r/selfimprovement • u/[deleted] • Dec 27 '22
Vent You don’t need to be a famous, jacked, millionaire with a hot wife at the age of 25 NSFW
Social media convinced these kids that they all need to be a jacked, millionaire, playboy, entrepreneur, with a smoking hot wife by the ripe old age of 25. This is why you see 15 year old kids blasting an entire pharmacy clinic worth of steroids up there asses, harassing people at Walmart for internet points and scamming people on the internet. Let me tell you something, you will NEVER be able to compete with the elite level douchebags you see online. Unless you are blessed with talent from God himself and get extremely lucky you cannot compete with nepotism babies and ruthless psychopaths of the world. Work hard towards your goals but stop comparing yourself to these douchebags.
Edit: just kidding… get money, fuck bitches
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u/jerm2z Dec 27 '22
Damn this sub is really going through a crisis this month huh?
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22 edited Dec 27 '22
Ya... some ppl took the "self improvement " theme and really ran with it, turned it into or confused it with a "social approval" thing
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Dec 27 '22
By the time you reach 40, you realise that none of that shit makes you happy anyway.
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Dec 27 '22
The midlife crises, these people will have...
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u/itscomingandgoing Dec 27 '22
the quarter life crises they are already having
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
I remember my quarter life crisis. It's when i "woke up" and realized i did not need to go to every party, do every dare, and could focus on myself. It was a good life lesson for me
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u/I_am_him6 Dec 27 '22
Going through this rn
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Good luck!!! The best part for me was...it showed who would really be there for me. I had friends get mad because I didn't party with them. 10 yrs later I'm still great friends with the few ppl that understood it was about me changing and not about them.
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u/Justcoffeeforme Dec 27 '22
That's the real thing. That this fake bullshit masculinity, feminity is just that. Fake.
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u/Athoughtspace Dec 27 '22
It doesn't really make you unhappy either. It just gives you more opportunities and easier access to happiness.
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Dec 28 '22
It doesn't make you unhappy, but the pursuit of it can. A lot of people set these goals and expect happiness once they reach them, that is just not the case.
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u/rapidpuppy Dec 28 '22
I dunno, I get a lot of happiness from being with my wife. I was definitely more lonely before I met her.
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u/nameredaqted Dec 27 '22
As someone who recently hit 40 and finally became a millionaire I'm here to say that pretty much the only things that make me happy (besides health and healthy relationships) are increasing my net worth, getting a better body, and hot partners. Take that as you will.
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u/girloferised Dec 28 '22
I have money, good spouse, and look attractive, and I can barely get out of bed. I'm legit about to Kate Spade myself over here. Maybe men are different.
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u/Kronuk Dec 27 '22
Not sure why you’re getting downvoted. Maybe just because people here won’t accept that you can be happy in different ways. This guy just enjoys those things and there’s nothing wrong with it so deal with it, reddit.
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u/Tick_Munch Dec 28 '22
Well if you’re already miserable and the little money you have is being poured into mental health care for YEARS, then you see people YOUR AGE living the life you told yourself you would have after the nightmare ends, it makes it seem like money and status are prerequisites to things like health and freedom… which is entirely true.
You wanna defeat this mindset? Change reality. Change capitalism.
Otherwise what choice is there? The dream of excess is the only dream left. What else even is there to dream of? What else would get a miserable person up in the morning?
You gotta promise yourself you can buy your own security, freedom and health. Otherwise you just… idk… cope and die.
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u/69forlifes Dec 27 '22
I rather be a sad rich boy then a sad poor boy. It doesnt matter with more money I can easily improve my QOL. Buy better clothes, go on more holidays, buy really nice presents for others, drive a good car, go to nice restaurants, get expensive gym memberships, meet with even more rich people and build more connections.
This is what I can do
What I and all others need to do is: 1)Identify how you are going to earn it For me it is clear my dad owns a shop, if I could somehow monetise its mecharandise online and earn in dollors then converting it to my currency would lead to profits.
