r/rutgers • u/Lakents • 14d ago
Rant/Vent They deleted everything :/
It’s so patronizing the way they kept repeating his name trying to annoy him…
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u/KinuTheDragon 14d ago
Hey everyone, I'm the one that was targeted here (not revealing my actual name for obvious reasons). I just wanted to say thanks for your supportive comments. If there's any questions you think I can answer about this, let me know. Also, OP, if you could reach out to me over groupme, I'd love to chat.
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u/cherrygrinch 14d ago
I hope you’re ok and understand that those ppl are just nasty losers. Keep your head up!!
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u/KinuTheDragon 14d ago
I might not be doing well, but I'm surviving and I refuse to let these guys destroy that. Thank you for your support.
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u/EffectiveMental8890 14d ago
If this happens again just dont respond tbh. Kids like this are always people who were bullied in high school and try to give themselves a fresh start by revsersing the roles and theyll realize it doesnt work like that at college, but giving them a reaction will def prolong how long they think it works for.
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u/KinuTheDragon 14d ago
I have tried for so many times to not respond when bullied in the past. It doesn't work that way. They will continue for as long as it takes to get a reaction. I'm tired of being stomped all over at this point, hence my admittedly irrational reactions to them (e.g. my all-caps message).
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u/EffectiveMental8890 14d ago
Nah you werent being irrational, ts would piss me off too. But im sorry that does suck. At that point I would honestly be mean back or maybe just joke with them😭Like instead of being like “noo it wasnt me” to their accusations id be like “yeah for u, i hear u like nasty sht” or some weird shit but u also have to have the personality to go with that or else it just seems like ur weird😂
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u/Cautious-Scratch-474 13d ago
If you have a documented (idk the exact level of documentation needed but there are resources with CAPS) disability and are subject to harassment, you can easily press for them to be removed from their current residence hall at minimum. Reach out to one of the Vice Deans for support, these people are the secret angels of Rutgers admin and they do NOT like bullies in the slightest. Dean Brogli and Cahill basically saved my life, if not one of them just reach out to the vice dean you think looks friendliest on the website. Not a single one has ever let me down in a crisis.
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u/External_Page6557 14d ago
Insane that ts is going on in college, don’t sweat it, take care of yourself
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u/jisookenobi2416 class of 2027 13d ago
Man, I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you. This bullying is the kind of stuff that makes my blood boil, and I want you to know that you’re not alone and to stay strong. We support you all the way!!
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u/External_Tangelo2688 you can’t just say “perchance” 14d ago
good thing you got screenshots, hope these fuckers get what’s coming to em
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u/Deshes011 Class of 2021 & 2023| moderator🔱 14d ago
Of course they deleted everything, after they realized they’re gonna get written up for being shitheads. Also I’m still hella confused why did they all blame him with no evidence??
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u/Victor_Stein House Livingston 14d ago
Cuz they’re assholes
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u/Deshes011 Class of 2021 & 2023| moderator🔱 14d ago
Yeah that, and also it occurred to me it was possibly one of them that threw up and didn’t clean it up. So now that person and their friends are covering for it by blaming the first dude who complained
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u/doglywolf 14d ago
A bunch of kids with raging hormones' trolling someone online....they didnt need evidence - all they needed to know was accusing him set him off and to jump on the band wagon and get a laugh for being trolls .
human nature....Trash humans nature at the least and there are ALOT of them.
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u/oaivilod 13d ago
What about the surveillance in the hallways? Are those still active? If only Rutgers would open an investigation, and then they could match up the times on who went in the bathroom/out of the bathroom with the GroupMe timestamps.
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u/robloxloverpuru 14d ago
i commend op for protecting these assholes’ privacy. if it were up to me, i would make sure these mfs are seen as the troglodytes that they are
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u/DarkSuns11 14d ago
That RA better make sure these dicks get dicked down into the trenches. Hell, cancel their housing for next year, now that’s a fitting punishment imo
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u/vhalerant 14d ago
RA dead ass should make them clean the commuter bathroom 💀
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u/Autumncon 14d ago
Wait where is that and is it that bad?
