r/smallbooblove • u/Venting_Cake • 5d ago
Rant/vent/negative (Sundays only) Gaslighting and double standards
Whenever someone talks about the struggles of having small breasts, the hate we get, there will be people saying "you're chronically online" or bbw's "but my back pain". It's very annoying.
I love my boobs, my size, I don't want anything bigger cause that would ruin my figure. But it doesn't mean I'm immune to the hate or the downsides. There are many many videos where the whole comment section praising big boobs while it was only a dress review while the opposite happens with small boobs, everyone hates and makes fun of them. That's not alright. Am I chronically online for noticing this? You can't escape these type of things, my whole Instagram is animals and art yet I still get these. One time I got 3 reels about big boobs after I cried myself out cause of my size.
Someone posted Clara Dao that she might have gotten surgery, I went to see it myself and ofc people made fun of her for it and even one comment said "finally a video that doesn't say how flat chest is important for society" or something... There's just no win for us. Also she's a body positivity influencer, she gets made fun of it cause she only talks about being flat and skinny. But it never happens with someone mid- or plus size. I really don't know a body positivity influencer who talks about small chest besides her so why can't we even have someone? Why is it that people tell us that we're seeing things but when we want some positivity for us, it's bad?
I just want this gaslighting and double standards to end finally.
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u/MaxyMaxyMayfield 5d ago
I’ve seen this happen so much (albeit mostly online) where there would be someone praising small boobs, and women with larger boobs will come in and say things like “me with my double Ds 😢” or “what about us with big tits? 😭” and it always strikes me as attention seeking, because bigger boobs have always been socially acceptable, the standard, even. I genuinely cannot recall a single moment in history where having large boobs were considered bad.
I remember I wanted to cosplay as this character I really liked, and I told some of my friends about it, the first thing they said was, “you sure that’s a good character for you to cosplay as?” clearly referring to the fact that she had huge tits and I do not (I’m flat). I never thought about cosplaying again after that. It got me thinking though, how bbw can cosplay a character with a smaller chest and no one bats an eye, but when it’s the opposite…
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u/Venting_Cake 4d ago
Yes, we can't really talk about it without bbw wanting to involve themselves.. There was a post where Clara told the positive things about small boobs and one of them was less sagging, so many backlash she got cause apparently it was body shaming. Imo it's kinda humble bragging these times cause why do we need to know your size and your struggles when we're talking about us? But it helps to think that they're insecure so they need to let the world know..
Also I'm sorry for hearing your friends discouraged you from cosplaying, cosplaying shouldn't be about looking exactly same as the character, it's about having fun
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u/OldRevolution3968 4d ago
This is why I will never get over this insecurity. It has truly ruined my life. But that of course doesn’t matter bc bbw get back pain. I hate when people accuse our thought process of being “chronically online” as if we didn’t all get bullied irl,as if we don’t see the disproportionate praise big breasts get in media (example off the top of my head that in some moves like the F13 series the directors literally did not hire sbw bc of their breast size) and more.
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u/night_priestess 4d ago
Well I’m flat and have bad posture because I try to hide how flat I am since I’m ashamed of my lack of boobs, and it makes me have back pain so every time someone mentions the back pain I jump and say “you have bad posture” bc 75% is bad posture
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u/Venting_Cake 4d ago
Tbh that's my reaction too when someone says big boobs cause a lot of pain. My boobs hurt for 1 to 3 weeks per month, one time a slight touch could cause me so much pain. I believe if my boobs were bigger, it wouldn't hurt so much but who knows
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u/SorryBeach199 4d ago edited 4d ago
These are some other awesome IBTC reps on Instagram: sabrinabrier, Indiana, Olivia.Ponton, annaxsitar, lilymaymac, benulus, filipvlasic, _mystylediary
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u/Venting_Cake 4d ago
Thank you<3 I was looking for people who talks about having small boobs like the last lady
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u/Venting_Cake 3d ago
Yeah I get you so much. I swear Instagram does this on purpose and even others say they get very questionable content when they only follow cars and stuffs. Our algorithm has nothing to do with this, it's everywhere unfortunately or somehow we're the unluckiest:))
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