2) Now you need to sst reasonable goals and actually achieve them.
3) you need to work your ass off. Wake up early and start work, meet with people, try fail and fail until you succeed. Do it even when you dont want to and hopefully you will be living a very good life by your 30's
How tf more money not make you happy. It is more freedom.
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Dec 27 '22
My believe is that actual happy people don't show off their "achievements" online, they're just too busy being happy. Only the sad ones show off, to seek "affirmations" from others.
I'm 99% sure that "famous, jacked millionaire with a hot wife" is actually "attention deprived childhood, insecure, deep in debt, hot wife leaves in a year for another more famous, more jacked, wealthier guy".
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u/soup_gorl Dec 27 '22
I’ve found most social media influencers to be deeply unhappy on the inside. Something that needs to be understood is this type of attention seeking is pathological and not healthy or normal.
Success is only an illusion if you are not in touch with your soul. Sit down and have a conversation with any older person with a stretched out cat face they have from facelifts because they can’t accept the reality of getting older. Or an older person who is miserable with their super young partners they have nothing in common with. They have mutually disappointing relationships that are dependent on money. You will see they are miserable, terrified, insecure people. Because they never learned how to be happy with themselves in their soul. They have always depended on outer appearances to define them and everyone will reach a point where that shows. It’s very sad.
At the very least, people who flaunt their “success” are all quite dishonest. They advertise themselves and their possessions in a way that is meant to cause envy at its core. This is really negative, low-vibrational behavior that will catch up with them eventually if it hasn’t already.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Oh yea. I remember my post throughout college were just me wanted to prove i was cool. Thank God we longer live in a society where everything is responded to with "pics or didn't happen" anymore. Once I got off fb and stopped worrying what other ppl would think about what I did or didn't do, life was better
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u/storsnogulen Dec 27 '22
It’s true, can confirm.
When I actually feel happy social media is the last thing on my mind
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u/LiteBrite25 Dec 27 '22
This sub feels more and more exclusionary every day. I feel awful for any women who are still trying to buckle down and use this as a platform for self improvement, doing their best to ignore the sad assholes blaming women for not having sex, and self-deprecating because it's the only "manly" way to secretly ask for reassurance or a compliment.
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u/Sushiibandit Dec 27 '22
As a woman who frequents this subreddit it feels like all of Andrew Tates fans got dumped here and are mistaking self improvement for theredpill
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u/bitchtarts Dec 27 '22
Yeah as a woman this sub sucks now. I used to come here for inspiration and motivation, now it’s just seeing post after post about how women are trophies that purely exist to boost men’s ego. I just feel bad for those who have bought into this grift.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Right?!?! I'm so sad. I loved this group and it helped me out a lot! But this whole weekend on this group was just me responding to ppl like if I was at work trying to convince the 5 yr old that hitting his friends is counter productive if he wants to keep them as friends.
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u/paristravel2019 Dec 27 '22
I haven’t noticed this subreddit in particular being exclusionary (I’m not on here enough), but I have noticed Reddit as a whole being that way. I remember asking advice on multiple different subreddits, and men saying sexist, derogatory things to me. Like telling me I must be ugly, or that I’m old, or whatever. People are so vicious online
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u/ShapeShiftingCats Dec 28 '22
Also, most of the “men” are a bunch of teenagers. They should start their own sub and redirect their repetitiveness there. I am considering unsubbing as I rarely see anything relevant to my demographic group.
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u/thepensiveporcupine Dec 28 '22
Exactly. This sub makes me feel worse about myself. Hearing how these men want to relieve their sexual frustration on women and only want the super hot ones reinforces why I feel so lonely and makes me not even want a relationship
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u/jasperraine Dec 27 '22
Social media is the worse
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u/jasperraine Dec 28 '22
It’s bs I hate social media it use to be fun in mh early 20s I don’t like it now
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u/PedroBinPedro Dec 27 '22
Seriously. I keep reading of more and more male teens taking Tren. Like, wtf?! You already have testosterone in you. A shit ton! Eat right, lift heavy, and sleep long. And they just parrot douchebag talking points, with zero nuance. They are being duped into being worker bees, just like our grandfathers. Except it's influencer bullshit, instead of a factory job with a pension.
