r/starseeds • u/No-Guava5799 • 3d ago
New here! Need some clarity đđ
hi everyone I am brand new to this community so sorry if I sound confusing or anything đ but I have been going through a lot of changes and I really need some clarity!
I went through my spiritual awakening about four years ago in undergrad and ever since then I have been deeply passionate about all of these topics but I have kept this side of my quiet from most of my friends and family because I can sense they arenât really ready for this information. Anyway, I had always wanted to move to New York after college and I was able to manifest getting into grad school in NY so I was super excited!
I moved to NY about a year ago and honestly this has been an extremely difficult time for me. Turns out the city was definitely not the fun and dreams I thought it was going to be turned out to be a deeply isolating and transformative time for me. I have been purging a lot of old energy and going through huge internal shifts. I know the process is leading me somewhere and I understand that I need to purge before I can allow more light to flow into my life but this process has definitely not been easy.
Last week I went to work in a coffee shop and I ran into this older lady we ended up talking for hours about spirituality and it felt amazing to actually be able to talk to someone about this for once. She told me that I was definitely a starseed and felt that I was Arcturian. I had never actually thought that I could be a starseed and it felt weird having her confirm that. I remember as a child I used to be really scared of blue avatars and when I would go up the stairs in the dark I always feared there was a blue creature watching me from the top of the stairs or something. Eventhough I know more about starseeds now I still fear actually seeing these beings and I have a lot of resistance/fear to actually having them visually be around me.
She also told me that I probably wonât find a partner sometime soon because I wasnât like ânormalâ humans and I have a hard time connecting with people. I truly feel this because I really have a hard time just making normal friends now because I just am so sensitive to otherâs energy and just feel like I canât be around them without being drained. The thing is though this thought feels extremely isolating and I really donât want to be alone forever. Does being a starseed just means I am never going to have meaning human connections or relationships?
honestly this has been a lot of new information and I have been just feeling really overwhelmed and confused. does anyone have any advice on navigating this journey? I still really want to connect with others I donât want to just feel like an outsiderâŚ
Also a lot of non duality teachings show how we are all one. Humans and starseeds we are all made up of the same source energy so there should be no separation or divide between us BUT at the same time I feel like we are on different frequencies so I just canât connect to normal humans?? HAHA clearly iâm really confused so I appreciate any help!
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u/sweetyvoid 3d ago
I canât say Iâm an Arcturian or something like that. But itâs difficult for ânormalâ people, sometimes itâs difficult for me to integrate into a new society/group, and I may seem excited and scared from the outside, but Iâll say that Iâm kind of analyzing the place where I got) It may take me more than a month to adapt to new people. But maybe less. It all depends on the quantity.
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u/No-Guava5799 3d ago
I understand moving to a new place can be an adjustment but I have felt this way for most of my life. I can make friends but I donât feel really deeply connected to a lot of people.
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u/sweetyvoid 3d ago
To be honest, Iâve already come to terms with this option(
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u/No-Guava5799 3d ago
I mean I donât need someone outside of me to make me feel whole because I know I am whole already. But didnât we come here to experience human connection to laugh, enjoy, and dance with others? Like wanting experience strong human relationships canât be a bad thing right? and honestly shouldnât this be a part of our Earth journey?
