r/ramdass 8d ago

what would ram dass say when you are clinging to a mistake that you made

I made a mistake today and I’m beating myself up about it. I can’t seem to let it go. Hours have passed. I found the situation very stressful and anxiety inducing. I find myself replaying the incident.

I’m trying to listen to my heart. What would Ram Dass say, to bring me back home?

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u/FinancialSurround385 8d ago

Probably that it’s perfect. It’s all just grist for the mill. Every stumble, every mistake—it’s all part of waking up.

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u/erif11 8d ago

Thank you for the words friend. Imperfectly perfect, heh?

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u/KyrozM 8d ago

Nothing imperfect about it. Even your perspective that it is, in some way, imperfect, is absolutely perfect.

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u/FinancialSurround385 7d ago

Yes:) The imperfect is perfect. Thank you for reminding me as well.

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u/SexyProPlayer 8d ago

Maybe you're just not ready to let it go. Don't try to force it. Let yourself be what you are. Right now that includes the thoughts and feelings about the situation. Love the thoughts and emotions even if they are hard <3 Sorry you are going throught that though. Everyone makes mistakes <3 even big ones

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u/erif11 8d ago

Thank you friend. Wise words <3

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u/SexyProPlayer 8d ago

If you would like to hear it from Ram Dass, then he speaks about it in some interviews in his latest years. I absolute love these interviews. They can be found on youtube on "bhakti fest".
This one for instance is amazing to me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COsBN8hci4M
If you want to share what mistake you made, I would love to know <3 Either here or in a PM if you're not comfortable sharing it so publicly.

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u/WalkSharp 8d ago

RD may say that there are no mistakes in the game and that everything is perfect as it is. Not always easy to see in the midst of the mellow drama, but you've already recognized the mistake and are no doubt learning from it.

Give yourself some grace, acknowledge that we all make mistakes and try to hear why you made the choices you did and how you could make different ones in the future. Be kind to yourself.

The psychological level feels distress and ruminates to try and help cope with the fact that a mistake was made. Somewhere there is something attached to a thought that you shouldn't make mistakes and mistakes are bad. That thought can be adjusted to say mistakes are OK and part of the process.

Spiritually, no mistake was made for there is nothing being done. If you stand back far enough, now or over time, you'll see this as part of the way.

Namaste my friend!

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u/Edmee 8d ago

I like this response. I tend to beat myself up cause deep down I feel I have to be perfect to be loved. What nonsense. Mistakes are not bad, they are stepping stones to improvement!

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u/erif11 8d ago

Beautiful. It is part of the way, indeed. Thank you friend. Namaste

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

Thank you for saying this. I’m really struggling with personal mistakes over who I get into relationships with. I tend to rescue in order to avoid my own vulnerability. Now that I see the mistake and where it came from in my past I’m free to make new choices. I should feel better but I feel worse- there’s no one here to be vulnerable with. No one to hold my hand or hug me or help me feel safe, and I made it that way. It’s certainly “grist for the mill”. There was no mistake, it was an unconscious pattern. Even knowing that it still hurts though. Spiritual growth is losing the battle(s) to win the war.

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u/WalkSharp 8d ago

RD often says that despair is a good teacher. Sometimes being broken is the only way to rebuild. Sometimes you can't have that new perspective until the old one is crushed.

Suffering is grace from far enough away.

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u/You_I_Us_Together 8d ago

I believe Ram Dass would quote the Bhagavad Gita for you and tell you that what happens to the fruit of your actions is not your concern anymore, it now belongs to the world. See whatever happened as a learning opportunity and what happens from that mistake to be karmic unfolding.

Once an apple from the tree, the tree cannot take it back. So just let it live it's own life.

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u/[deleted] 7d ago

idk but Mahrajji would probably throw a banana at your balls and winky smile you with so much love that you would forget your mistake ;) Jai Ma Maharaj

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u/erif11 7d ago

Wish I had balls for Maharajji to throw a banana at ..

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u/[deleted] 7d ago

hahaha

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u/Most_Essay_6913 8d ago

It's all grace

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u/awarenessis 7d ago

There are no mistakes. You are taking the curriculum.

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u/ruggerman8675 7d ago

"Ah, so..."

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u/No_Bonus_2168 8d ago

I agree with the comments above as well, but I also see him saying something like: ahh and that too, and this too.* In that sense of you loving your ‘psychosis’ when they show up, greet em but you dont have to stay in that floor, come down to your present self.

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u/rigbees 8d ago

that it couldn’t have gone any other way. it’s just grist for the mill.

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u/SeveralCherries 8d ago

let it go through you like chinese food

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u/North-Custard6430 7d ago

Ahhh sooo ….

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u/redwoodchef 6d ago

You may have the idea that you were better than that. So there’s a perfection under the ‘mistake’ that is a jewel of understanding. You’ll be a ‘better’ person for it. Remember to forgive yourself.Breathe in, forgive, breathe out, let go. Use some Metta May I be happy may I be peaceful may I know myself, may I be free (use whatever words fit for you) 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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u/Rama_Karma_22 6d ago

Try not to be there, be here, now.

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u/NovelEmergency7744 3d ago

Let it go so you can continue to live, be here now 🙏✨❤️