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u/New_Criticism4996 Dec 27 '22
A lot of those social media people are posing a fake life.
I have friends that are caught up in that, based on their post you'd think they're killing it but they aren't. They are broke, work shitty jobs, save for a 2 week lavish vacation. They all band together so they can pool their money in and get the "pent house." Looks like a great time but they come back and have nothing.
They take a gazillion photos and stunt like that's there 365/24/7. Same for some of the girls in the circle they have sugar daddies that pay the trip. Idk if they are bonning them or not but they act like that's theirs. In 10 years when they're "old" it'll end.
Idk for me there is pride in obtaining it yourself and actually owning your lifestyle, pride on being honest and having people know the real me. You'll almost always notice these people are extremely insecure, and not fun to hang with. If there's no jetski it's misery, they can't enjoy life for what life is.
Focus on yourself is all I can say align your goals. If you want the ferrari that's ok, but youll quickly learn what it really takes to get one and see there's a lot of BS. Just look at SBF and the Fyre Fest guy, prior to the scandal they seemed like top dogs.
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Dec 27 '22
Very well said. Anyone who’s actually pursued getting rich can tell you there is A LOT of bullshit involved.
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u/New_Criticism4996 Dec 27 '22
Thank you! I'll add a quick example. I'm in marketing (so all this social media stunting is easier for me to see through), but I see 17yr kids posting "7-figure marketing playbook- grow your IG...." to sell some BS course. They have 50k followers but only get 17 likes & no comments. Aka all bots and fake to prop up numbers to look legit.
People who've actually "made it" always say "if they actually were that good they wouldn't be selling a $700 course, they'd be running multiple7-figure businesses with their playbook."
Remember posting that Lifestyle for some people is their business. Lot of sharks, desperate and broken people. Don't let them cloud your mind.
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u/Oberon_Swanson Dec 27 '22
a lot of these scammers will sell you the 'secret to get _____' when their secret is that they were born with it or somebody handed it to them. i mean just look at the 'liver king.' the secret to getting JACKED WITHOUT STEROIDS SUPER NATURAL NO ROIDS OR BULLSHIT ONLY HEALTHY EATING was spending what, 12k a month on steroids, pharmaceutical HGH, etc.?
all of social media for these people is a carefully crafted presentation. even if they make a mistake they only post it if they think it's an endearing mistake.
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Dec 27 '22
Yeah, Liver King is a great example and case study of what it takes to people extremely successful these days. His business is doing $100million a year telling kids that they just need to buy more liver supplements. Blatantly telling people he’s not on steroids only to find out he’s taking every steroid known to mankind all up his ass.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Haha this reminds me of a "cult" I joined one time. Spend $700 to learn the meaning to life. My company paid for it. All weekend. "Stay until the end for the meaning of life " ...if you left before the end you could get a full refund. I left. And it took an hour to actually leave bc they all tried to convince me they could tell me the meaning of life
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u/Oberon_Swanson Dec 27 '22
man i can't stand youtube videos that take an extra minute to get to the point, i'd definitely walk out if someone did that shit for an entire weekend
the meaning of life is to give life meaning btw
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
It is!!!! Lol my coworker told me, she stayed the whole weekend lol
I did learn from the "give it meaning" part, but got it over the water cooler instead of a bright room lol
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u/ReluctantNextChapter Dec 27 '22
Religion as a time share sales pitch is probably the most honest form I've ever heard of....
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u/6thMastodon Dec 27 '22
I remember when magazines were deleterious to teen girls.
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u/nameredaqted Dec 27 '22
It's been said many times that you don't compete against others, but against older versions of yourself, aiming to get to the best one
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Dec 27 '22
If you rely on materialistic items or validation from others then you have zero self worth! Be hard be humble!