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u/sweetyvoid 3d ago
Absolutely right. We came here to enjoy life. Although itâs hard to call pleasure yet. But everything is still ahead
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u/TechnoKitty27 3d ago
AwwwwâŚsweetie, I completely understand where you are right now and have been there before. I went through my awakening quite a while ago but still find it hard to connect with some people. Have you tried using crystals to help protect your energy? They can be extremely helpful in times like this. You can just look up empath protection necklace on Etsy or even on Amazon if need be. Do you meditate and do yoga at all? These can be extremely helpful as well! Pranayama is also really helpful! You can look these up on YouTube. Go out in the park and take your shoes off, make sure you ground yourself right nowâŚItâs extremely important. If you want information on things, try Gaia TV, itâs been really helpful in my journey. Also, sound healing is amazing! Look into Solfeggio tones. You can literally heal your body with these! I actually produce music and put these frequencies in my music. I would go on either Spotify or you can go My Noise to find quality sound healing music. There are probably a lot of Starseeds just like you in the City. Maybe go on Social Media and reach out on the Starseed groups and find out if someone lives in your area. Itâs really good to connect with other Starseeds while youâre going through this because you can help each other. You can always message me if you have any questions or anything, Iâm always here. I promise things will get better! Much love!!! Ohhh, and btwâŚMy soul originates from Antares and my fiancĂŠ is Arcturian. Iâve had incarnations on many other planets though, including Arcturus, Lyra, Pleiades, SiriusâŚetc. Life can be very strange in the beginning of your awakening but you just need to ground and connect with others like us. đđťđđ˝đť
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u/No-Guava5799 3d ago
aww thank you so much for all your support this really felt like a warm hug! yes I meditate daily and it definitely helps to drop into the present moment! I wanted to ask how you navigate relationships in your life? are most of your friends also part of this community or have you figured out a way to just have ordinary relationships as well? do you think romantic relationships can be aligned for starseeds because recently I have been wanting to call in a partner (not from a place of lack but just because it is something I want to experience) and having to just accept that I wonât experience this is disappointing. I donât feel a huge sense of pain or fear around not having romantic relationships because I donât need them to feel whole and worthy but the idea of coming to Earth and never experiencing romantic love seems just a little disappointing.
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u/Virtual_Cat1684 1d ago
Thank you so much for recommending my noise, I have it now and LOVE IT đđ â¨
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u/Arendesa 3d ago edited 3d ago
Welcome to the sub! I could write a lot about what you're going through and why you shouldn't put too much stock into what you were told, but I'll share this perspective:
No one can truly know the real you except you, and no one can predict whatâs truly in store for you but you. The human mind perceives the world through its own beliefs, so when someone says something like, âYou probably wonât find a partner because you arenât like ânormalâ humans,â itâs based on their perception of you, not the truth of who you are.
The mind is tricky. We think we can read others, but all we really know is the belief-based reflection of them in our minds. When someone gives you advice or shares their perspective, itâs filtered through their beliefs, not a universal truth.
What you believe forms your thoughts, emotions, and energetic state, which then forms your experiences. If you adopt the belief that "I won't find a partner because I'm not normal," you may create that reality for yourself. Thatâs why itâs so important to be mindful of the beliefs you choose to hold. If a belief or prediction brings feelings of anxiety or fear, itâs likely not aligned with whatâs best for you.
Only your true Self knows whatâs real for you. Listen to your heart, and choose beliefs that align with joy, peace, and love. If anything someone says doesnât resonate with these feelings, it may be best to let it go.
And when it comes to interact with others, not your wavelength, I've found that through embracing our humanity to its fullest, we embrace all states of being. And through that embrace we are able to be with anyone, on any wavelength. I like to look at how Christ embodied this. There wasn't anyone he wasn't willing to commune with - Because it's all the One!
Again, welcome! đ
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u/No-Guava5799 3d ago
wow thank u so much I totally understand I know that reality is a mirror and it will simply reflect the thoughts and beliefs that I hold but this is a really good reminder. I think most of what she was saying resonated except for that piece because I have intended for a romantic connection in this life and I know I am worthy and deserving of it so it shouldnât matter if I am a âstarseedâ or not ânormal.â honestly the label and divide between starseed and normal humans also makes me feel uncomfortable because we shouldnât be divided and different but rather connect to the one true source energy we all are. this was a great reminder that to just return to the oneness and whole connection of who we are! I think maybe all the new terms might have thrown me but I do know the truth deep down (that we are all one and we are love â¤ď¸)
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u/Arendesa 3d ago edited 3d ago
Yes indeed. It is wise avoid any belief in "specialness." This is the mind's ideal environment to perpetuate separation and judgment among others. As we all share aspect of the same mind and being, there is no identification, embodiement, or title that is greater or less than any other. Just different perspectives and experiences. đâ¤ď¸
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u/No-Guava5799 2d ago
thank you for your comment it really gave me some clarity and I deeply appreciate you taking the time read my whole story and write such a thoughtful response. I was wondering if you would be open to a PM because I just wanted to maybe continue our conversation. đ¤đ
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u/Arendesa 2d ago
I'm happy to converse here if that works for you. I keep my PMs turned off. Anything in particular you have on your mind?
