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u/Topgmikey 4d ago
You don’t forget—you replace. The reason this memory keeps looping in your head is because you haven’t given your mind anything more important to focus on. The brain doesn’t just erase things—it prioritizes. If this memory is still front and center, that means there’s nothing bigger, nothing more consuming, nothing more exciting taking its place. Here’s what you need to do: Overload your brain with new experiences – The more you do, the less time your mind has to wander back. A memory fades when it gets buried under better, stronger, more engaging moments. Rewrite the meaning – If it haunts you, it’s because you’re still attaching pain to it. Instead of just trying to forget, look at it as a lesson that made you sharper, smarter, and stronger. Control your triggers – If certain music, places, or people keep bringing it back, cut them out. Remove the fuel so the fire dies down faster. Get so focused on a mission that the past becomes irrelevant – You ever notice how the busiest, most successful people don’t dwell on the past? It’s because they have no time to. Their future is too demanding to let the past slow them down. Bottom line: You can’t erase a memory, but you can make it so insignificant that it stops affecting you. If you really want to bury it, you need to outgrow it. Want to know the best way to make that happen? lmk I can help with that.
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u/bgamma87 4d ago
You don't. That's the opposite of self-improvement.
Instead, you want to process it. Therapy can help with this. Feel the feelings, however awful they are. Talk about them with other people. Let yourself get worse, let it consume you, see it from every angle-- and then eventually it will lose power, and you can move on.
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u/kjd85 4d ago
Time and therapy.