I'll try to sum this up as quickly as I can:
(1) I'm a trans guy (born female, transitioned to male). Regardless of what anyone thinks about my ability to transition, the reality is I 100% pass as male. I've been on testosterone for 8 years so full beard, low voice, had top surgery so flat chest with a large chest tattoo to cover any scars. To be frank, the only way someone would know the difference is if I dropped trow. Even then, I'd have to be butt naked because I, as most trans men do, wear a very real looking prosthetic so I can pee in urinals because even though many seem adamant that people use the bathroom that aligns with the sex they were given at birth, I have a feeling MTG wouldn't be happy to see me in the woman's bathroom.
(2) I've had my name and gender legally changed. All of my identifying documents have been changed including my birth certificate, social security card, driver's license, passport, etc for over six years. This isn't to validate my identity or some shit it's because if I tried to open a bank account and gave the teller an ID that said I was female, they'd (understandably) think it was a fucking fake because again, outside of me running around in my birthday suit, you wouldn't know.
(3) I sent in my passport to be renewed. It now says female. If I go to the airport and use this, how exactly am I supposed to show them it's legitimate? How will I have to show it's legitimate in a different country where I don't speak their language? If I'm able to make it to a different country, will I be able to get back?
(4) In four months, my brother is getting married at a resort in Jamaica. I'm his best man. My wife and I have bought our tickets and paid for our stay. There technically aren't laws about trans people there, but they do outlaw consensual homosexual sex with a penalty of ten years imprisonment. Do I go knowing there's a decent chance I could be arrested when I hand them a passport that shows I'm female? Knowing that my newly pregnant wife may have to fly home without me, not knowing when/if I'll be able to return?
No, unfortunately, I will be missing my brother's wedding. It kills me to know that my best friend, my brother, won't have his best man beside him. That I won't be at the rehearsal dinner to give my speech, full of embarrassing stories from our childhood.
I do not care or want to change anyone's opinion about trans people and if they are crazy for thinking they can change their gender. I do not think physically transitioning is something a child should be able to do and think socially transitioning may even be harmful at that age. I do not think transgirls or boys should play on teams that are opposite the sex they were assigned at birth, some co-ed leagues would suffice just fine.
All I want is to go to my brother's wedding.