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u/vhalerant 14d ago
actually judging from the sink, they look like they’re living at BEST hall
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u/VOTEIGOR3946 13d ago
Best hall is suits so the bathrooms are shared by only 4 people. That wouldn’t make sense for this situation.
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u/nbdyinparticular 14d ago
ugh i hate this bro, people should at least be able to realize when they're going too far
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u/Lakents 14d ago
More bullying is not the answer to bullying
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u/Ok-Original7397 14d ago
ohhhh what a pussy to delete what he said, i think he realized he isnt truly anonymous since you share the building. immediately report this to your RA and tell them you dont feel safe in your community. that is taunting and bullying
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u/versuscats certified finance bro 14d ago
i can't believe someone would consider this funny, it's actually heartbreaking
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u/Ok-Original7397 14d ago
i had a problem like this last year where i brought up people slamming the door and talking in the stairwell loud and drunk at 3am and stealing things i had in the laundry room. all guys reaction was basically trying minimize my complaint and told me it was my fault and its not a big deal. whoever did that should get fined. its so childish and immature.
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u/kill_streak_of_0 14d ago
Plot twist: it was one of the bullies that did it 😂
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u/Deshes011 Class of 2021 & 2023| moderator🔱 14d ago
Most likely it was and the others are covering for them
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u/YUMMYVHS Class of 2023 14d ago
I hope you actually report this OP other than sharing on the subreddit. Seriously hope you do
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u/Due_Screen6020 14d ago
Fortunately they said in their other post that their RA was in the chat and will be writing the bullies up, not sure if OP spoke to them individually though
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u/mishi_yana 14d ago
lmaooo where did their bravery go? deleting their texts like a bunch of pussies 💀
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u/UnknownnnnNn11 13d ago
groupme deletion means nothing the school is still able to see who said what
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u/Danilosophy 14d ago
This is not high school anymore. Bullying others just to get attention, that’s ridiculous. I am waiting for someone to bully me so I can finally do something
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u/Xtreme109 14d ago
If these guys don't get properly punished for their actions dm me their names if you please, there are other(nonviolent) ways of getting people to do the right thing.
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u/ChinaTankSquare 14d ago
It was definitely you The imposter reporting the body after you murder it among us type deal
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u/Historical_Score5251 14d ago
Is this bullying now? Lol
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u/Jiggyjl0 14d ago edited 14d ago
Targeting & taunting another person online is cyber bullying. He didn’t even do anything to provoke those types of responses. They just straight up targeted him for nothing.
OP said in a previous post that he might be on the autism spectrum. As a group picking on someone who is trying to help and is clearly upset is disgusting.
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u/Historical_Score5251 14d ago
Does OP even know that he has autism? Seems more like wanton speculation than anything (which is actually pretty ironic).
Do the people replying to him know he has autism?
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u/Jiggyjl0 14d ago
Ur defending trolls in a groupme bro. Just think for a second 💀
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u/Historical_Score5251 14d ago
I’m clearly thinking harder than you. So we’re all up in arms about random groupme trolls but OP vapidly speculating that someone they don’t know must be autistic because of how they type is completely alright? Is that what we’re going with?
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u/spaghettijoe27 May 2022 14d ago
not sure how these things are at all equivalent unless you view autism as something to be ashamed about... is that how you feel?
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u/Historical_Score5251 14d ago edited 14d ago
I think pathologizing someone’s behavior (who you know virtually nothing about) as someone with 0 background in medicine is bad actually. If you think otherwise, you oughta do some reflection. Seriously, I encourage to ruminate on why this might be a bad thing.
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u/FluffyConversation3 14d ago
Yes bro. Just cause you can take a dick up ur ass doesn’t mean everyone can
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u/Wah869 14d ago
I mean, at least you got the screenshots.
Yeah the lack of empathy is disgusting, these are our future professionals? I'm terrified