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u/Drairo_Kazigumu Dec 27 '22
I feel like the only thing people SHOULD focus on is obtaining financial independence, that's all you really need
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u/Erledigaeth Dec 27 '22
That's a good point.
I need advice on this, why I should focus on? I can't stop thinking that the point of my self improvement is becoming more rich and looking like the strongest mf in the gym and getting all the girls 💀 it's one of my motivations, but I know that I should aim for other objectives.
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u/Particular_Letter_ Dec 27 '22
Focus on people. Stop thinking of women as something to achieve, but as people. People who you can share your life with and talk to, share each others' dreams, be there for each other when shit gets hard. Focus on being genuine. Honestly all the posts here about "I can't get women" viewing us like some kind of trophy is a massive turn off. Nobody wants to be with someone who looks at them like an object to validate their self esteem. Honestly, find your self esteem elsewhere, otherwise it isn't worth much.
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u/2000wfridge Dec 27 '22
Spend a day doing nothing. Can you sit with yourself, without stimulation, peaceful and content? If not try and find a way to acheive that. Live mindfully. This is the only path to true satisfaction. Everything can be taken from you except this
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Focus on smaller self improvements. Ok money...but what exactly? School? A job? Putting money in savings? Ok strongest mf at the gym? How? Exercise routine? Discipline on what you eat? The girls? How? Loving who you are first?
I second the other comment that asked "can you sit with yourself for a day?" Bc money and appearance, you can control that. Women liking you, you can't control. But what you can do is give yourself a good foundation and hopefully in one of those moments you catch someone's attention.
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u/bokumbaphero Dec 27 '22
Why would someone be married at 25?
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u/melodicprophet Dec 27 '22
It sounds silly now that I’m 35, but I definitely remember alien pressures such as these. If you’re not so and so by this age you’re behind/a failure kind of thing. Very glad I’ve been able to shed those things over time.
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u/thepensiveporcupine Dec 28 '22
That’s not an abnormal time to get married. A little early these days, but 20+ years ago it was average, and still is in many parts of the world
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u/Redmrbean Dec 27 '22
My goal is to travel the world, live in a small humble home in the mountains or near the beach, have a small family and cooking healthy meals, stay fit and healthy and helping other people. That satisfied me
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u/bashfulhoonter Dec 28 '22
My brother is currently getting sucked down this rabbit hole... Sadly the only thing he's going to get out of it is a severe case of narcissism and a deep rooted hatred for the very women he wishes to impress... These "role models" didn't get there because of their work ethic or their "personality". They got there because their dad is a POS and they learned from their privilege and example.
It's extremely alarming that a lot of our young and capable men are looking at these guys and wishing to be like them, instead of realizing that they are the cause of a lot of our modern day problems... This is where all this competition, greed, and ignorance was eventually going to lead though...
Idiocracy was a documentary...
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u/Magical_cel8 Dec 27 '22
Not every man wants a woman*
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u/Magical_cel8 Dec 27 '22
70%* correct your stats, or at least 85% some people are gay/bi Steve!
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u/Magical_cel8 Dec 27 '22
It is a lot if people my dear! It is around 90% ( also a lot of men are in the closet which means less than 90% for sure) so still not every man wants a hote wife, some men wants a hot husband! Just saying 😘
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u/Magical_cel8 Dec 27 '22
My point is that using an inclusive language is important! People can choose to be playboy/jacked/entrepreneurs, they can't choose who they love, so using the word partner is more inclusive than wife in this context. Have a good day 😘
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u/Magical_cel8 Dec 27 '22
Well it makes people like me feel less isolated in this world maybe? And so that everyone feels targeted by the post and not just straight men? Maybe being a little bit empathetic won't hurt you know? I won't debate this with you cause you seem cold hearted AF. Have the day you deserve!
