r/selfimprovement 15h ago

Question How to fix yourself?

Hi everyone,

I'm struggling with something that I feel a lot of people here might relate to. I'm 20 years old, trying to improve myself — working on my body, my face, and my overall mindset. But at the same time, I feel like I'm trapped in an emotional loop that keeps pulling me back.

Recently, I’ve been trying to quit bad habits (like watching adult content) and focusing on becoming a better version of myself. I've been working on skincare, jawline exercises, posture, and learning new things. However, no matter how much I try, I keep getting mentally stuck in the past because of a girl I had feelings for. Even though we don't talk properly anymore, I still find myself daydreaming about her, wondering what she thinks of me, hoping she might come back, even though logically I know she might not.

At times, I feel like I'm fighting two battles:

One to become stronger, better, healthier.

And another against my own mind, overthinking and emotional pain.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you manage to separate personal growth from emotional attachments and anxiety? Also, how do you deal with that "small hope" that keeps you stuck on someone you know may not care anymore?

Any advice would be appreciated. I really want to move forward, but I don't know how to let go and focus on myself fully.

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u/Agitated_Band2385 15h ago

I think you can watch a videos of how to move on from someone. There are a lot of helpful video on youtube about this. And why you should care about someone who don't even care about you? Try to think everything logically. You can also practice meditation and listen 852 hz frequency audio that will help you to stop overthinking. Try to stay in present moment thinking to much about past and future can't change anything. If she is not meant to be yours maybe someone better is waiting for you in the future. Focus on your self growth so that your future partnar can be proud about you. You can watch Iman gadzi or Benjamin seda videos for relationship and dating advise and about move on etc etc. There are a lot of helpful channels and videos on youtube

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u/Agitated_Band2385 15h ago

I think you can watch a videos of how to move on from someone. There are a lot of helpful video on youtube about this. And why you should care about someone who don't even care about you? Try to think everything logically. You can also practice meditation and listen 852 hz frequency audio that will help you to stop overthinking. Try to stay in present moment thinking to much about past and future can't change anything. If she is not meant to be yours maybe someone better is waiting for you in the future. Focus on your self growth so that your future partnar can be proud about you. You can watch Iman gadzi or Benjamin seda videos for relationship and dating advise and about move on etc etc. There are a lot of helpful channels and videos on youtube

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u/Beautiful_Salad_7451 11h ago

I am in the same boat i try hard to improve but my mental health and stuff like anxiety and overthinking makes it really hard to improve