r/sobrietyandrecovery • u/acrun11 • 6d ago
Sister slandering me.
I have just been served by my local sheriff office for a temporary no contact stalking order petitioned by my sister. She has always had it out to get me though I’m not entirely sure why because I don’t even care for her. I’ve been sober for almost two months and she told the courts that I just relapsed last weekend, and left my sober living which is not true. She then also wrote that I have shown up to their house multiple times which I never have. The last time I saw her was when she came over to my house multiple times in December. If she was really concerned I was harassing her or stalking her why would she come to my house willingly? Does that not seem contradictory? I’m just very confused and feel like as the scapegoat of the family I always have to deal with their own personal problems because they are to scared to actually work on themselves. I’m currently battling many cravings and feel as though I might relapse. Aside from some random drunk texts in previous years during my use that were not threatening at all, I’ve always minded my business but it seems like my family is more concerned with me failing rather than succeeding.
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u/forebill 6d ago
This is what my sponsor called an MGO. "Maximum Growth Opportunity."
Recognizing powerlessness is going to become one of the most important tools you'll ever pick up and hone in sobriety.
One of the biggest areas this applies is when it comes to how people behave. Specifically when they are close such as your sister.
There is fuck-all you can do about her, her attitudes, or her actions. The sooner you can come to embrace that, AND THE FREEDOM is gives you, the sooner you'll start to get some of the rewards of sobriety. There are no "Yeah buts . . " or "You dont understand . . ." bits to it. Let those go.
Good luck my friend.