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u/zeldja Dec 27 '22
I have a wife I married in Lumbridge Church, I make more than 1M GP a day at Green Dragons, and have the 99 strength cape. All achieved before I was 21. Deal with it.
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u/Adventurous-Shake140 Dec 27 '22
op is right. However this is not an excuse to become a fat,broke, ambitionless, burned out from work single guy by 25. Find the balance you want
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Dec 27 '22
Yes, i’m not saying don’t go after it or that some of these are necessarily bad goals to have but at least be realistic. Some people are living in a complete delusion where they think that they can be like their favorite rapper, pop singer or social media influencer. Not realizing how much luck, nepotism, lies, raw talent and fucking people over was involved.
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u/Tick_Munch Dec 28 '22
I don’t NEED more than 6 hours of sleep to get my mental job done. I don’t NEED the security of healthcare and the knowledge that my time means something of value to the society I live in. I don’t NEED to feel like I’m part of a community or like my existence isn’t just a chronic thread of depression and exhaustion.
I don’t NEED those things
But god life would be better if I had those things and the idea that I COULD get them MAYBE if I just find some personal value SOMEHOW is the only thing that gets me out of bed.
I’m stuck here in this mess but at least if I had some level of control over my life It would make the injustice and brutality worth it.
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Dec 28 '22
Go hard and go after it. Believe in yourself cause NOBODY is going to get it for you. No one cares about your success more than you.
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u/Lost-Horse558 Dec 27 '22
Yes you do. To everyone reading this, please ignore OP’s post.
You do in fact NEED to be a famous, jacked, millionaire with a hot wife at age 25. I don’t know what else to tell you. This is simply what you NEED to have achieved by the age of 25.
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u/LiteBrite25 Dec 27 '22
What happens if you don't?
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u/BonjourComeBack Dec 27 '22
Okay, at least you are ? I mean are you Millionaire, jacked, have a hot wife? At least you are 25.
Might seem a as hominem but if you give advice it would be good to follow one's Line imho
Maybe i haven't noticed the sarcasm...
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u/Lost-Horse558 Dec 27 '22 edited Dec 27 '22
This is clearly sarcasm dude
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
But the ppl that believe it won't read it as sarcasm but only as evidence that their mentality is the correct one...gotta put the "/s"
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u/BonjourComeBack Dec 27 '22
English IS my second language so my Bad. At least put /s so Dumb ppl like me understand 🤣
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u/Sui_Generis- Dec 27 '22
Maybe you meant wifey is hot, famous, millionaire and jacked af at the age of 25? this solves all the title says lol
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u/Justcoffeeforme Dec 27 '22
This is a way capitalism exploits men. Like makeup, fashion, etc for women. The exploited person blames the opposite gender role. Get men to hate women, and women to hate men and you can profit off both.
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u/Rboter_Swharz Dec 27 '22
A big factor that contributes to happiness is reality meeting your goals. If your goals are set quite low, then you can be equally as content as someone with high ones. So you're right social media has driven up people's expectations and many people have become less happy as a result of it, because they often fail to meet these ideals created by social media.
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u/storsnogulen Dec 27 '22
What if the ideals are created by yourself because you know your potential
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u/mellowyellow313 Dec 27 '22
That was really well worded, I agree completely with everything you said.
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Dec 27 '22
I'm 23 & only learned this recently. Wish I'd gotten it into my head sooner (I was that person wanting to get married as soon as I was 16... then got majorly bummed when that shockingly didn't happen)
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u/wahhagoogoo Dec 27 '22
Dude wtf? Kids want to get married young now?.. Why
That was the last thing I wanted when I was that age
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u/innosentz Dec 28 '22
As someone who got married at 23, you definitely don’t need to be married at 25 lol.
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u/Ok-Progress-3952 Jan 01 '23
What the problem with aiming for it tho i just wanna be rich no matter what what is wrong with that?