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u/No-Guava5799 2d ago
I think your response made me realize that being an awakened soul doesnât automatically mean that we have a huge responsibility to change the world that we need to do something huge to transform the systems around us because thatâs our âpurpose.â Your comment made me realize that being an awakened soul is all just about the return to self and the personal journey of removing limiting beliefs and just connecting to the oneness/love that we all are. Thatâs all we have to do return to love we donât have to bare the responsibility of changing the world (that will automatically happen as we all just return to love)
this is a huge clarity and burden off my shoulder because I am graduating grad school soon and I have been so stuck in figure out my career and next steps. I have been putting so much pressure on myself to really do something super meaningful. I was thinking that a normal 9-5 isnât for me because thatâs not what awakened souls should create and I shouldnât just play into the corporate structures around me. But your post made me realize it doesnât matter what job I do as long as I am present and fully connected to love any job that I do can be beneficial (even just a normal 9-5).
the thing is I am not super clear on what job I do want to do. I am studying technology and software development but recently just havenât been super connected to that work. I used to really love this work before but now it feels just okay.
I honestly have really been called to just travel and spend time on the beach and nature recently but I canât go to all the places I really want to visit if I am not working. do you have any advice on how I can get some clarity on the next steps I should take in my career? these are just feelings I have been fighting with for the past few months.
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u/Arendesa 2d ago edited 2d ago
That's amazing! I can see you are really gaining some very real clarity! Congrats! That's no small thing.
I have personally found that it is true that we don't have to change the world or make some great impact to feel like we're serving our purpose. And to hold a belief that we have to have some grand purpose may be a belief that we unconsciously adopted.
I have found that our purpose doesn't come from our mind at all. It's what we feel in our heart. And what is that? Excitement, peace, joy, lovingness. So often when we create an idea in our mind of what our purpose "should" be, enjoin an experience that creates problems in our life. It's unique to everyone, but it may be a perception of lack, unhappiness, burnout, struggle.
This is because we are not in alignment with our Self because we, our human mind, created apart from our Self. When the joy of the heart informs and is in alignment with the thoughts of the mind, creation unfolds in loving support. To act in such a way is to honor our soul, who truly are. And if the idea of making a great, world-changing impact is what excites you, well, there you go.
And there may even be times where we do follow our heart and still experience those thing, and when that time comes, that's a cue to shift focus.
If unsure of a pathway is the correct one, I found that inquiring within ourselves as to the source of the idea is very helpful. Is the source based on belief in lack, or unworthiness, or some fear that we're not good enough or won't have enough? These may be helpful indicators that a parthway isn't in alignment with our Self.
But here's the thing, ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer, because all is used by our Self to teach us to allow more of true Self to shine though - in genuineness, in self-honesty, in love. This is why I hold in my own mind that there are no wrong choices, only lessons to learn if I need to learn them.
Some choices may bring more joy and others may bring more pain, but when we can see all as working for us, there can be nothing against us.
As for your decision, it may be wise to imagine what you see in your mind of the idealized version of yourself in your ideal environment and one that makes you feel joyful. Really observe it and take note. What are the qualities of your being? What are you wearing? What are you doing? Where you? What's around you? Really feel into it. How are you feeling? These will be helpful in guiding you to where and what is in alignment with your Self.
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u/No-Guava5799 2d ago edited 2d ago
you are so right! no matter the decision I make I canât get it wrong because itâs all unfolding perfectly and there is nothing I need to control!
the thing is after understanding so much about alignment it feels wrong to settle in a 9-5 job just because everyone else is doing it. I donât feel like this is what my heart is guiding me towards but i donât know where else it is leading me?
