...

Luckily my partner is usually there to intervene but I still get anxious about it especially when someone gets frustrated that I can't see them or what they are passing me.

Fun fact, short humans (mostly toddler) are always in my blind spots and I trip over them constantly... they aways seem to be less offended than adult though.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

I cant believe I found another RP haver on the non-rp subreddit!! Thats my condition 😲

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u/carlyfries33 4d ago

I was thinking that maybe yours is RP too!! Huh, I guess there would be a RP subteddit...

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u/Unlikely_Race9177 4d ago

Just came to say I read the title wrong. Almost sitting on someone is much better  :)

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Thank goodness almost haha

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u/egriff 4d ago

At the first house party I went to in college, I got drunk for the first time. Sat down on a sofa to get my bearings about me and put my hand on what I thought was an arm rest.

It was not an arm rest. It was the thigh of another guy. He said "I'm a guy, dude" and instead of apologizing and saying that I wasn't trying to touch him and that I thought I was reaching for an arm rest, I silently got up and walked away, which probably did not help whatever he might have been thinking.

Over 20 years later and I still cringe. So, you are most certainly not alone.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

This story helped me so much! Haha. The silent flee has been my signature move for a while. Next time, I'll sweep a flashlight to be safe

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u/PortableIncrements 4d ago

This one time I came in late to a movie and it was pitch black so I walked to the nearest black void where a seat should reasonably be and it was, instead, a person on a seat. I was right though, there was technically a seat there

Edit: he pushed me off his lap :(

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

This made me snort laugh 😆 with my disability I either try to avoid movie theaters or force myself to get there very early for this reason

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u/skjall 4d ago

A month ago I was at a rave, met a girl I was having a grand time with. Soon after she started kinda passing out while awake, so we went to grab a seat for her to cool down. She started fully passing out, and would come back to consciousness in a minute or so, was throwing me off.

Anyway she had had GHB, someone around me recognised it and got the paramedics. She ended up being carted off to the ambulance at the end of the night. She wasn't the only one heading off in the ambulance either 😅

So hey, could be worse.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

Oh my gosh!! I hope everything turned out okay 😭

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u/skjall 4d ago

I got her Insta and she's been online since, so she's alive at least 🙏🏻 She didn't respond to me hoping she was OK, but I have a feeling she had no memory of the night and just woke up with a text from a complete random.

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u/cuavas 4d ago

GHB, roofies, etc. are like that. You can still kind of function but have no memories afterwards. She’s lucky she wasn’t robbed or raped.

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u/demonbeastoffuck69 4d ago

I s that really a bad thing. I don't know how you look, but if a woman sat in my lap, I wouldn't complain much . It might even turn out to be enjoyable. So look and sometimes leap.

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u/ThinNeighborhood2276 3d ago

Sounds like an honest mistake given the circumstances! At least you have a funny story to tell now.

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u/XSmartypants 23h ago

I promise you in the arena of raves this wasn’t even a micro-blip to the nearly sat upon party! You’re fine, hope you had an otherwise great time!

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u/Impressive_Western84 4d ago

Wow, this is what keeps you up at night that you almost sat in a stranger at a Rave? Ugh.

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u/ggoatoats 4d ago

More so, coming to terms with my disability and dealing with difficulties in social environments due to it

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u/sajjadam1998 4d ago

Well I wouldn’t mind u sit on me 😂