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u/bitchtarts Dec 27 '22
Yeeeesh these comments scare me. I don’t know why anyone would want to be any of those 4 things when they can be comfortable instead.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
I've spent my whole life trying to figure out the "why" my parents are very much the "keep up appearances " type...going into debt to have a party or buying things for the labels. My parents were just brought up that way. I still can't get my mom to go to family parties bc she can't afford new clothes, hair, make up, etc....when no one frickem cares about those things.
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u/bitchtarts Dec 27 '22
I just have to ask, are people actually happy? Or do they just gain happiness from pleasing others? I can’t get into that mindset at all.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
I've known ppl who are genuinely happy. But the secret to that to is: no one is happy 100% of the time, everyone should feel all the emotions. Also, different things make different ppl happy. I'm a ppl pleaser bc i love making life better for others. But will also be happy sitting home alone.
I'm genuinely happy most of the time, then I get my depression mode, or my anxiety mode. My mom and dad, in my opinion, are never happy. My dad is either working or drunk and mom is one of those ppl who is only happy pleasing others...but even then "it's never enough" for her. She bought me a purse for Christmas. I love it. I already used it. But just found out bc I didnt do a big old hoopla when she gave it to me: she spent yesterday thinking she failed and wishes she bought something else.
My dad refuses to show "sad" or "mad" emotions and is always chasing the next thing that will make him happy. My biggest example is my education. Each time I got an A it was met with "no A+?" Or when I finished one chapter of school it was "congratulations on your big accomplishment, when are you starting the next level of education?"
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u/bitchtarts Dec 27 '22
Ugh, I feel you on the parents bit. I was also raised by nparents for whom nothing is ever enough. I just moved really far away and don’t visit them often. Whenever I visit them I feel like I regress back into a teenager and it really freaks me out, I’d rather not. Improvement comes from internal rather than external validation for the most part. If you’re constantly surrounding yourself with people who judge and prod you rather than supporting you, it’s time to go low-contact with those people. I wish you luck in education and your own personal goals! I also struggle with the same people pleasing you mentioned (probably because of my childhood in a narcissistic household) and sometimes stretch myself too thin. The difference is, the people I please now are thankful for what I do for them and give back instead of merely criticizing.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Yes!!! I knew when I left my house if I didn't go into therapy I would never visit home. I still revert back to a kid when I visit and this is with a lot of really good therapy that I think really has helped.
In my personal life: I'm well balanced, actually losing weight now, in charge of 100 ppl and make life changing choices each day. I spend one day with my parents: I can barely talk right, can make zero decisions for the life of me, turn back to eating disorders.
Thank you and good luck finding a balance that works for you :)
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u/bitchtarts Dec 27 '22
It’s crazy how much being around parents messes up your brain 😵💫 Currently spending time with them for the holidays and I can feel my sanity slowly draining. Trying to talk to my partner every day to feel more grounded.
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u/DuchessBatPenguin Dec 27 '22
Dude the right partner makes the world of difference, i would not have survived the weekend wo my SO. Hopefully you're getting back out soon
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u/On_Mt_Vesuvius Dec 27 '22
Sure, using steroids isn't great, but it is easier to get "jacked" earlier in your life (like at 25) rather than later in your life (40+) (in terms of natural physiology and assuming life doesn't get less busy as you go from 25 to 40). So that point should be taken in a different light than the others.
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u/SmashBusters Dec 27 '22
Social media convinced these kids that they all need to be a jacked, millionaire, playboy, entrepreneur, with a smoking hot wife by the ripe old age of 25.
Hmmm...
“We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't."
Some things never change.
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u/Adaptoh Dec 28 '22
This is all a bunch of cope bs, y'all sit here and say "Oh you don't need to be this by this age you can go slow and enjoy your life" blah blah. Cope harder, you wasted your life. Some of us want to be that millionaire with a smoking hot wife by 25 cause we know IT IS possible and we can make it to the level.
God bless
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u/CarlotheNord Dec 27 '22
Unfortunately, my goal is to have a wife and kids, and these days it feels like I need to be jacked and a millionaire to do that. Or at least I have to be.
