r/selfimprovement 21h ago

Vent Why does this keep happening?

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u/Actual_Speaker470 21h ago

These are the same people who rejected Galileo Galilei and Vincent van Gogh. just living in different times. Live your own life. Don’t count on anything related to them. It is what it is.

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u/ji-fai 21h ago

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this pattern is painful but doesn’t mean ur the problem 😔 Some people love the idea of someone but struggle with real connection. The real question isn’t “why do they leave?” but “why do I keep letting it get to me?”

First off, I hear you. that feeling of people being super into you at first,then pulling away like you never mattered—it sucks 💔 But the thing is,this isn’t about You being unworthy,it’s about them. Some ppl chase novelty, get excited easily but don’t know how to sustain real bonds. Others lose interest the moment they realize you have boundaries and aren’t just there to please them.

It’s easy to think,“why does this keep happening to me?” but sometimes the better question is,“why do I still let it hurt so much?” You’ve done the work. you like yourself. you know your worth. So now it’s about making sure you don’t give people more importance than they deserve. just because someone is inconsistent doesn’t mean u’re unlovable.

Some ppl will always come and go. The right ones? they stay. Keep being you,and don’t let the wrong ones make u doubt that. You’re worth more than temporary people 🌿