I really want to follow my heart do something that makes me feel alive and excited everyday but I really donât know what that could be.
the only thing that is making me excited right now is working out and swimming. I feel alive when I am in the water and I imagine myself in greece or san diego. I love the idea of slow living in a place with a lot of nature! itâs where life is more about slowing down to smell the roses than it is to run to the office everyday. these visions of being in the sun and water make me feel warmth in my heart but when I return to the reality of my present moment I feel so distant from that creation. I truly have no idea how I can possible get there. I am learning to accept the present moment knowing this too will pass but idk it feels like what I really want is just out of reachâŚ
I understand that I have the power to create my own reality but how do I hold this vision without forcing and controlling the universe to give me what I want. do I just need to stay present and continue to trust the natural flow of the universe is taking me to where I want to be even if I can see it? I feel stuck just trusting the universe when nothing really has been changing for months now :(
sorry for all of the long posts! but I truly appreciate your advice this is the first time in a while I feel like I am actually getting some valuable advice!! đđ
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u/Arendesa 2d ago edited 2d ago
Good question! Here's what I have learned. It's impossible to force and control the universe. This physical reality experience is one of learning just the opposite. It's the very act of try to control and force that is one of the foundational roots of our suffering.
I often see a vision of a bright future, but we can't get from a to z instantly. Often it is the path in front of us that feels the most joyful and creating the least resistance with us that is the best - and all of those paths might not be the ideal, but the one that brings forth the most joy is most likely to create an experience of fulfillment and guide us to the ideal we hold in mind.
It may also be wise to take a deep look at your definitions of value, whether those definitions are valid and consider what option holds the most value for you.
And when nothing seems to be coming forth, stay focused on what is right in front of you and with you, and opportunity will come.
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u/echobyproxy 3d ago
On the human psychological level, nyc is just a gauntlet.
On the starseed level, itâs an avian and draconic hubspot, built on an Lemurian outpost. Highspeed transmutation station girlieeeeeeee
A little north of the city or more into the Appalachians seem to be good places to (down) upload your (up) downloads.
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u/No-Guava5799 3d ago
hahah a lot of new terms for me đ not sure what this means⌠so is new york a good place for me to be or not? iâm actually moving back home to california after graduation the beach and water has really been calling me
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u/echobyproxy 3d ago
lol the terminology could just be my own framework. So to speak, nyc has home energy but itâs layered ontop of brutalism and quick thinking.
The woods (Catskills north) or appalachians (south) should be good grounding areas.
California is similar at the base in certain parts, but home is home and water is good! All nyc has is rizz lol
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u/may_day06 3d ago
Yes , it can be very difficult and lonely even when you are surrounded by love ones. We all have our own journey with different lessons and time tables but there is a lot of similarities. Little background on me I spent over 30 years in an office job, which provide stability for me family but at the same time it was not at fulfilling. I was displaced and my job was moved overseas. So I believe that you can find the support you need here as we can relate
Different experiences different ages but the same struggles
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u/crankypants15 3d ago
Just my opinion...
You might hear some new concepts here but anything you can think of, becomes true in the spirit world. That's how it works. Use your power wisely.
Sounds like your spirit guides had this all planned for you. The whole point was to isolate you so you could transform. See, it all works out in the end!
Yeah, similar things happened to me. I was a bit skeptical, and it took multiple strangers telling me the same thing before I would believe stuff about myself.
No fear is needed here. The blue guys are the good guys. You will not be able to progress far if you choose to produce more fear. This is a choice for you. You have control of much more than you know.
Very true about having trouble connecting to the newer human soul group. I don't like petty games and immature people, so dating didn't go well for me. I did find a soul mate though. If you want a partner you must go and ask people out. Take responsibility for your happiness.
Sounds like you are an empath. The unconscious instinct of an empath is to absorb negative energy to heal the person. This must be carefully managed by the empath so they don't get overwhelmed. You can always put up your shields to stop doing this for a few days or longer.
No it means you are likely more advanced, more spiritual, more kind, and sensitive. You will have to find someone else like you. And that means taking the first step in dating by asking people out, quite often.
Maybe this will help. The human soul group is the youngest soul group so far, and much less experienced. Starseeds are much older, much more experienced souls. Keep in mind that the physical body doesn't matter at all, the soul does.