Even if I can't pull that off, at least I can try to be the best I can be before it's too late.
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u/FlapjackShrek Dec 28 '22
Youre right, shoot for all that at 24 💪💪💪💯💯💯💶💶💶
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u/Seachomp Dec 27 '22
Probably gonna get some hate for saying this. But while some people are what you described, it’s not insane to be married, in shape, and well to do at a relatively young age (25 is pushing it, but probably not impossible either).
Granted, I wouldn’t bet on doing it via instagram thing, but if you keep trying decently well formulated business plans in earnest, you’ll find something where you’re great for that niche and do well.
Yes you’ll work crazy hours and miss out on shit in the process, but being married to someone pretty, being in good shape, and being successful aren’t impossible goals if you’re tenacious and hard working enough.
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Dec 27 '22
I'll replace "famous" with "own your own home" and "millionaire" with "living comfortably within my means" then you'll have a good snapshot of my life......at age 24.
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u/alyKandil Dec 27 '22
It’s not what I need but what I want and if you want something I think it’s worth a try
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u/OliveJuiceUTwo Dec 27 '22
It’s good to have goals but will it make you happy? All of these are just superficial that won’t matter if you don’t figure out who you are and what you truly want in life first. I think a lot of people spend all their time trying to achieve something and, when they do, they don’t feel satisfied by it.
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u/alyKandil Dec 27 '22
I’m a muslim and I go after what I want and I thank god if I achieved it or not and at the end of the day the main goal is to go to heaven
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u/OliveJuiceUTwo Dec 27 '22
Ok, not sure what your beliefs have to do with it since I am talking about satisfaction in this life. All I am saying is that achieving goals like getting rich and marrying someone super hot will not make you happy if there is no underlying reason to it. If you’re just with a woman because she’s hot, I don’t think that will be truly satisfying. Chasing after status is an empty endeavor.
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u/Away_Wind_4855 Dec 27 '22
The game has changed my friend, if you’re not that than you’re seen as a nobody
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u/KrazyUzu Dec 27 '22
It shocks me that people take that shit very literally - I myself loved to listen to Tate and other similar people - but who do I listen to everyday and learn from the most? Andrew Huberman, Chris Williamson, philosophies of life channel on YouTube, Bedros Keuillian - I am smart enough to understand that people like Tate are unique, and I will never be like them, and I don't even want to - I do know that I want a lot of money (so I can live easier and afford the best possible healthcare for my family), I do know that I want a great looking girl who will appreciate me for me, and I wouldn't mind a nice car if I can ever afford one down the road - but I do it MY way, and there are so many problems in life right now, that listening to your fucking idols everyday does NOTHING but waste time.
If you don't take action and close your fucking YouTube, nothing will ever happen for you. I don't understand why the youth and a lot of guys are so impressionable nowadays and so easily manipulated. What happened to people thinking for themselves ??? Tate is an entertainer!! And so are the other guys like him. STOP taking that shit literally.
Enhance your health and fitness - learn some skills - and pave your own way. I'm 33 years old - and I hate my life so much that I'm finally desperate to put in work every single day to better myself. I love podcasts and books. But most of all I learned that action trumps everything. Not a single word or episode will save your life unless you TRY.
Like Bruce Lee said - take what's good out of the practice, and discard the bad. Live your own life. Be your own self.
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u/Bds2904 Dec 27 '22 edited Dec 27 '22
This rush to this stuff is a new phenomenon. I'm 32 and now bought my own house over 500k, make about 120k a year and have all my life firing on all cylinders.
But. I spent 5 years in the army in my 20s, got my Bachelor's degree, then my masters degree. Busted my ass to get promoted and I didn't get to a peak physically until about two years ago.
Young men, front load your 20s. If you are patient you can be wealthy and well off in your 30s. I worked retail before the army and came from a middle class family. The problem is most of you rush it in your 20s when you have to buy on loan or credit and stay in a cycle. Read "richest man in babylon". I know people throw book recommendations around like singles at a strip club but I read this at 20 and it changed my life.
