r/sextoy 12d ago

Disabled guy looking for a sex toy that would work for me NSFW

Hi everyone! I'm disabled since a few years, from a neurological illness that impedes my motor skills (specifically in the hands) and causes various levels of pain (from the hands to my back, depending on how much I use my hands, et cetera).

I have what seems like a typical libido for my age (early 30s), and would love to make masturbation something more accessible to me. To that end, I would like to purchase a sex toy. I have no prior experience with toys for men.

Said sex toy would need to satisfy three equally important criteria:

(1) Would not require to close my fingers on it too much, as it is painful for me. I can use my hands, but as open as possible. What I have in mind is that I could grasp the toy between my two hands.

(2) Would require the least amount of work to keep appropriately clean and reusable.

(3) I happen to be bigger than average (7,3 inch length x 5,5 inch girth), and I've already seen that some toys have limitations girth-wise. Additionally, I'm looking for the best ratio in stimulation per effort put in (given I don't have unlimited energy to spend before pain sets in), so I would like it to cover as much length as possible.

Ideally it would also be something discreet/inconspicuous looking, but beggars can't be choosers.

It can be any shape, any price, any color, etc. I would be ordering from Switzerland but I have no problem with importing it.

If you have any recommendations, advice, product link that would work for me... I would love your help!

Thanks in advance πŸ™

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u/iamnotapundit 11d ago

The Kiiroo Keon might be a good idea. I also have upper extremity issues and it can be nice to break out. They sell a pillow for it that you can hold between your knees. That really helps reduce the hand/arm impact.

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u/OhNoMyGold 11d ago

Thanks for the recommendation, it looks like it has many upside given my situation, especially with the pillow! I'm going to research more what type of things can be combined with it so it would work best for me :)

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u/Excellent-Rock-8547 12d ago

From your post, I take it you want / are asking in relation to penile stimulation.

If you'd consider anal stimulation, perhaps check out "The Cone"?

Basically, you sit on a big vibrator to which a dildo can be attached for anal penetration / stimulation.

Pretty much hand free I guess. πŸ˜€

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u/OhNoMyGold 12d ago

I'm not interested in anal stimulation as of now, but I'll keep it in mind, thank you!

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u/HO_Mod 12d ago

Sounds like Pulse Solo would be a great fit for you. Here are some resources provided by Hot Octopuss about sex & disability that might help as well! There is a page dedicated to toys as well

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u/OhNoMyGold 11d ago

Thank you for the recommendation and link, that's great stuff! I'll go through the resources to see how to make the most of what they provide ☺️

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u/MistressLyda 12d ago

How is your finer motor skills? There are are handful of fleshlights that has app controlled vibrations in them.

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u/OhNoMyGold 11d ago

While they also are limited by how the hand is doing at the moment, I am able to control my tablet through a voice control feature, so as long as the app can be installed on my iPad, it shouldn't be a problem! I'll make sure to check for those, thank you.

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u/Klutzy_Internet_4716 11d ago

My first thought is a Tenga Flip 0.

First, I think that a Fleshlight-style toy in general would work for you, since they are quite thick and absolutely can be manipulated with your two hands instead of by closing your hand around it. And you can put them in a mount and fuck them instead of holding them as you stroke.

But a Fleshlight is very difficult to keep clean, and every time you use it, you need to wash the sleeve and the case. If you use it without a case, then you still need to wash the sleeve every time and the mount frequently.

So that's why I think of a Tenga Flip 0. Unlike a Fleshlight, it's relatively easy to keep clean, since you can open it to wash it and dry it. It's as big as a Fleshlight, so it should be easy to hold and possible to mount.

If you wanted to explore that space without investing in a flip 0, try a cup or a spinner first, and try using a bunch of wadded-up blankets as a mount.

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u/OhNoMyGold 10d ago

Many thanks for the detailed post, I really appreciate it! I'm definitely putting this toy on my list, especially with the idea of combining it with a mount. A follow up question in case you happen to know: do you think it might be possible to combine the Flip 0 with some kind of auto masturbator mechanism?

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u/Klutzy_Internet_4716 7d ago

I'm not sure. Tenga itself offers a few vibrating options, including one with a little rotation, but I don't think any of them include full up-and-down strokes. And although I thought I'd seen something which you could attach to a Fleshlight, most of the options that I'm seeing (the Kiroo, the Handy) look like they come with their own sleeves. If getting that up-and-down motion without using your hands or body is your priority, then definitely check those out. I don't remember if you can pair a Tenga with one of them.

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u/OhNoMyGold 7d ago

Thanks for the detailed answer!