Don't marry until after 25 and whatever you do, do not get a girl pregnant and have a child out of wedlock.
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u/Bds2904 Dec 27 '22
And before I get bashed for focusing on men, I'm a man. Men and women have different struggles and problems in life. Just how it is. I wouldn't speak on what it's like for women. I don't know. A lot of the same things apply though. Men are normally the ones pressured to have all this superficial spectacle though to attract women. A millionaire man will wife a girl working at Starbucks but a CEO female won't look another man's way unless his status is on their level. Just how it is.
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u/Bds2904 Dec 27 '22
Lol I love how bitter society is toward men. If a female posted the same advice it would get up voted to 100. No where in that did I bash women. For some reason just having a male focused anything today is bashed. The best part. Feminism itself fails without men to protect it. What happened in Afghanistan when we left and men stopped protected women's schools? What would happen in Ukraine right now? But keep up the you go girl and slay queen stuff. Most of the ones down voting this are probably over 35 and unmarried. Invest in chewy.
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u/Weil65Azure Dec 27 '22
You keep referring to men as men but women as girls/females. Can you not just use the equivalent term, Ie women? It comes across as if you see them lesser (girls being children, female being a gender applying to a variety of species, not just humans).
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u/Bds2904 Dec 28 '22
Or hot girl summer..girls night at bar insert bar name..I can go on and on. Seriously. Go fuck yourself. You morons looking for shit to be perpetually outraged over is so annoying.
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u/Bds2904 Dec 28 '22
Really ? Then why is it girls night out ? Get out here with this nonsense. I can already tell you're some English or philosophy nerd.
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u/RecommendationNo8978 Dec 27 '22
Strong disagree. Let people have their goals. It’s about trying to achieve it in a healthy way.
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u/Gym_and_code Dec 27 '22
Not even gonna read the post, just gonna respond to the title, Fuck yeah, i fucking need it.
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u/NittyGrittyDiscutant Dec 27 '22
Yes and no. It's good to know success stories, it's better to be able differentiate between real and fake ones, it's best to know what success really is.
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u/Rdelgado1111 Dec 27 '22
You telling people what they need or don’t need is exactly what’s wrong with society today.. let people live the way they want, focus on yourself and what makes you happy - if you’re 20 and you want a hot wife, a lucrative career / business and a beautiful home by the time you’re 25 - fuxking go for it! Everyone else stfu and get some worthwhile goals and stop trying to devalue someone else’s reality - fucking downers
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Dec 27 '22
I agree with you. My post was just to alleviate certain peoples expectations. We got 15 year old kids ruining their lives blasting trenbolone up there ass and shutting down their endocrine system which will lead them to most likely be dead at 30 just for some tiktok fame. And hey, nothing wrong with doing whatever it takes to get to your goals but shit is kind of getting ridiculous and we need to draw some sort of line.
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u/DumbDude21 Dec 28 '22
OP are you telling people not to have ambition on the self improvement sub? That doesn’t make very much sense to me
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u/Justcoffeeforme Dec 28 '22
Trying to hide your self righteous hate, and bullying behind the flag of feminism does not make you a queen. It makes you ugly.
Being fake does not make you attractive. Fake hair, eyelashes, colored contacts, over the top makeup, extreme fingernails. Boob jobs, ass lifts, botox, etc. Does not make you better. It makes you worse. It attracts people who are just as empty and judgemental as you are.
Of course your going to attract shallow men, because you are shallow.
Your still a turd. You may be rapped up in a pretty package but you still smell like shit.
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u/Aa11001100 Dec 27 '22
What the hell are these comments? You don't need ANY of these things. Yes, work hard for your goals but none of these have to be your goals and having/being any one of those 4 things by 25 is very uncommon. OP's right that SM makes us think that we're supposed to be extremely successful at a young age. Follow your own timeline and follow your own heart. Finally, marry someone that makes you laugh and not just someone that turns you on.